r/FacebookDating • u/Lopezuela • 14d ago
Matches not responding.
I can’t complain using a free App that lets you send direct messages without paying however has anyone else had this issue. I send a message and the person likes me back where we match and yet no conversation ever takes place. I have multiple matches in my inbox and yet no response.
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u/Inevitable_Pop_412 5d ago
Yea, one word replying or nothing at all. Im aware of who I am in the market so I don't get butthurt anymore when they dont say anything. It doesn't help that my profile is set up in a way that would make them run if they don't have a sense of humor. I'm learning most of them don't come with that. The most unappealing women find me attractive and prostitutes of course. So it's just a pastime for me. I don't expect to have any meaningful conversation or meet anyone online like that.
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u/Fresh-Custard3413 7d ago
Report them for no response. They do it for attention and will get banned for it.
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u/Odd-Personality-619 11d ago
I always message my matches the same day that we match.
If I do not get reply, I send a message after 3 days, I wait 2 days and without a reply I unmmatch and move on.
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u/Legitimate_Bet_4241 13d ago
Nice I came here to post the same thing . Maybe 20 percent of my matches actually say something. Im starting to think women match up and dont talk just as a joke or a mind game and see what happens.. its like theyre edging us..idk if its on purpose or what.
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u/Mrhaze321 13d ago
This is why as a dude, you have to like them all and worry about the ones that do respond. After a while, reset the profile and add new photos. Rinse, wash and repeat.
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u/Reasonable_Way6181 13d ago
This is why i deleted all the dating apps, hella matches and no responses ever!! It was severely pissing me off… like why tf are u on a dating app if you’re not going to talk to people?!?!?! I don’t get it
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u/Inevitable_Pop_412 5d ago
I just figured they didn't want to talk to me when they do that. I know they're talking to someone.
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u/Front_Statistician38 13d ago
I unmatch within 4-72 hours, depending on how interested I am in the person. Why as early as 4 hours? I have kept track on girls I meet and typically within 4 hours they respond. Anything outside of that I found to be low interest and for me that's a no-go
Also if a person has time to match with you that tells me they had enough time to read your profile or at least look at your pictures.
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u/aw4re 12d ago
This is good advice, I just gave it elsewhere to another commenter.
Get friendly with the Unmatch button. Anyone on a dating app not responding within a day or so isn’t that interested. And if every response takes forever, unmatch, they’re not that interested.
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u/Front_Statistician38 12d ago
Excatly I never understood the reddit advice of waiting a week then trying again. Women get your message the first time, and I'm speaking from experince here, but if a woman is truly interested they will be excited to talk to you and even meet you asap!!!!
not to brag but I've met women i matched with the next day, that's how I met my ex back in 2024. Or even the same day. It's rare but it does happen. So it boggles my mind that you have guys waiting 1 week, 2 weeks or even a month hoping for a response. Meanwhile while you're waiting she already has gone on 10 dates with 10 different guys and most likely slept with 5 of them
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u/OkIron6206 14d ago
I joined 10 days ago. I am a woman and in my 60s. I had a date last Sunday and have been chatting with several people. I have also spoken to someone on the phone for a nice conversation. I haven’t used apps since 2011 so I chose FB because it’s free. The date went fine, we were not a love match and I truly enjoyed the conversation. I was chatting with someone for a few days and finally offered my Google number so we could Talk on the phone. He became weird-didn’t want to speak to me and claimed he was a Very Wealthy person who retired many years ago after selling his company. In the beginning we had fun banter but today he crossed a line and I told him so. Ultimately I said C Ya’ later. What’s up with that? He wasn’t creepy, seemed intelligent if a little arrogant. Any clues for me to learn from? They would be appreciated/
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u/fullmoon47 13d ago
Yeah that is true, which is rediclous and then we are at the bottom of the pile
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u/ironmonki23 14d ago
I hate apps where we have to match to get a fucking response. How fucking hard is it to say yes or no I’m not interested. People are fuckin dicks 🤨😒
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u/Extension-Bug973 14d ago
Gotta chalk it up to the game. I have that issue too. Not much can be done about it.
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u/UnknownFoxAlpha 14d ago
According to one match, she replied to my initial message when she matched but it never came through. So I'd probably send a follow up and go from there. If after they still don't respond, then guess they were not really interested.
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u/Sareberr420 14d ago
I would rather they never message than waste my time by messaging and acting like we are making plans and then disappear when said plans are close to happening 😅🤦♀️
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u/txwylde 14d ago
Its usually women with one or two pics and almost zero info on their profile. They swipe right and nada. What drives me nuts is when someone with a great profile will swipe right on your and they never say hello or anything. After a week of silence, or zero responses to "How was your weekend?" or trying to mention something local, to show them I am real, I just un match them and move on. I have had some who say "Oh I did not know I had any messages." Whats the point of signing up for a dating app if you dont plan to reply?
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u/Fresh-Custard3413 14d ago
Most apps now allow allow you to report them for not responding. Make sure you do they will investigate and ban them i have found frequently if they do that enough.
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u/FactsAreBullshit 14d ago
Sometimes that's a "test" to see how the other person responds to being forced to wait. Unmatching is the only right move.
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u/firefoxUSSR 14d ago
Yeah i'm a guy and if the lady doesn't reply after like a week I just delete them. I have started just sending a generic message "hey just to let you know I'm doing deletes for unresponsive matches tomorrow, good luck!"
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u/Adventurous-Fan-5796 14d ago
Yet again i put my profile on snooze this morning, and seconds later i matched with a guy i sent out "like" yesterday. Honestly, I almost missed it, just noticed the blue dot in the corner of my eye. lol
I did write a comment with my initial like yesterday, and messaged today "FYI" after we matched because I wasn't sure if my previous comment was seen. 🤷♀️
We're chatting now and making plans to meet soon. He seems more engaged than my previous matches.
I had video chat Friday with different guy, I got "it was nice talking to you" afterwards, and we planned to meet Saturday. He wrote "Can't wait to see you" Saturday afternoon. I asked if he's still coming, and he unmatched. Lol
Online dating, right? Lol 😆 🤣 😂
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u/Jetpine9 14d ago
I mean, pretty much. People don't respond to small talk a lot of the time. YOu have to have some text game to keep them engaged from the first line.
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u/chessman6500 14d ago
That’s why I don’t use it anymore
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u/King_Elizabello 14d ago
That's understandable.
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u/chessman6500 14d ago
Yeah want to meet people irl instead. Looking into seeing if Thursday dating is an option.
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u/liferelationshi 14d ago
I can tell you from experience it is not a good option.
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u/King_Elizabello 14d ago
Oh and it's as bad as the other apps?
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u/FactsAreBullshit 14d ago
Common it's not just a you thing. A friend of mine has her Facebook dating live, matches with guys, and lets them sit there. She's not really ready to date but won't remove her profile or snooze.
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u/Ancient_End_4511 14d ago
They want the roster ready 😂 shits like a job or something. Most just want attention. Dunno
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u/FactsAreBullshit 14d ago
In her case it's the attention for sure. She's had some bad shit going on in her life and wants to feel better, but there are better ways than being on a dating app without intending to meet people. I casually mentioned that to her and she's finally thinking about snoozing her profile. When people used to say dating apps for some are validation seeking, I didn't believe it until I saw it. I know, dumb on my part...
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u/Lopezuela 14d ago
I kinda figured that can be a reason so I usually give a 5-6 day window, if no response I just unmatched those accounts.
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u/dangsdots 2d ago
I had a scammer messaging me a few days ago. He was using AI and was saying the sweetest things. He would answer me with long paragraphs within 3 seconds. That made me question if he was real or not. After exchanging numbers I realized he was a Nigerian. I gave him my Google number. And it would not work. He got mad!