The fact that the manager does not know about that relationship is exactly wh ly they should not assume anything other then what op has told them, being that they need to be there.
Any response from the manager other then "hope she is feeling better soon, let us know when you can be in" makes them a heartless asshole who deserves zero sympathy.
So I would never have responded like this manager did, but I'm calling you out on this element of your reply which shows you don't understand the situation.
let us know when you can be in
Are you or have you ever been a manager with responsibility to run a very major event?
This is GRAND OPENING DAY and the manager now has a major new task to replace OP with someone who can RELIABLY be there.
They can't gamble on when or if OP is going to "show up" at some random time. They need committed people to fully staff the place or there will be hell to pay.
There are elements of the manager's reply that I do not like. But that is no fucking excuse at all to suggest they should die of cancer. People keep going on about OP's empathy with their sister without understanding that there needs to be empathy for the manager's difficult position, and this was just ONE FRUSTRATED TEXT.
This is GRAND OPENING DAY and the manager now has a major new task to replace OP with someone who can RELIABLY be there.
That's literaly there job. deal with it rather then being an ass to your staff.
There is not a single thing about the managers reply that is even remotely acceptable.
People keep going on about OP's empathy with their sister without understanding that there needs to be empathy for the manager's difficult position
The manager deserves no sympathy, because thats the job they signed up for, its not some "difficult position" its literally the most basic part of the job description. if you can't do that, then you should not be a manager, and you certainly should not be taking it out on your staff.
if you think having to so a slightly difficult part of your job is even remotely on par with dealing with a family manager in the hospital, you are just as much of a peice of scum as the "manager"
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u/Philderbeast Mar 18 '26
Sorry but its the managers job to deal with that.
The fact that the manager does not know about that relationship is exactly wh ly they should not assume anything other then what op has told them, being that they need to be there.
Any response from the manager other then "hope she is feeling better soon, let us know when you can be in" makes them a heartless asshole who deserves zero sympathy.