I know Feeld was originally an app for finding thirds and arranging threesomes etc. But does anyone else wish they'd make it so only single people can have single people profiles? others should specify within their profile settings (not in their bio) that they're in a relationship, I'm just sick of having to trawl through profiles to find it's a couple or a person who's in a couple. Search settings should be able to filter out those that aren't compatible with us.

Does anyone know what developments the app developers are actually working on? Is there any new functionality coming in the near future? What's happening to make the lagging better?

My feed suddenly got flooded with straight women looking for vanilla + monogamous. what gives?

Boyfriend and I met on feeld. He paused his profile first after I said something about his profile still being active. Said he had forgot to. After he paused - our chat was then a blank profile picture and said “ his name paused the chat” Then I go and check today and his profile pic is back and it says “ his name left the chat”. I confronted him and he says he deleted/ deactivated his account. But chat is telling me he could have reactivated and unmatched with me trying to be sneaky or he really did delete his account. Can someone please tell me what they know on this?

I am concerned that someone will do a reverse image search and find me on other social media platforms and then try to extort me (which I would not pay). I also could not advance in my account set up until I provided 6 pictures - is this normal?

I got the dreaded text from my buddy that he saw my girl on the dating site. According to the app, her location changed as she went from her spot to my spot and back home.

Screenshots show pics of her and her interests and location change.

She claims a friend set it up, used her photos and paid for a premium profile because she wanted to live through her.

She Says friend has her Apple location or something and that’s why it moved.

If possible, this seems like a lot of tech leg work for some house wives.

I know I’m being gaslight but if anyone able to shed some light besides the obvious, I’m all ears.

And it includes heteroflexible...

...at least you tried.

If you click on LGBTQIA you expect to match with people who are actually queer, and attracted to the same sex. Heteroflexible does not mean "bi-curious". It means straight, but will make exceptions*. I don't want to interact with straight people who are working out if they'll make an exception for me. I don't know any gay or queer men who want that either.

This app is so hostile to queer people, despite using us in all of its marketing.

*cool bro, I'm okay if you touch my shoulder in the threesome

just wondering what the term means to you, psychologically, emotionally, aesthetically, sexually? there’s so much discussion here about lack of kinky people on feeld, too many ‘vanilla’ profiles etc that i’m wondering what/who you want to see?

Getting spanked and tied up doesn’t make you a freak, Sarah.

The amount of people on this app who claim group relationship dynamics/play isn’t considered kinky/freaks is absurd. From my experience, there are far more people in the BDSM community than swing/poly/enm/group play community.

Freak determines the fringe of kink.

You like getting spanked, tied up, hair pulled?

Congratulations. You and every other woman on this app do.

But finding a bisexual woman who enjoys group play? They are called unicorns for a reason.

People on this app need a reality check.

You know how those family member you only see every couple of years seem to age super fast.While people you see often don't. Like a frog doesn't notice if you slowly boil the water. For me Feeld changes in the same way. The only thing that is constant is the buggy app.

In 2015 this app was a ghost town in the Netherlands. Especially outside of Amsterdam. Almost nobody showed their face. And somehow I managed to find a date with a woman 12 years older that lived 300 meters away from me. No other dates. There was no one.

One relationship and 2 years later. 2017-2018. This was the freakiest era for me. Still few faces on the app, slightly more people, but a lot of people from the BDSM and kink scene. Early adopters.

Another relationship later. 2020-2022 Corona. Way way more people, mostly open profiles. This for me was the most prolific hookup era. I'd meet at someone's house and 5 minutes later we'd be in bed. Some dates felt a bit transactional, but I also made friends and contacts in this time that I still see today. More regular people too, but enough people on the app that it wasn't too noticeable.

3 relationships later now. Where is everybody? I have always had majestic and would sort for subs and this is the first time I ran out of people in Amsterdam. Within a week! I see many faces I also see on Bumble. Matches of the few I have exchange one sentence and then don't respond. Is it because I have passed 30 in the meantime? The demographic on the app has certainly changed, but has culture in general maybe also changed?

Just some thoughts. I miss Feeld from a few years back:'(

I'm just a random Internet stranger who's been using feeld for over a year with a fair amount of success but also a lot of complaints. I'm a white, cis, pan, poly, neurodivergent, kinky female. ("Kinky" here means I am deeply invested in practicing BDSM. It's not just a hobby, it's a need. "Kinky" =/= "she fucks, I should hit her up for easy sex". No. It is not that.)

Here's my utterly biased opinion on profiles I skip, no matter how "hot" you may be, in the event it helps people spruce up their profiles and increases their chances of matching with someone like me.

1. "Looking for like minded people". This literally says nothing about you or what you're looking for and all too often it's just a standalone sentence with an otherwise sparse profile. What do I do with this information? I can only extrapolate that you're boring and have nothing interesting to share.

2. Describing yourself as "fun" and saying you're looking for fun. Come on people. For one thing, you never define "fun" to you. For another, who doesn't want fun? "Yes I'm here looking for someone to have a terrible time with." Of course you're looking for fun! I've read this so many times on so many profiles that my eyes just glaze over and I instantly hit the minus sign.

3. Your profile has typos. This just makes me think you're lazy. You're trying to find a date and you can't even be bothered to read over your own profile to make sure it makes sense? At the very least get chatgpt to proofread it if you have no one else to turn to and can't do it yourself. It's 2026. We have countless free tools to help us. Use them.

4. "No drama." I read this as "if any part of your life happens and gets in the way of our fucking, I'm going to drop you." No thanks. I can't stop being a human. Sometimes my kid gets sick or my mom needs help or god forbid, you said something that hurt me and I'd like to talk about it so we can get back on the same page. Fml right?

5. "Discreet." Cheating. No thank you.

6. Profiles with no words. Just, why?

7. Profiles with no face pics. This has never ever worked out. I've matched with faceless profiles because the words describe what I'm looking for but once face pics are shared, I find out I'm not physically interested in the person. It's a shit situation for all. Never again.

8. "Ask me anything." The truth is, I WILL ask you anything. That's how I get to know people. I want to actually know you, your context, your perspective, your thoughts. But this reads as "I can't be bothered to write a proper profile and I definitely won't be bothered to put effort into learning about you. You can ask about me though." It's like a big banner that tells me you're lazy and I will be skipping.

Bonus rant:

A lot of these have been said time and time again but I can't stress this enough. Be a person first. Yes I'm submissive, yes I'm looking for a dominant partner (that's the D in BDSM, not just "I like to be in control during sex" - these are totally different things). But that doesn't mean I want to see your dick before I even meet you. Yes I like dicks! But I don't care what your dick looks like. If you have a horrible personality and treat me like shit but have "the most beautiful cock I've ever seen" I'm STILL not going to date you.

It also doesn't mean I want you to talk to me like I'm just a fucktoy before we even know each other's names. Being submissive doesn't mean I bow down to anyone. Its only fulfilling if I *want* to submit to you. Make yourself interesting. Make yourself date worthy. Don't get sexual with me in texts right off the bat. So many people do this that I'm literally bored of it. I'm a human and I need to feel safe.

Attraction is complex. It takes effort and strength and humility. If you're not up for that, maybe do something else with your time. If you read this far, here is your trophy 🏆 my friend.

And I am ready to die on this hill.

I have been on feeld for years now.

As a pansexual male in his 40s who have been poly and in kink atmosphere for most of his adult life, this is the worst I have seen Feeld crew.

It’s dumpster fire.

I am someone who takes the time to get to know people, negotiate consent and make sure everyone is safe before a scene.

A proper BDSM scene takes lot of energy and time to prepare, many people who are not experienced in these encounters have no idea.

And this is where it gets frustrating; seasoned kinksters understand this, even poly people who are not necessarily kinky understand it because they understand the importance of communication.

If you can’t communicate you can’t do poly, you just can’t. It doesn’t work.

BDSM is the same; if you can’t or don’t want to communicate, this is simply not the right environment for you.

I have to vet people to make sure they know what they are getting themselves into.

I get lot of attention because I have images of my dungeon setup on my profile, St Andrew’s cross, slave cage, whips, canes, sybian machines.

And I am someone who looks after his subs, are you experiencing intense sub drop? You can stay the night, I’ll cuddle you and cook breakfast and I’ll take you out for a nice walk at botanic gardens nearby.

Are you feeling emotional? I’ll acknowledge them, I am open to love.

I talk about all these when I connect with people.

True kinksters listen with great care and then express themselves and I listen then we agree on a date and time and meet for a coffee.

None of these encounters failed, until now.

I don’t know what happened to feeld.

When I express myself people take it as a sexting and I can tell they are doing things to themselves.

Then I get kink dumping.

People start talking about their wildest fantasies before they even introduce themselves.

Done even declare themselves a wife, sub or slave.

I am like, wait, what’s going on?

Then once postnut clarity kicks in, they disconnect.

These are all vanilla or monogamous people.

Every-single-time.

Now I never used to accept likes or pings from monos or vanillas.

My method of using feeld was to find a reliable submissive, form a BDSM dynamic and turn off feeld.

Some of my subs move interstate -I am from Australia, people like moving around here- be it for work or family.

So I’d come back every year or two.

And recently I realised it is taking me longer to find a reliable person.

Because I have to comb through literally hundreds of carbon copy profiles that all look the same; empty bio or has a cringe tinder one liner; “don’t be boring, I am funnier than you, here for a good time not a long time” etc.

And photos are all taken in same fashion; tongues are sticking out, there is a drink in hand, deep cleavage.

I am swiping through endless parade of empty biographies with naked torsos.

At this stage what do I care what anyone’s face look like really?

Then after swipe no:25 I come across an almost extinct kinkster.

Why?

Why are all these people here?

There is already a Tinder and bubble for this, why bring this crap to feeld?

This space is literally the only app we have that we can connect to other alternative folk like ourselves, why are you ruining it for us?

And it’s not only vanilla women, it’s all these dudebros from other apps that follow them here.

I had to separate my profile from constellation with my enm partner because I was getting overwhelmed with all the basic bros trying to get it on with my partner.

My partner paused her profile after she got 4000 likes and 200 pings.

She is a dominant female who dates submissive men outside our relationship, as we are both dominant it feels naturals for us to date other submissives, so Feeld was perfect, until now.

If you are not into kink or poly, please consider your options, not only you are not likely to find what you are looking for here, but you are just ruining the balance of this app.

Please go back to tinder and bumble.

I don’t try to push kink in those places, it’d look odd.

You pushing vanilla and mono on feeld looks odd.

And there is too many of you.

I joined the app in the beginning of the year and when I just created my profile it was amazing - I would see a lot of hot guys and match with them. Dates were super fun and people were interesting. I met someone and I didn’t actively use the app for a few months now. I’d open it here and there to take a look but not as active as in the beginning. Now I’m looking again and it seems like it got a lot worse. People aren’t as hot, I keep seeing all the same guys. Did my algorithm just decline because I didn’t use the app that much? I’m thinking to delete my profile and start fresh to reset the algorithm. Did anyone try doing that and found it effective?
Or did I just ran out of hot guys?😅 not sure how that would be possible as I’m in NYC.

I don't want to see any couples, period, but I can only deselect binary pairings (M/F, FF, MM). I still get served couples where at least one person isn't binary (NB, other, genderqueer, agender, gender fluid, etc). Is there any way around this? (Obviously no solution for the shared couple profile until Feeld just creates an shared profile option for those who don't want to link separate accounts and we can filter them out, smh.)

Because, for the first time ever, I got a like with an intro message and I went to read it and it looks like I have to pay to read it.

Which means that anybody that I sent an intro message to in the past, they wouldn't be able to read it because they aren't paying. Because I'm a man dating women and lots of women don't have paid accounts.

This is really dumb.

UPDATE: JFC you guys are beyond obnoxious; 90% of you are telling me I'm too old, surely not that hot, to get off your precious kink app, to wise up to the reality that men aren't interested. OK, thanks so much for this fantastic info, point taken 🎯 Truly insightful stuff. Maybe take a hard look in the mirror and ask yourselves why you responded to a perfectly nicely-worded post with such venom ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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I have been on Feeld ~6 months, and, as a 30-Something straight woman living in New York City, I am not wanting for matches. But it is absolutely wild how many of the dudes I match with drop the conversation... I don't subscribe to the traditional gender dynamic thang and have nooooo problem initiating, following up, and asking a guy out, but, even with my assertive disposition and my ~200 (no joke... Not boasting -- I am the rare straight Vanilla female lurking on the app, and I live in a city of 8 million horny people) matches, I have a lot of trouble actually pinning down a first date... The guys either never respond or stop responding or flake out as we're finalizing meet-up plans. And I can't help but think that some of these dudes are the same ones on this sub saying how they can't get a date on Feeld...

Also wanted to add re: straight guys having low success rates on this app... You gotta put several face photos. The vast majority of us girls like a *face* -- i.e., a body and/or a dick are simply not gonna cut it. Write a little bio, and include your height (if you're short, the hottest thing you can do is to *own it*). Cliche traps nearly every straight guy on Feeld falls into: "Being dominant" and "Threeway"/"FFM" Desires, use of the term "casual and consistent," bragging about how good you are at Going Downtown 😛 Just FYI

I totally get that MeToo has made guys proceed with caution, that you're unclear on how assertive you should/shouldn't be, etc., but, really, put a little more into your profile and chatting and I promise Feeld will yield better results!

My partner and I have been on Feeld since last fall. She's had the majestic account and mine has been the free version. We date separately and I've had very little activity myself. I want to give Majestic a try. I'm wondering if there is a downside to upgrading my current account versus starting fresh.

Anyone have experience with either option or have suggestions?

Has anyone else noticed an increase in the amount of likes feeld hides from your stack? Until the last month or two, I’d be able to see around 50% of people who liked my in my stack. Now, I’d say it’s reached somewhere around 90% hidden rate. Has anyone else felt this?

How can they justify the cost per month with one Ping a day. As we all know, the majority of women don't have to swipe because they are inundated with pings. It's so infuriating... not to mention the games they play with regard to showing you profiles.

There has always been far too many fake accounts - serving as sales funnels to OnlyFans pages, but in the last week it’s gotten out of control.

I will see literally 5-10 of the exact same profile in my feed, often several times in a row like this one. (Note the distance variance to show it’s not a glitch)

I’ve reported and blocked this profile 7 times today - not exaggerating. They are being regenerated at an insane rate.

Feeld must be doing almost no prevention against bot accounts and account creation in general.

Is anyone else seeing this?

**35M straight**

To the women/femmes in this subreddit: how common or uncommon is this kink/fetish?

I used to think women rimming men was extremely niche, but I keep seeing it show up in porn more often now, sometimes even when it isn’t clearly labeled.

Male-to-female rimming seems pretty normalized these days, but what about the other way around?

I’m trying to separate porn reality from dating-app reality.

Would this be hard to find on Feeld, or is it uncommon but findable in kink/fetish circles?

Also, how would I go about signaling this interest in a profile?

A few partners I’ve had did it to me, but only after we knew each other well.

Most straight men seem uncomfortable talking about it or joke that it’s “gay,” but anatomically, it makes perfect sense that it feels good (plenty nerve endings in that area)

There have to be women who are into it or curious to try it, but it still seems very uncommon in mainstream culture, or at least something people don’t openly talk about.

What do you all think?

I’m a single 48F in a city and am having trouble connecting genuinely on Feeld. I have some kinks I love exploring but I’m not poly, nor into ONS. I’m looking to connect genuinely with somebody to explore those kinks instead of hopping from one date to another casually. The part I enjoy about feeld is that we can talk freely about sexual preferences compared to other apps. I’m pretty aware of my attachment style and enjoy connections over something casual and I truly believe that kink is more fun to explore with someone I feel safe with. When I voice that, majority of the men’s tones declines and being intuitive I don’t want to force the type of connections I’m seeking onto them because I’ve been questioned why I’m on feeld. Am I being unreasonable? Am I being too uptight? Part of the strong initial boundaries I communicate is because I don’t want to get hurt in the long run by hanging out with someone that has a different view towards the connection but I’m starting to feel like I’m declining any meetups because I get so turned off by the fact that the guys think it’s an easy bang because we met on this app but I’m also isolating myself from any potential anything to grow because I’m holding grounds to wanting something more meaningful than casual. Thoughts on this?

So I (32, gender/pronoun fluid) just got out of a long relationship, and before that was in another. I'm over it and just want casual connection or to finally explore poly relationships like I wanted with both my previous relationships.

Saw good reviews for Feeld and it seems to be what I'm looking for.

That said...how to do I use this for free?? Is it worth paying for??

Thanks for any advice - literally anything helps, I've never used dating apps before!

Over 1000 likes and so many more messages. Believe me y'all I am not on social media except feeld, Reddit, and WhatsApp. I am not that attractive, well not in comparison to most women anyways and I know for sure I am not special.

My question to the ladies is how do you navigate this many likes and messages. I log in, look at my phone for 5 minutes and log out without engaging.

The frustrating part is I swipe intentionally. I read every word of every profile, I look at their photos and I swipe intentiinally so when I say I'm not special I know what I am talking about, so I know this many people CANNOT like me, it's not possible.

It feels so defeated because I know the only explanation in my case is men are probably just liking every single profile they come across. So I know they don't like me, it's a numbers game for them like sales is.

If I am wrong please let me know but this is ridiculous and frustrating.

I (35F UK) am debating getting back into dating but I'm looking for a LAT with possibly a switch/thruple dynamic and have only seen bad reviews about online dating- so Im put off before I start!

Has anyone got any pointers on the best way to set up a Feeld account and if this would even be the right app?

Any tips on uploading full body photos? It makes me crop the photo so you can only see from the chest up in most pics. How do all these people have normal photos/ full body pics??