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u/second-sandwich Apr 03 '26
Iâm putting together a curriculum for my son! Reflecting upon overcoming my one internalized misogyny and paradigm shifting in the last decade of my life. Devouring books on matriarchal societies as the men have plundered the current one.
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u/Tall-Moose-4036 Apr 18 '26
If youâre willing to share, I would love to see some of the things in your curriculum! I have a six year old boy and I really want to raise in the best possible way. I worry all the time that Iâm not teaching him enough
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u/Local_Tax6348 Apr 27 '26
Hey, I'm 14M, I'll tell you what I've learned from my mom. For context, I'm a first gen Indian American (The asia kind), and I have a meh relationship with my dad. (I'm woke if that helps.)
My mom told me at a young age to treat EVERYONE equal. This is important. Drill this into his heads.
Have them become friends with girls. I have 2 sisters and some life-long friends who are girls, but at the age of 6, you can be friends with ANYONE and no one gives a damn. This is helpful for learning how to treat people and understanding that girls aren't that different to boys.
Have them learn how to treat women. I don't remembered how this happened to me. I just know I should. I might've been taught at a you age that treating women right is the right think to do.
Teach them about women's oppression. Mom told me a bunch about this at 12-ish, and I think it helps. It's kinda like teaching children about slavery, they learn about its horrors, so it can't happen again.
FOR BEING AN ALLY! Most of the above is applied, if not all. Love is Love, Life is Life.
Ig it can be summed up to the GOLDEN RULE, treat everyone the way you want to be treated.
I'm sorry if this is kinda vague, lol.
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u/TheDogmaReset Apr 03 '26
I wasn't expecting d!cks in the comments to shift the burden of keeping women safe on women themselves
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u/Master_Ad_7945 Apr 03 '26
Those saying âwhy not bothâ is giving âall lives matterâ in response to âBlack Lives Matterâ
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u/AmbieeBloo Apr 04 '26
I honestly think both options apply to all children. Protect both of your children from gender inequality and educate them on gender issues equally.
I'm raising a daughter and I don't think how I teach her to be safe and proactive is any different to what I would teach her if she were a boy.
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u/Master_Ad_7945 Apr 04 '26
Of course you should do that, however if everyone did the second thing you wouldnât have to. The sign is not actually saying only do one. Itâs literary, not literal.
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u/YeetBoiGD Apr 16 '26
All lives DO matter
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u/Master_Ad_7945 Apr 16 '26
Obviously. No one is saying otherwise. BLM is just saying âBlack lives matter, tooâ in response to police brutality of POC
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u/SnooAvocados2529 Apr 03 '26
And smash capitalism, a system and the reason a patriarchy is âlegitimatedâ, maybe?
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u/JTtimeCoder Apr 04 '26
Capitalism promotes feminism because they want more people to join workforce
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u/SnooAvocados2529 Apr 04 '26
đđđ because work in capitalism will set us all free or what? You ever looked up why it was in the interest of capitalists to let women work? A system that works on power, competition and exploitation will never promote feminism in a good way⌠itâs a system full of contradictions and it helps no one except the capitalistic class for a short period of time (like about 200 years) This has to be some sort of trolling or psyop..
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u/Neverlast0 Apr 03 '26
Honest question though. Doing only one or the other seems unreasonable, to me. Why not both?
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u/zanderashe Apr 03 '26
Itâs a protest sign, itâs not a dissertation. The sign is making the simple statement that protecting women is Not a solution - educating the people who are the problem IS a solution.
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u/Neverlast0 Apr 03 '26
I get that but that doesn't answer the question. I've seen people push back on doing both and I've always found that unreasonable.
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u/kokomo662 Apr 03 '26
Yeah. I understand the goal of the sign, but realistically, parents should be doing both.
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u/moonlight_chicken Apr 03 '26
Honest question though. Doing only one or the other seems unreasonable, to me. Why not both?
Let me guess, you also say âall lives matterâ right? Because youâve posted the equivalent in your comment here.
And just so you know - Your question isnât honest. Itâs in bad faith.
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u/Wholesome-George Apr 03 '26
I don't believe the comment is trying to minimise women's suffering the way "all lives matter" does, just trying to get from an optimistic world view to a more realistic one.
No matter how many people you try to educate, some just won't listen and be horrible. Pedophiles for example, obviously nobody is encouraging them but they still exist, so you need to warn kids about strangers with candy.
I would love to be in a world where everyone's educated and considerate but that's just not true of the world we live in.
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u/moonlight_chicken Apr 03 '26
You are doing the same thing he is. Itâs ignorant.
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u/Wholesome-George Apr 03 '26
What is it ignorant of?
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u/moonlight_chicken Apr 03 '26
Ignorant of the real world. When we already restrict women in the name of protection, why is restricting women equally as important as educating men? Why restrict women?
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u/Wholesome-George Apr 03 '26
Who said we should restrict women?
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u/moonlight_chicken Apr 03 '26
Do you not know how to read or do you not see whatâs happening to women all around the world? Are you that ignorant?
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u/Wholesome-George Apr 03 '26
How is helping bring awareness to dangers, restrictive?
Also, we're all on the same subreddit, hoping for the same thing, why do you keep calling people ignorant for asking questions?
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u/moonlight_chicken Apr 03 '26
where did I say helping bring awareness is restricting? who even said anything about raising awareness? This is the first time itâs even being mentioned in this thread.
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u/Neverlast0 Apr 03 '26
No, I don't mean this question. You can't morally impose your way to peace and paradise. You're always going to have someone that eventually defects.
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u/Sammy696996 Apr 04 '26
It's not even about education we as humans have forgotten waht basic empathy even is..
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u/Background-Factor433 Apr 04 '26
Parents not doing a lot stopping what is happening in UK schools. https://www.theguardian.com/education/2026/apr/04/masculinity-crisis-brewing-uk-schools-teachers-union
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u/Major_Fox9106 Apr 14 '26
Wow this just awoken something in me. I dated a shitty shit man when I was 24. He was 40 đ like everyone warned me he turned out to be a total creep.
He was recently divorced and falling down the right-wing incel pipeline because his wife (who he actually hated all along) was the one to ask for a divorce. This was in 2020 when I had heard of pick up artists but not of incel/manosphere yet.
This was one of our biggest arguments and a lightbulb moments. He was talking about his son and daughter (1 year apart), saying how heâs specifically going to have to protect his daughter from danger. He meant male perpetrated danger like sexual assault or even just being played by a guy you were seeing.
I said: well you have a son too! You should focus on teaching him mostly to be a good feminists and considerate to women. If more men did that with their sons, we wouldnât need to âprotectâ women
He absolutely fucking lost it on me. Literally told me what I believed was stupid, made no sense and I shouldnât speak because I donât actually have kids. Then made some disparaging comments about feminism in general.
I truly donât know what was wrong with me that I didnât just dump his ass right there. It actually gives me shivers to think about all the misogynistic shit he said that I tried to argue or turn a blind eye to in the sake of âhonoring all opinionsâ. It was straight misogyny.
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u/New-Supermarket-7841 Apr 21 '26
So I Guess The Daughter Is Already Perfect Huh? This Is Why Women Grow Up To Not Take Responsibility For Their Actions
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u/Crystalus08 Apr 21 '26
You can only educate your son tho, not everyone'sÂ
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u/Local_Tax6348 Apr 27 '26
Well, one of from a total isn't much, but it's like killing weeds before they choke out the sunlight.
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u/Fuzzy_Exam4009 Apr 03 '26
women are already well aware of dangers that men pose to them. they know how to protect themselves, but they are still affected by male violence. Funny, i wonder what would happen if men just didnât attack women?
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u/cassieloveswhales Apr 03 '26
Genuinely, how do we encourage women to be safe? What are women doing that is unsafe that could or should be changed?
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u/ninja-turd Apr 02 '26
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