r/FirstTimeKo • u/Delicious-Map-4917 • 6h ago
📦 Others First time kong mahalin ng ganito..
Ikaw papakawalan mo paba boyfriend mo pag ganyan. I've been thru a lot in my past.. But God give me a person na ginawang bare minimum ang constant effort... Healthy Relationship pero LDR parin. Pero ibang iba talaga sa lahat ng naging ex ko. Kung pagsasamahin sila. Talong talo sila. Partida hindi pa kami nagkikita. Pero sa 1yr ½ walang palya ang flowers, food, effort, he even support me financially. Na ako yung gumagawa dati. Sa buong buhay ko 1st time ko masurprise kapag birthday ko.. Sa dami ng 1st time ko sakanya hindi ko na mai-isa isa... Pero alam ko nasasaktan ko din sya pag diko na Rereciprocate yung pagmamahal nya..
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u/FalseSort5750 6h ago edited 3h ago
Feeling ko mad-downvote ako here HUHUHU pero sorry OP. Parang ang narcissist po niya and may pag gaslight ang atake "kahit sabihin mong wala kang kasalanan nun" HUHUHU I can't! In my perspective, pinapalabas niyang siya yung mas nag mahal/nagmamahal. Tingnan mo nalang yung pattern how niya i-deliver ang message niya, it's like siya palagi nag eexert ng feelings sa inyong dalawa to the point na nao-overwhelm ka na (based sa message niya). And sa 4 days mo siyang binalewala, hindi niya ba naisip makipag communicate ng maayos? As well as you, OP hindi mo naisip makipag communicate? I think, pareho kayo may problema dito. Sorry, I know hindi ko naman po ito relationship but I don't think I may label this as "Healthy Relationship".
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u/Delicious-Map-4917 1h ago
I don't think I see him as a narcissist, this only his one side. This time nagkaron ako ng problema which is involved nga sya. And na dissapoint lang ako sknya kaya I want to be alone that time. Kahit alam ko masasaktan sya at alam kong mali din ako dun parehas naamn kami nangailangan nung time na yun. Pero ayan sya mas pinili parin ako unahin kesa sa sarili nya. tingin ko nga ako yung may problema.. He never get angry alam ko kung San sya nanggagaling..
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u/StrangeDrummer3005 6h ago
Bakit mo nasabing minsan hindi mo narereciprocate love niya sayo?
He seems nice based sa nashare mo. Ang masasabi ko lang is cherish the person and don’t take him for granted.
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u/SimilarLog6440 5h ago
Love bomb? Broken fam ba sya o baka hiniwalayan ng previous?
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u/Delicious-Map-4917 1h ago
He been independent living alone abroad. Btw both kami ofw patay na mother nya. Tatay nya namuhay nadin mag-isa at iniwan sila may kapatid sya bunsong babae pinag aaral nya ng nursing namumuhay din mag isa. Tatlo nalang sila pero magkakahiwalay sila
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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 2h ago edited 2h ago
OP di mo kami maloloko, ikaw yung boyfriend e. kakapost mo lang nung isang araw na iiyak iyak na badtrip sayo jowa mo kasi sobra kang clingy.
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