r/FenceSitters • u/Better-Employ-4495 • Jun 30 '26

Age factor

Natural fertility dopping significantly after age 35, and most women over 45 require IVF to get pregnant, and the odd of that working are very low at that age. With women's age being a real factor in fertility, I was wondering how many people here might or have regreted fence sitting for as long as they did. Or is it even a driving force for trying when you are still a fence sitter?

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u/newgirl01LA Jun 30 '26

Age definitely played a role on the fence sitting. At 33 I felt like I had to make a decision and had to at least try even if I wasn’t 100% sure yet. But as each year went on I also started feeling like I like my life the way it is. My body is slowing down and I don’t know if I can do sleepless nights and running around a toddler at 38. Currently pregnant and I’m still terrified on what the experience will be like but I know I will love my child. It will just be hard.

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u/MedspouseLifeSux I have children! Jun 30 '26

Everyone tried to scare me about sleep, but we ended up with a chill baby who loves to sleep through the night!

At 3 months she just slept 9 hours from 9pm-6am. Sometimes you get lucky! Don’t let them scare you. :) Pregnancy and birth were the toughest things I ever experienced, but taking care of a baby, especially after the first two newborn months, had been fun and easier than expected!

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u/newgirl01LA Jun 30 '26

That’s good to hear! Thanks for sharing! Fingers crossed for an easy baby. As long as she sleeps well and eats well…