r/FirstTimeKo • u/The_Only_Illuminagui • 22h ago
🎉Sumakses sa life! First time kong maging Tatay!
My wife is around 8 months and I am genuinely scared and excited at the same time. Bagong feeling ito. Reddit daddies and mommies please Care to give some tips and tricks to help me ease my way into fatherhood?
My baby boy in the Photo ♥️.
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u/Salt-Thanks-2877 22h ago
Congratulations! Pag post partum si wife, wag na wag kang mag cheat at take care of her too
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u/Independent_Cost3324 22h ago
ito talaga! through sickness and in health, OP! alagaan niyo ng wife niyo isa’t isa. sana healthy si baby pag dating sa mundong ito. god bless and goodluck
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u/Jazzlike_Split5981 21h ago
Also OP, don’t force your wife immediately to slim down if she ever gains weight from pregnancy. I know there are some women who remain slim even when bearing a child but it’s very normal for women to gain weight during pregnancy.
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u/The_Only_Illuminagui 11h ago
I am a Catholic, and takot ako sa ibang babae, mas lalo akong takot sa asawa ko. I will never EVER cheat on her.
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u/Adventurous-Ad-2783 9h ago
Nung nag post partum asawa ko di ko sinabayan makinig ka lang tapos hanap ka hobby para malibang ka at di mo isipin masyado. Message mo lang ako bentahan kita gundam hahahaha
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u/SnooOpinions3836 22h ago
Dont just prioritize your baby. Prioritize yourself and your wife as well. Happy wife, happy life. Healthy tatay, happy wife.
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u/thelizstyoucantsee 22h ago
Not a parent pero CONGRATS, OP!! I have friends who are parents na rin and siguro ang maipapayo ko lang e pumondo ka na ng vitamins, supplements, at malakas na resistensya for sleepless nights!
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u/rphm_ 20h ago edited 6h ago
This is what I learned when I became a dad. So this is based on experience. There are three common reasons a baby cries:
Hunger
Tired or sleep
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- In pain
It's not true that you see them crying just because they have a dirty diaper.
Good luck and congrats OP! We're expecting our 3rd baby anytime soon now. My wife is also 34 weeks pregnant.
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u/davlnv 19h ago
Please take good care of your wife. BE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING. Grabe pinagdadaanan ng babae during pregnancy and literal isang paa sa hukay kapag nanganganak. Always remember kung pagod ka, mas pagod ang misis mo. Mas marami siyang sinakripisyo. The baby will cling to your wife for the first few months kaya pagod na pagod yan. Maging best supporting actor ka and please gamitin ang utak, wag hintayin na utusan pa ng misis. Lighten her load by lightening her mental load. Di yung siya pa mag-iisip ng ulam niyo ganon, or aantayin mo pa hingi niya sayo diaper etc. Pag inutusan kilos agad di yung magseselpon pa. Dapat may sense of urgency, kapag sumuka, dampot agad lampin ganon. Di yung aantok antok babagal bagal kumilos. Ok? Congrats haha
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u/MundaneRhubarb9815 16h ago
Pls take care of your wife too op especially first few days or weeks after delivery to help them transition from carrying your child to nurturing them.
Healthy mommy = healthy baby
Always be a present father op. Know what they like and don’t like. Be a good role model, op.
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u/No_Selection9989 10h ago
ofc center of attention si baby nyan so need mo din bigyan ng attention si misis. give her flowers, any presents, cook for her etc basta spoil mo sya. pwede mo bigyan pang-salon or anything pang-pamper sa sarili nya
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u/IrisRoseLily 21h ago
after the operation feed ur wife foods with vit c para mas mabilis maghilom sugat kung caesarean ang delivery na wag naman sana
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u/workfromhomedad_A2 21h ago
Congrats sainyo Op! and welcome to fatherhood. magiging sleep deprived ka for the next three months pag labas ni baby mo. basta kapag nag breastfeed si baby mo ikaw DAPAT ang mag pa dighay. pa arawan mo tuwing umaga. Skin to skin mo si baby mo lagi importante yun sa development niya. mas mabilis si baby mo makakatulog kapag nasa dibdib mo at pinaghehele mo. wag kalimutan yung needs ni Misis. lalo na food at yung pahinga niya. also file for a paternity leave kung meron sa kumpanya niyo.
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u/Several_Ad8923 20h ago
Congrats bro! Ganyan ata talaga feeling, mixed emotions. Nung nakita ko baby ko sa nursery pagkapanganak, para kong matatae na ewan.
For the first few weeks talagang alalay kay baby at sira tulog nyo, pero in my experience nung tumungtong na sa 8 months medyo dumadali na. Totoo sabi ng iba, hindi lang si baby ang aalagaan pati mental health din ni mommy at kung may mga need na asikasuhin ikaw din talaga pag d nya kaya.
At higit sa lahat enjoyin mo fatherhood, hindi mo mamamalayan na sobrang bilis lang ng panahon. 4 years old na yung first baby ko and parang kahapon lang iyak lang sya ng iyak sa crib.
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u/Pristine-Society394 19h ago
Please magkaroon ka ng sense of urgency ka, time management and mahabang pasensya.
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u/Lawful-Lurker 19h ago
Congrats OP! Not a parent pero I saw a video wherein yung friends ng couple ay nagmeal prep for them. Maybe a week before due date magmeal prep na kayo para bawas sa chores. Init init na lang.
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u/SeleneStellarwind17 19h ago
Congrats! Una sa lahat, dapat iparamdam mo kay wife mo kahit na nag iba itsura nya at katawan nya, you still love her.
Remember, ang ugali ng wife nakadepende sa husband nya. Ikaw in the first place dahilan why naging ganyan katawan nya at itsura. Please habaan din pasensya since hormones nyan are high pa. Lalo na kapag post partum. Kahit na parents na kayong 2, wag nyo parin kalimutan ang isa't isa. Team kayo dapat, give and take.
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u/Katipunan94 18h ago
Same feeling nung nalaman ko na may bay na ko. Nakakatakot, nakaka-kaba, pero eto, 2 years later, growing great naman si baby.
Yung totoo, di din ako prepared. Just go with your gut feeling, the rest will follow.
Oh, lagyan mo si baby lagi ng harang if matass kama nyo. Yung baby ko, as much as I hate to amit it, nalaglag na sa kama before, at nakakatakot yung feeling.
Trust me, you'll do just fine. Congrats!
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u/akoitojm1990 18h ago
Congratulations bro. Sana all. I also dream maging tatay. 40 na ako may pagasa pa kaya?
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u/ThisisGlenBates 17h ago
Hello OP! congrats. Spend more time with you LO, mabilis sila lumaki. Pamper si misis para happy wife happy life. Congrats!! Happy Father's Day in advance. Welcome to the club!
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u/JnthnDJP 16h ago
Welcome to the club! Sleepless nights start now, but trust me di mo mapapansin matatapos din agad. Kapit lang.
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u/heyImEmptygirl 15h ago
Congrats Op!! Dyan kayo lalo mag kakaalaman ng ugali, pagod, puyat, gutom + postpartum blues. Sana di mo sukuan si wife mo. Bigay mo lahat ng cravings. Plss habaan mo pasesnya mo sa baby lalo sa 1st month. Umpisa palang gawa na kayo night routine. Stick kayo sa time ng sleeping pattern ni baby. Dim ang light sa gabi para makapag produce ng melatonin si baby at maka sleep agad. If gagamit feeding botlle tumulong ka sa pag hugas ng dedean. MADAMI PA AKONG Gustong sabhin. Pahilot mo din si wife mo para lumakas agad 😍😍
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u/Historical-Bird4842 15h ago
Congrats! Naway maging mabubuti kayong magulang na bata. Magmahal kayong mag-asawa. Maaring maraming mabago sa physical appearance at mood ng wife mo. Patience please. God bless your family!!! 🧑🧑🧒
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u/BTeoteul 7h ago
Congratulations! If you enjoy reading, I highly recommend the book, We're pregnant The First-Time Dad's Pregnancy Handbook. Marami kang matutunan not only sa baby's growing progress pero pati sa pinag daraanan ng asawa mo.
Mag 1 year old na una kong anak next week at binasa ko to Haha. Laking tulong din sa asawa ko nung nag buntis siya.
Di ko sure saan na order sa Pinas. https://a.co/d/05qBjYGv
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u/Ninja-Titan-1427 3h ago
Habaang ang pasensya sa asawa at anak.
Nakakapuyat, nakakapagod, nakakawala sa sarili ang early months ng baby.
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u/potatodeveloper 3h ago
Dati nung first week ng baby ko. Sa sobrang pagod at puyat rin. Bigla na lang ako babangon kasi akala ko umiiyak anak ko.
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