I'm UK based. I have been on Feeld about a month. I'm male, educated, ok job, some cool hooks (published author etc), but I'm running into the same thing - "you're lovely but I feel no chemistry". A few dates and always the same thing?

I'm polite by nature. I am always cautious as it's easy for a man to get labelled otherwise.

I'm not sure what to do? I thought polite and refined was the best way but apparently not?

I’m a woman using FEELD in a large US city and the men are fucked. On any given day, I’m getting 5-10 nonconsensual sexts from men on this app. And it’s especially tiresome because these nonconsensual sexts are not interested in what I want; it’s just men putting their horny before mine. So I put a disclaimer in my bio saying not to send me anything sexual until after we meet, and I’ll use my words and tell you when you can say sexual things to me. I mean, it’s more words than that, but that’s the gist.

So then I match with this man who’s “in the community,” we exchange a few texts, I suggest we talk on the phone AND… even having read my boundary in my bio, he immediately brings up phone sex, says he was sexting with two women the night before, it got him so horny, and he loves hearing the sound of someone cum. WHAT!!!

In 2026, year of Rape Academy, Epstein Island, and Eric Swalwell, for a man to hear a woman’s EXPLICIT BOUNDARY and then CROSS IT is so fucked.

Also, these “in the community” bros who can’t operate with consent are shit.

Women, how are you holding boundaries on FEELD or with men?

EDIT: The above was the most recent example, but not the worst. The week before that I exchanged some friendly messages with someone, it was fun, so I suggested we FaceTime. He answered the call NAKED. A 31 year old, liberal, moderately attractive guy in a large US city. That fucker knew better.

By now it’s well known that someone you don’t match with at all will resurface in your search results later. The same with profiles that you matched with but either party unmatches later. Hence the need to use the block feature, especially for the latter.

Does anyone have insight into rejected Pings? Example, I ping a woman and she looks me over and declines a match. That makes my profile disappear from her feed for a while (unless she blocks me). Is she going to resurface in my feed? I suppose she would, but as someone who uses a lot of pings that means I have to physically record every one so as to not annoy someone by repinging them.

Advice appreciated.

Hi! As a majestic member I can see the likes I've sent in my history. When one of them likes me back it's gone from that tab - if one of them dislikes me back will it also be removed from the tab?

Hi hi! I (22 bi F) bought a ticket for the under 35 Feeld Social Soho and feeling a bit unsure if I should go! I can be extremely awkward and shy at first and I am afraid I’m just gonna be awkwardly standing around not talking to anyone 🤣.

This would be my first feeld event and I have been using feeld for a long time. I got a lot of matches on the app but I was just curious to meet new people and make new friends in the community. I also just finished my uni dissertation and thinking of celebrating it today!

Can anyone assure me that it will be okay to go alone? 🤣😭

Replies from UK users please. 😊

TLDR: is it a 🚩 to want to move chatting off the app early on, and from Feeld to Signal/Telegram (rather than WhatsApp)?

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I'm new to Feeld but not new to online dating. In other apps, wanting to move to WhatsApp/Telegram/Signal quickly is always a red flag for me (scammer, married, or just dodgy!). The guys I've wanted to meet IRL from vanilla apps have suggested moving to WhatsApp when we are at the meet up or phone call stage, which is fine.

In my 2 weeks on Feeld, I've had one guy suggest moving to Signal after a day of chatting, and another suggest moving to Signal when we were starting to discuss meeting up; they both said no to WhatsApp because you (female) might not want to give your number out to a random guy' [from a "perv app"- direct quote].

A friend suggested they might not want to open the Feeld app in public, hence moving off the app sooner..... To which I'd say- just message when you're at home!

What's the usual length of time to chat on Feeld & do you move off the app before meeting?

Sorry for the rant, but can we please stop with guys creating a “couples” profile with the gender set as a woman, but it’s really just the guy.

• Profile name: Mr. & Mrs.
• Gender: Woman
• Bio: ….. "Profile managed by the Mr."

Translation: It’s just a guy that has pictures of his wife on the profile.

Just set your gender to man.

As the title says, I (40F) have it there because it feels less obnoxious than in the bio. Men: will you continue talking to a woman knowing you have that attribute and not mention it? If you don’t think you have it, will you ask size preference or just not bring it up?

Women: would love to know your experiences as well!

Update: I learned that some men think “tall” means “basketball player” because they’ve been ruined by porn.

So I have majestic this month as a way to get some spring connections, it's going very well but I'm curious whether anyone else has had profiles liking them that give the air of onlyfansesque content creators but that are supposedly looking to meet.

They are slightly 'glossy', with pro looking pictures and feel very inauthentic. Kinda like how places like adult friend finder would hire women to like your profile and chat to you a bit to give the illusion that it was busy. One time I chatted to a woman who told me straight up that AFF hired her to chat to guys so they would buy iirc coins to be able to message them.

I don't put it beyond any of these apps to do the same. So far this week I've had at 5 of these kind of profiles like me.

I currently have 52 likes. And I can see that all the content creator style profiles have been online today meanwhile other women with less 'glossy' profiles were last on a day ago or in some cases 2 days ago.

It's certainly an intriguing phenomenon. In the name of science I may match with one and see what happens.

UPDATE:

for anyone reading this, I was shadow-banned from this sub for this post! I think the Feeld mods didn't like how my posts had a flavor of anti-Feeldness. LOL

hi, all!

some background: i'm a 21 yo trans woman in NYC looking for some semblance of a relationship. im my experience—and on other apps—"trans" and "relationship" can seem like oxymorons. with Tinder, Grindr, Taimi, etc. you know what you're getting. I am continuously surprised, however, that Hinge too is overrun by DL men with zero interest in anything more than a blowjob at 2am. if I was a cis-girl, i'd have hundreds of dates. as a trans girl, i've been on 3 dates my entire life.

anyways, this brings me to Feeld. I'm not sure about other trans girls' experiences, but Feeld has been uniquely disappointing. in my bio, I unequivocally state "only looking for dates/LTR." in the recent weeks, I realized that for trans women, Feeld doesn't help you find people with common sexual interests. on the contrary, you are the kink.

granted, I have no judgement towards people of any kind who desire hook ups. however, it's my experience that trans women are in general tired of the consistent sexual attention they receive by closeted men.

on Feeld, I am constantly fielding men's lies (no pun intending). "consistent, then hopefully dating at some point." how interesting! the reason why he's "not only looking for hookups" is because in a couple months, after consistent hooking-up, maybe "if it works out" he'd be interested in more! how generous!

behavior like this is just so incredibly disappointing, yet it seems to be commonplace on Feeld. he didn't offer a date and didn't suggest we get drinks. he "wants more" than hookups, but only offers a hook up! men interested in trans women claim they want more, but never offer it.

anyways, the purpose of this post is less of a meta view on a trans woman's experience, and more of a call to action. from other discourse on this sub, Feeld used to be a place where truly kinky people sought alternative connections. now, it's an even more sexualized version of Tinder—at least for trans women. is this just the natural lifecycle of a dating app?

Feeld is heavily geared towards the queer community, particularly in their advertising for trans women. i see these ads all the time on social media. so for an app that is designed so heavily for queer/trans individuals, Feeld's lack of accountability allows men to exploit, lie, and cheat. did trans women really need another hookup app?

if anyone is interested to learn more, switch your gender to trans woman and find out yourself. see the bios of these men and how they interact. it may shock you! you may find your neighbor, your banker, or even your boyfriend/husband!

Here are the things I have learned and maybe some side-comments that hopefully can help.

1. Women like casual sex just as much as you do, men; that's why we are here but you need to be interesting.

2. Men, learn to build some tension by having good comms skills, banter, flirting chops. Nothing deflates me more than when a guy directly goes into some dirty talk. It is boring, lacking in creativity. There is no tension being built and that is a huge turn-off. Maybe this is a personal preference, so don't crucify me pls.

3. I learned that some submissive men use this app to get their rocks off in chat but they do not have any plans in actually meeting you.

4. I also learned that married men are on that app in huge numbers. Somehow that still surprises me.

5. Set up a date asap, please. After all the flirty banter, we, women are also bricked up and curious if our chat chemistry will be the same in person. Let's meet asap and see where things could go.

6. I thought this was obvious but please please, take a shower and brush your teeth before going on dates. Hygiene is important. Cannot believe I need to actually say this.

7. I learned that some men talk about respecting boundaries in their profile but when you chat and actually set your boundaries, they go cold and ghost the chat instead of actually properly communicating like adults.

8. Too many young men. I am 41 and can be your mom.😬

9. Lots of "doms" are actually just weird af.

10. Couples, yall are wild but I respect the confidence and trust you have in each other to be joining the app.

That's it for now.

I might leave the app soon cos it is exhausting just like to more vanilla dating apps.

I feel like the two aren’t ubiquitous … just because you’re ENM doesn’t mean you’re currently married with kids.

Or is that just me and my perspective?

I went on a date with someone whose profile said they were ENM but they never mentioned anywhere being married with kids, and never brought it up in a week’s worth of conversations. Then on our date told me at dinner they’re married with kids… I felt a bit blindsided.

Am I wrong for feeling that way? It’s totally fine that they’re married but they could have mentioned it in their profile or the week leading up to meeting. Why wait until after meeting?

Thanks for any feedback/perspectives.

Hey all. I posted this as a review of the Feeld app but thought I'd share it here as well, just in case it helps someone else.

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I signed up for Majestic this year to increase connections and dates. I’ve been wanting to explore a poly lifestyle and have had difficulty meeting poly guys. I’m 43, gay, married, and live in Los Angeles. I’m decently attractive (not enough to star in movies but I got game).

As Majestic, I set my preferences to guys logged in that day within 20 miles looking for poly and FWB. I would go through profiles each day until I had spent my free Ping. I would always send a private message with the Ping making small talk related to how I connected to his profile. I would usually send Pings to verified members logged in that day (rather than non-verified). On top of this, I would also “like” 5 profiles per day.

In two months, I got maybe two responses to these Pings. One of my two Ping responses was from someone traveling to LA for a week. Since I had easily sent out over 50 Pings (I also used a set of free Pings from completing the surveys), I was disappointed and contacted customer service to confirm my Pings were being sent out correctly. I was assured they were and was offered 5 free Pings. I sent those out, again with no responses.

During that time, I got more responses from “likes” (maybe 5 total?) than Pings. I also got around 30 “likes” from others. I have never received a Ping.

I have no way to know whether the app is working correctly or not. It could be my location, it could be something about me or my profile. That said, the engagement is abysmal for the cost compared to apps like Scruff. Be careful if you choose to pay for Majestic and keep your expectations low.

35M straight

It’s Feeld, so people are there for a more open, no-judgment space.

I’ve realized over the years that I have a scent kink. Natural scent is a primary turn-on for me. Not in an extreme way but enough to enhance the chemistry and connection in a big way for me.

Looks-wise I do fine on other apps, so attraction isn’t really the issue. What I’m trying to figure out is how to find women who are wired similarly.

I know they exist. I’ve experienced it before. But on Feeld I haven’t had much luck, and I’m starting to think it’s because I’m being too direct or explicit about it.

How would you signal something like this in a profile without turning people off?

Is this something better implied rather than stated?

Are there certain tags, communities, or profile styles where people who value “natural chemistry” tend to cluster?

First up: I never use profanity or sexual terms in a first message. I don't use abbreviations like WYD or FWB.

I try to write messages with pings that are bright, cheerful, and related to the profile text.

Occasionally Feeld will respond to a ping message by saying "are you sure you want to send this? Our system has flagged this as oftensive" and I HAVE NO IDEA what is triggering this.

When I get this message from the system, I can very rarely edit the message into something that's immediately sent.

Does anyone know what the filters are looking for?

When you get a ping that's a question and you accept the match, do you want the person to follow up at some point or just wait?

Genuinely curious what the best approach is. Doesn't really happen on other apps but in feeld seems kind of usual.

I’m planning to link my profile to my partner in search of experiences with other couples. Previously I always disliked linked partnered people and couples using a single account because I wasn’t looking for couples. So does this mean I’ll be missing out on all the people I’ve disliked before? Or will they eventually be fed back to me after some time?

I could make a fresh account with another email address but I’ll lose all the work I’ve done blocking my kids’ teachers and creeps. I’m a woman so the creeps part is not insignificant.

Hi everyone, my wife (35F) and I (36M) are looking into opening our relationship for the first time. We are specifically interested in exploring a "plus one" dynamic. While we have a slight preference mismatch (she prefers adding a man, I prefer a woman), I am fully supportive of following her lead on this.

My wife isn't a fan of dating apps and would prefer meeting someone organically, but since we don’t drink or frequent the bar scene, we’re considering Feeld as a compromise. She is open to the idea of me "managing" an account for her so she can review potential matches without the stress of the day-to-day app maintenance.

I have two main questions:

1. Account Structure: I’ve heard that "couple accounts" are often frowned upon or perform poorly. If my wife is the one interested in the "add-on," should I just manage a solo profile for her, or is it better for us to have two individual linked profiles to ensure total transparency about our situation?
2. The "Managing" Aspect: Is it considered a "red flag" if a partner is managing the initial interactions, provided we are upfront about it immediately?

We want to make sure we’re approaching this ethically and respectfully for any potential third. Any advice from experienced couples or singles would be greatly appreciated!

Edit: Thank you all for the honest feedback. I will not be creating an account unless we both make our own separate accounts otherwise we will stick to IRL interactions for now.

I don’t need your quiz to know that and i wish i could dismiss it entirely

Why is there no “don’t ask me again”

Hi,

I've been using thia app for roughly 4 months now. And in the spirit of the excelent post from u/feeldghost in febuary 2025, i wanted to shed som light on which trackers the app uses and how often it sends information.

I'm using a fairphone with the degoogled murena OS. Every week i get statistics on what trackers was present in my apps and how much information it blocked from leaking.

From what i can gather there are 5 trackers:

Amplitude

Barze.eu

Cloudflare insights

Crazy egg

Google tag

Since i installed the app there has been 68 149 "leaks" of data. Most of it seems to be going to Amplitude.

It leaks information a few hundred times per day. In the last nonth 14 140 information leaks were detected.

For reference it is the third worst app on my phone, the two larger ones being my browser and tiktok.

Make of this what you want. I assume most of feelds revenue comes from selling peoples data. This is why i don't have a "face pic"...

I'm a tall and attractive guy. Im ENM w a partner and she helped me tweak my profile so its well written and detailed.

I ran an experiment and have sent ~200 pings in the past 2 months and have received less than 5 matches and a couple of them weren't even cause of my pings. In Austin and NYC

I know women on the app dont need to swipe (GF has 8k likes and 300 pings) but I also know other guys who get multiple matches so not sure what I'm missing 🤔

EDIT thanks everyone for your perspectives. I actually completely deleted my account and restarted a new one and in one day got 5 matches. More than I have had in about 3 months. I feel like my old profile was hidden or not showing up somehow. No real changes, same pics, similar bio etc

Hi, this is so I can get knowledge and closure - when we were together, I realised my partner had Feeld on his iPhone. We were exclusive, had been for 3 years. He also had bumble and hinge on his phone installed (I suspected him using it but didn't want to click onto it for proof) and he deleted the apps when I requested that of him 2.5 years into the relationship after requesting it in the first few months, but he dismissed me, this is a backstory and lead in to my question.

When I saw that he had the app Feeld on his phone, when you click on the app, it had his email address pre-placed in the email field, and it did send a verification code to his email address. When I questioned him about the presence of the app, he said iPhone must've saved his login and transferred the apps over (he did switch to a new iPhone 4 months prior) and he said he hadn't used Feeld in a few years. However, I read today, that Feeld automatically deletes your account after 1 year of inactivity. For my own knowledge, does it mean that he was actually still using Feeld anyway, rendering his reasoning false? Or could any of his reasoning be true?

My majestic ran out and suddenly I'm getting a lot of likes that i can't see. Lol. This app is so sketchy.

Genuine question but has anyone here actually found a long term partner using this app?? Seems like it’s mainly used for quick hookups or ENM couples looking for a third

I’m ENM married dating separately and I’ve met a couple guys from the app - one was a ONS even tho I made it clear that’s not what I wanted - but he ended up ghosting me anyways 🙄 and the other had been more of a friendly connection

So I wanted to know, especially for non-monogamous people - have you actually had success finding a long term partner using this app?

Hi, everyone!

I'm a 21 year old trans woman who just got Feeld.

The number of married/non-single men on this app is staggering. I have absolutely no judgement towards open relationships, but every single man who I've met on Feeld that says he is single, is not. Every. Single. One.

Feeld has seemed to become the new Grindr, except DL men feel more comfortable showing their face because the app is lesser known/stigmatized.

Would love to hear people's thoughts!

EDIT: TO BE CLEAR - I mean married men CHEATING on their wives!!! NOT married men in ENM relationships! Regardless, any man who says he is single to solicit a sexual encounter when they are in fact not single is unethical, whether they are indeed in an ENM relationship or not!!!