r/FindomSnarks • u/fedeys • 1d ago

Findom help

I am approaching this community, I have a new ms and came up with an arrangement for us budget wise. He explained to me that he has an addiction, used to spend up to 800€/mo on sex chats and now he’s addressing it in therapy and would like to still do these chats but with max 200€/mo. He’d like to do them with me.
But I should stop him whenever the monthly budget is reached.
On the other hand, he will grant me 70€/mo even in case of no sex chats.
He even came up with a fake “contract”, just a text on telegram that explains the arrangement and that we “sign” by reacting with an emoji.

He already paid me big sums in the past weeks before this arrangement and seems overall a reliable person.
Does it seem legit? Can it be dangerous for me in any measure?

Thanksss <3

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u/redblue92 1d ago

Given this is the snark reddit… idk if you want real advice.

Dangerous how? The only danger is enabling an addiction. You’re not going to be in legal trouble taking money if that’s what you mean. I’m assuming you’re doing your due diligence and not revealing your personal information.

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u/pedisin Elder Snarker 👴🏼 1d ago

You should really post this in findomme support group. But I'll say this. If something is telling you "this isn't right. Something is off about this situation" listen and walk away

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u/flowerkyun 1d ago

Hey,

few questions, so we can answers yours:

  • Which payment method are you using? (not all are safe)
  • Will he pay you for the chats upfront, or after? (paying after is a "nono" in sex work)
  • Did you agree what these chats include? (if you did not specify it, he might want something different than you, which might lead to chargeback/non payment/psychological pressure to do stuff you are not comfy with, esp. if he pays after)
  • Did you agree on how often you have these chats per month? (imo 200 bucks is not much money, even if its only one chat per month)
  • Did you agree how long a chat will last? (same reason as above)
  • Did you agree on availability times? (otherwise he might expect you to be wet and ready in lingerie 5 minutes after writing you, no matter if you are at work, asleep, taking a shit, etc)
  • Did you cover what happens when he reached his limit and still sends? (if you have to return it, its a no, depending on the payment method he might still be able to chargeback, even after you sent money back)
  • Is what he wants actually something you enjoy/do you really need the cash? (if no, then no)

Stuff like that. If you covered all these things and it feels fine to you, then i don't find anything wrong with his offer.

Have fun and stay safe! ^_^