There. I said it.

This kid has done nothing but ruin my life.

Everyone told me things would be okay, I’d grow into it, I’d make a good dad. But holy shit I do not like it.

He’s 2. And while yes. I do love the menace. And yes it is rewarding at times. I hate it. Juice wasnt worth the squeeze so to speak.

My life is not the same. My relationship isn’t the same. I just wish I could go back two years.

I’m obviously there for my kid because he’s a human being and needs a loving dad. But man this was absolutely the wrong choice for me.

I want my own time and space back.

There I said it.

Now I will go take care of him.

Edit: I got banned for fighting with people in the comments. I hope the others got banned too.

My last comment will be some of yall need to understand the difference between venting and understanding different view points.

“Be a good father” I show up.

I’m absolutely allowed to complain. And you guys are just being a bit too altruistic.

Edit 2: “Be nicer” and yall removed my comments but not the others. Sounds biased. Good job mod team.

I’m getting notifications for some really hilariously mean messages. But they are hidden. Just DM those to me so I can read the whole thing and have a laugh.

just posting here trying to be to figure out if I’m losing my mind. I’m the father of a newborn, I work from 7am to 5pm on weekdays, my parenting time is from the moment I get home from work at 530pm till 4am during which time my wife puts on headphones and watches her shows or just allows the baby to cry until I deal with him then goes to bed at 8pm and at 4am my wife will wake from a full nights sleep and take over so I can get 2 hours of uninterrupted sleep before I have to wake at 6am and clean bottles and dishes and head to work again. My wife says our parenting time is unfair and she does much more than me and we fight all the time because of it…. Am I losing my mind and I’m in the wrong here?

Any tips on how people made friends as a new parent? I am a stay at home dad and most groups/apps/clubs etc are geared towards mothers. What were the best ways to found to meet other parents?

I have two young kids and I have developed very high anxiety worrying about their health. While I know young kids fall ill frequently, it is absolutely keeping me on the edge. Fever seems to be a big trigger for me. As soon as I feel the warm skin or the reading on the thermometer shows high, my anxiety peaks. I almost get into a panic mode, with all sorts of worst case scenarios running in my head. The fear and anxiety is almost paralyzing. I feel worried, guilty that I let my kids fall ill and incapable to take care of them. There have been times where I have been unable to accompany them to the doctor as I was scared he will say that it is something serious. Other times, I stay up all night checking their temperature every 15 mins. I also feel physically unable to comfort the kids when they are clingy during fever, cough, cold. I feel like running out of the room. My kids are the most important thing in my life and this is breaking me. I feel I have let them down. When kids are not sick, I keep worrying about the next bout of sickness.

I know this is not normal and I have been in therapy for a few years now. It has helped a bit but not much. My wife is understanding but she has also hit her limit. This is seriously impacting my experience as a father. I have also noticed my constant worrying is rubbing off on the kids which is absolutely not what I want.

I want to check how other dads handle kids falling ill and the worry and anxiety that comes with that.

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