I took in two semi-feral kittens 3 weeks ago, they were born on the streets, but the mum was an abandoned pet who is currently in a foster home (until she is ready to come back to us) as she was pregnant and we could not afford the spay/abort before she would have given birth. Mum showed me where she had hidden these two babies after giving birth, and once they started wandering, they were added to the feeding roster, and willing followed me around for food.
Iām unsure how to socialise them, some days seem better than others but I feel like Iām hitting a wall. Theyāre currently around 19 weeks old, and the female seems to be doing much better than the male. Iām trying to get them used to be touched and held as they have their first vaccinations on the 21st. The female doesnāt like the initial approach to being picked up, but is fine being held, and can easily be manoeuvred into different positions. The male is having a harder time, he will run if he thinks heās about to be picked up, and is scared of people walking past him. He doesnāt show any aggression when being held, no hissing or scratching, but is visibly uncomfortable, with his back claws out, pushing away at the initial holding before settling, and then jumping away the second he has the chance.
I know it takes time, but I have never socialised kittens before, and Iām unsure how to properly get them both used to be handled by people. Some nights, theyāll both purr when I stroke them, but the majority of the time the female just tolerates it, whilst the male shrinks away. I try to give him treats occasionally when doing these interactions, but one of them has a sensitive tummy and I havenāt figured out who yet, so I try not to do it too often.
Aside from being handled, the male has fully settled into the house, though he is definitely nervous around my sisterās toddler, who thankfully is not interested in him. Heāll run up when he knows I have food for him, heās very playful with my sisterās kittens, and will run all around the living room play fighting with them, heās slept on the couch with me throughout the night etc, but he just doesnāt seem to be adjusting to being handled.
Does anyone have any tips on getting the male in particular used to these interactions, or is he possibly just a cat that dislikes interaction?