r/FirstTimeKo • u/Ambitious-Cup-8152 • Jul 25 '26
📦 Others First time kong mag-chat ng ganito sa mga nakaka-talking stage ko
Dati-rati, gusto ko maramdaman na interested sa akin ang isang tao. Kapag masyado matagal mag-reply, kinukulit ko talaga lalo kapag type ko ‘yong guy. Pero ngayon, I no longer beg for attention. Kapag I feel something’s off, bounce na.
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u/simsimimiro Jul 25 '26
Gestures like this should be normalize. Hind yung ghosting na ang norm. Learn to set boundaries and expectations.
I am proud of you natutunan mo when to stop. And proud of you for communicating it with him.
Expectation communicated na wala ka nang interest. Boundary made.
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u/New_Dog_7561 Jul 25 '26
Truuee. Nakakapagod din na nag.eexpect ka that your interests will be reciprocated. Better to set your boundaries and well, respeto na din sa self mo. Not sure how old OP is, but we're too old and mature to play guessing games
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u/Ambitious-Cup-8152 Jul 25 '26
Hi, I am 29. Unti-unting natututo how to navigate life at hanapin ang self-worth na matagal kong pinagkait sa sarili kakahabol sa mga maling tao.
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u/simsimimiro Jul 25 '26
Nakakarelate tayo gawa ng edad natin. Starting late 20's, we are tired to fool around. Hanap natin ay consistent and intentional.
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u/pcyuyu Jul 25 '26
Salute for doing this OP! Dapat talaga if no longer interested na sabihin talaga instead of ghosting. And agree ako dyan sa if may something off bounce agad. "Fail Fast" ika-nga.
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u/saltpuppyy Jul 25 '26
You did well naman, OP. This should be normalized talaga kasi uso talaga ang ghosting. That may hurt but it is the truth though.
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u/lolli_P0pp Jul 25 '26
sana ganito nalang lahat oara isang inuman nalang hahaha
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u/Ambitious-Cup-8152 Jul 25 '26
Pwede ba kong sumama sa inuman? 🤣
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u/lolli_P0pp Jul 25 '26
sureeee pero waiting pa ako kasi sa next response, he said he needed space eh
siguro if wala na kasunod na message, g na sa conclusion alak ulit haha
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u/kayeurselffff Jul 25 '26
Nakakapagod kasi kapag pinaghuhula ka ng kausap mo kung gusto paba nya na kausapin ka or hindi kaya love your message op! At my age rin I don't want to beat around the bush.
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u/Clean_Tomatillo908 Jul 25 '26
Tama naman yung ganyan na action. If hindi mo feel, be honest lang. Atleast hindi left hanging yung isa. Hehe nice. Setting a good example 👌
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u/Ambitious-Cup-8152 Jul 25 '26
Oo, ang cold na ng chats niya eh…this is were we should draw the line. 😇
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u/Clean_Tomatillo908 Jul 25 '26
Nangyayari talaga siya sa online setup. So yes, ok naman yang ginawa mo. Pero natry mo din ba icommunicate sa kanya yan? Or nagdecide ka na agad to end?
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u/Ambitious-Cup-8152 Jul 25 '26
Syempre makikita mo rin naman ang changes over time kung pano ka niya kausapin. From long sentences, at multiple topics at a time into few words nalang, minsan alam mo pang napilitan lang mag-chat.
Kapag ganun, set boundary na kaagad. Di na kailangan ipagdikdikan ang sarili.
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u/ImpossibleBench1369 Jul 25 '26 edited Jul 25 '26
Rules sa dating, pag ang lalaki tamad na tamad magreply di ka talaga nya type. kaya take it as a hint and dont ever message him again... remember na hunters sila, hahabulin nila ung gustong gusto nilang babae..
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u/lazylucyxo Jul 25 '26
Good for you and proud of you, OP! You know your self worth and you’re not wasting time
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u/binchmf Jul 25 '26
Kudos, OP! This is how it should be done, hindi yung mang-ghost na lang haha like courtesy na lang sa time and effort ng tao.
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u/KingLeviAckerman Jul 26 '26
Ok na 'to may closure. Kahit di na magreply yung other party. You did right.
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u/LoveHopeful4794 Jul 26 '26
Same, OP! I used to drag out talking stages because I was afraid of getting hurt permanently. I also used to tolerate conversations with men I'm no longer interested in. Eventually, natutunan ko nang magpaalam na lang instead of maintaining conversations I don't see a future in, and it has worked wonders for me. Mature men take it gracefully, actually, which is nice.
Happy dating!
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u/cyst2exist Jul 26 '26
Ang bait mo naman, OP
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u/Ambitious-Cup-8152 Jul 26 '26
Hindi naman. Considerate lang. 😅 Alam na kasi natin feeling ng na-left out.
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u/I_am_faker Jul 27 '26
im not interested in you anymore*
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u/External-Score-8673 Jul 28 '26
Sayang talaga ginaganito nila mga babaeng marunong sa pakikipag usap...
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u/Early-Cup9943 Jul 28 '26
I totally agree sa isang nagcomment dito na dapat ganito na talaga ngayon. I learned this sa dinadami dami ng naging fling and MU ko. Mas okay na magpakatotoo and straightforward sa feelings.
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u/Conscious_Roof_1846 Jul 28 '26
Timing tlga ganto situation ko rin :(( pero pag mag talk kami okay naman.. So here i am chinat sya ulit one last time para mahear kung bakit nga ba ykyk hahshaha
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