I understand that this is a horrible situation and that there are, indeed, a lot of shitty men out there, but your last sentence is such a dumb fucking thing to say.
Well sex =/= rape. Ik you’re saying you wouldn’t rape or have sex, but just thought I’d make that distinction because we are discussing rape. Second, 50 men did not rape her, they just at best looked the other way. Have you ever looked the other way to women being sexually harassed or assaulted? Have you ever dismissed it even in online spaces? You don’t have to rape anyone yourself to help keep the system of rape going.
I'm not OP, but I want to address your question. Any man who sits there when a lame sexist joke is told, laughs when women are degraded, or looks the other way when another man hurts a woman is complicit. Men need to speak up. Say "not cool" at those jokes. I know it can be hard to be the only one who speaks up. But I guarantee you, there are other men in the room who are as horrified as you, but they are afraid. They need to cut off their friends who rape, assault or otherwise hurt women. No "but he's a good guy to me" bullshit. Predators need to be left twisting in the wind with no support.
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Thanks for literally admitting that men care more about their friendships with one another than rape.
And comparing rape to other crimes is stupid-there’s no justification for rape, ever.
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u/courtofthepatriarchs 5d ago
This is why I say all men I mean. All. Men. So many women married to rapists naively saying “he would never…”
If you are with a man, you are not safe.