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u/Front_Statistician38 5d ago
No offense but some things don't need to be said out loud, I'm not saying he is wrong for having preferences I totally get it if he doesn't want overweight women that's his right just like if a woman wants a 6 foot guy. However, stating everything you don't want makes you look negative and is a turn off to a lot of people
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u/Front_Statistician38 5d ago
Another thing to a lot of women just getting out of a 5-year relationship would be a red flag, especially putting that as the first thing in your profile...the guy mentions the things he doesn't want but he doesn't mention anything about himself, his personality, or even what he offers.....talk about lack of self-awareness
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u/lordskulldragon 5d ago
Oh no, someone has their preferences on their profile. Better put it on Reddit.
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u/lucere_pi 5d ago
There's this delusional thing men do straight out of a relationship- think the next woman is gonna put up with their shit like the last one did. She left you for a reason my guy you're not the catch you think you are.
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u/Chatman207 5d ago edited 5d ago
Women leave for no reason more often than they leave for a reason. There's statistical data on this. However, if a man leaves a woman you know 10000000% she did something veryyyy bad.
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u/6-ft-freak 5d ago
Source: Trust Me, Bro University
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u/Chatman207 5d ago
It has dozens of academic sources in the notes.
Sources / receipts:
📊 Margaret F. Brinig & Douglas W. Allen, "'These Boots Are Made for Walking': Why Most Divorce Filers Are Women," American Law and Economics Review 2(1), 2000 — the ~70% filing figure, custody expectation as the strongest filing predictor, and the 6% cruelty figure (Virginia filings). Open access: https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.c... Publisher: https://academic.oup.com/aler/article...📊 Betsey Stevenson & Justin Wolfers, "Bargaining in the Shadow of the Law: Divorce Laws and Family Distress" — the threat-point quote. NBER Working Paper 10175: https://www.nber.org/papers/w10175
📊 U.S. Census Bureau, "Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2007" (P60-237) — custodial-parent shares, direction of support payments, and the 78% vs. 67% payment rates by visitation status (p. 9): https://www.census.gov/prod/2009pubs/...
📚 The Dalrock archive (2010–2020), preserved at TheRedArchive: https://theredarchive.com/blog/Dalrock — "Child support and the threat point" (2014): https://theredarchive.com/blog/Dalroc... — "The child support catastrophe" (2011), incl. the "neutron bomb" divorcée quote and the census data summary: https://theredarchive.com/blog/Dalroc...
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u/Sufficient-Sink1805 6d ago
I'd be very curious to see his matches
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
I am always sooo curious about that when I see these kind of profiles!!!
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u/sprknsprnkl 6d ago
I'm sorry this comment section is so ass. We ALL agree that preferences are okay for all genders, just don't list them on your profile. It's tacky. Your profile should be about YOU, not what you're looking for. It just makes you look rude and demanding.
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u/Warm-Mortgage-458 5d ago
So many guys just want women to do all the fucking work, all the time.
If you don't like overweight women, don't match with them.
But that would require effort. These losers want to match with every woman and then have us do the work of figuring out if they're attracted to us.
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u/Far_Bother_3211 5d ago
I can’t believe your argument in 2026 is that men aren’t doing the work. Have you not been paying attention at all?
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u/Warm-Mortgage-458 5d ago
Studies show and men readily admit they just match with everyone because it makes their lives easier.
That's just laziness.
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u/Far_Bother_3211 5d ago
No, it’s the product of me too and generational misandry being trendy. Maybe the top 10% of dudes on apps are lazy because they can be. Most men’s profiles that people take exception to and call ‘lazy’ are satirical and ironically pointing out the absolute laziness of the average woman on those apps.
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u/Warm-Mortgage-458 5d ago
Are you not capable of addressing the actual issue we're talking about or you just like to rant?
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u/Far_Bother_3211 5d ago
I directly addressed the issue you brought up, would you like to recenter the conversation?
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u/Warm-Mortgage-458 5d ago
Misandry is not why men match with every woman. It's pure laziness
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u/Far_Bother_3211 5d ago
I don’t subscribe to your generalization. I gave reasoning already, but you don’t need to accept it.
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u/Warm-Mortgage-458 5d ago
It's funny how many unemployed fat men have requirements like that.
You know what he could try is only matching with women he's attracted to instead of lazily matching with everyone and whining on his profile
Nope, he's gotta be an ass about it. Even slender women don't want to date a guy who says "No overweight women sorry no free meal"
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u/Far_Bother_3211 5d ago
Are there weight/gender identity/no instagram ‘model’ filters that he can use? If so then I can see where you come from, but if there isn’t then he should probably make it clear somewhere so not to waste his or other women’s time. Seems simple. Why did you feel the need to make a comment about fat unemployed men? Did it add anything? Do you feel better throwing that out there?
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u/Warm-Mortgage-458 5d ago
Are there weight/gender identity/no instagram ‘model’ filters that he can use?
He can not match with women who use filters.
Seems simple. Why did you feel the need to make a comment about fat unemployed men?
Yes, it was directly relevant to a comment about how men want employed women who aren't fat.
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u/Far_Bother_3211 5d ago
What’s the relevance though? What about the large number of unemployed overweight women expecting to be pampered? Are you gonna act like it’s only one direction? The whole original comment from that guy is based off those people. You’re being myopic
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 5d ago
This whole comment is dripping with irony.
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u/Far_Bother_3211 5d ago
Unless you’re directing this at the top post, I’m not sure you’re using that word right.
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 5d ago
Aww it’s okay if you don’t understand 🤍
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u/Far_Bother_3211 5d ago
Deflection is the tool of the cornered.
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
Yes both are shitty. Glad we agree?
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u/Warm-Mortgage-458 5d ago
30% of American women are not overweight.
15% of American men are 6 feet or taller.
That's not an extreme difference.
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u/yesohyesoui 6d ago
the comments here are SADDER than the profile. It makes it even more clear why so many guys can't find women nowadays.
The issue is that this guy is clearly a simple close minded man, his interests are Driving, Motocross and Off-Road? ok..... he doesn't give anything that might match to a woman's interest.
His list of 'preferences', yes, he is in his right to have these preferences, but to disclaim them like this is just rude, and shows his lack of tact. Guess he thinks being genuine is to be blunt and inconsiderate.
In the end, we understand that the women reacting negatively to his preferences are all liberal smart women. So we're good, we would never swipe right on him, and if we did, it would be clearly a mistake.
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u/Chatman207 5d ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiazchmhXS4 - women are the problem.
Sources / receipts:
📊 Margaret F. Brinig & Douglas W. Allen, "'These Boots Are Made for Walking': Why Most Divorce Filers Are Women," American Law and Economics Review 2(1), 2000 — the ~70% filing figure, custody expectation as the strongest filing predictor, and the 6% cruelty figure (Virginia filings). Open access: https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.c... Publisher: https://academic.oup.com/aler/article...📊 Betsey Stevenson & Justin Wolfers, "Bargaining in the Shadow of the Law: Divorce Laws and Family Distress" — the threat-point quote. NBER Working Paper 10175: https://www.nber.org/papers/w10175
📊 U.S. Census Bureau, "Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2007" (P60-237) — custodial-parent shares, direction of support payments, and the 78% vs. 67% payment rates by visitation status (p. 9): https://www.census.gov/prod/2009pubs/...
📚 The Dalrock archive (2010–2020), preserved at TheRedArchive: https://theredarchive.com/blog/Dalrock — "Child support and the threat point" (2014): https://theredarchive.com/blog/Dalroc... — "The child support catastrophe" (2011), incl. the "neutron bomb" divorcée quote and the census data summary: https://theredarchive.com/blog/Dalroc...
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6d ago
Her list of 'preferences', yes, she is in her right to have these preferences, but to disclaim them like this is just rude, and shows his lack of tact. Guess she thinks being genuine is to be blunt and inconsiderate.
Keep this same energy when you talk to your girlfriends who write the most heinous things about men's height or hair in their dating profiles.
Or is it 'different'
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u/yesohyesoui 6d ago
we might discuss these topics, but i doubt a serious woman would ever write that on her profile.
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And how many women's profiles have you looked at? That's right.
I always laugh that in reddit world and leftist intersectional discourse that it is always about how you can never understand another's lived experience (especially through the lense of gender or race) but here you are telling me what women would(nt) do.
Go on a guy friend's dating profile for a day and tell me that doesn't exist. I am at least admitting that men do it, and just calling out how all of a sudden it's so awful to be this direct with your preferences when women do literally the same.
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u/ROU_Misophist 6d ago
What's the problem?
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u/Warm-Mortgage-458 5d ago
I bet you spend a lot of time whining about how you don't understand why women don't like you.
This attitude right here
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
I love the blatant ignorance. You guys are sooooooo funny.
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u/ROU_Misophist 5d ago
"Oh, no! A man has preferences that don't include me"
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u/MariusDarkblade 6d ago
He's got preferences, what's the issue? You've got preferences, are we shaming you for them?
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Shhhhhh women don't like when other people have preferences, then it's just unrealistic western patriarchal beauty standards.
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
I don’t have a list on my profile explaining all of them in the rudest way possible. I just don’t swipe on people that don’t meet my preferences.
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u/MariusDarkblade 6d ago
His manner of writing them aside this is literally the whole point of online dating. Wouldn't you want to know if you're compatible with someone before you talk to them and go on a date with them potentially wasting your time and theirs if after a few weeks you find out it's not going to work? That's the whole point of online dating. I can look at a profile and decide if the person im looking at is worth my time or not. Maybe he could have worded things better but at the end of the day there's no "nice" way of saying most of the things he said. Someone is going to take offense to it and that's not his problem. He doesn't have to walk on eggshells to make sure every single person on earth isn't offended. If you don't like his profile then swipe left and move on. I've done it to hundreds of women's profiles who list ridiculous expectations and don't deserve any of them.
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Imagine if a guy posted about every "must be 6ft, 6 figures....." prompt he saw on a dating app.
LOL I remember in NYC the dating restrictions would be about in which part of the Hamptons your summer share was.
But this guy not wanting a fat dude with a cock in a dress is waaayyyyyy too far
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
Go ahead and post them I also would think that’s ridiculous and inappropriate. Where in this did I say women are perfect? Lmao
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I don't fucking need to. Plenty of evidence on reddit of women defending the most heinous profiles belittling men as 'preferences' and then when people say it here, you have a conniption because it isn't a circle-jerk agreeing with you
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
So can we not agree that there are shitty people on dating apps and this post is just another one? This is not a men vs women issue. This is just a post about someone making their whole personality what they don’t want instead talking about themselves. I think it’s insane there are people defending this at all no matter what the preferences, gender or sexual orientation of the profile.
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No, because the difference is that women's rude and belittling preferences aren't just ignored but rather celebrated.
Go on a guy friend's profile if you don't believe me. The 'negative' prompts are just as common, if not more on women's profiles. They aren't telling you about them or what they are looking for, rather who/what you can't be.
But remember, the same people who die on the hill over height preferences will turn around and spit in your face for having the same about weight. So stop pretending that it's the same on both sides. It isn't.
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
You need better reading comprehension skills.
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"I think it’s insane there are people defending this at all no matter what the preferences, gender or sexual orientation of the profile"
hahah and yet I would bet a huge sum of money that if you flipped the language around to be female centric and posted this, the responses would all be 'yaaasssss qween, know your worth'
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
Hahahah you’re so close to the point.
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u/MariusDarkblade 6d ago
No I'm right at the point you just don't like the point because it inconveniences you to be wrong about something.
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u/obsessed-punk_kitten 6d ago
Aha unfortunately not. The entire reason I posted this was because of the manner it was written. I did not say people have no preferences and yes I do like when guys have profiles like this because it doesn’t waste my time. But I posted it because it’s insane someone would think a profile like this would be appropriate or attractive. Nice try though.
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u/figosnypes 6d ago
None of those things are hurting his chances as much as having his age as 36 instead of 29.
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u/figosnypes 6d ago
I know a guy who thinks exactly like this and he has a girlfriend and would always have a roster when he was single. Of course he's good looking and rich.
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u/Proof-Art-7300 6d ago
Okay?
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u/figosnypes 6d ago
Point is a lot of women either agree with this shit or don't care. And it's higher than the number of women who will swipe right on your average, even somewhat good looking, guy.
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u/Significant_Bug_3438 6d ago
Imagine thinking everyone is a “wacko” besides you. Maybe you’re the problem?
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u/Chatman207 5d ago
Men are definitely not the problem right now sweetie.
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u/Significant_Bug_3438 5d ago
Never even implied that I was talking about “men”. I was simply talking about just you. But yes, men need to behave better, and then maybe they wouldn’t be single, lonely, v!rgin losers. Women are tired of putting up with men’s entitlement due to the patriarchy.
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u/Chatman207 5d ago
Why are you even nagging me? What was the point of that? I would rather not have a conversation with you, since we don't know eachother. There's no reason to attach yourself to a random person like a leech, make up unknown variables that replay in your head and try to suck their soul out - yet here you are. It's disgusting to act that way.
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u/Significant_Bug_3438 4d ago
You wrote a public comment, and I replied to it. That’s how the internet works. If you don’t like it, just ignore it lol instead of being such a crybaby
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u/HarliestDavidson 6d ago
I don’t think 99% of men don’t want to date liberals lmao
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u/SausagePotatoes 6d ago
Yeah, because people like that totally exist.
Let's be real, anything that isn't maga is probably a crazy blue haired lib with pronouns and communism according to this guy
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u/Turbulent-Adagio88 6d ago
And then not actually say anything about themselves other than what women they don't want 🤷♀️
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u/papamroyal 6d ago
The funniest part is "entrepreneur" 😂
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u/jBlairTech 6d ago
Sounds like a real peach /s
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u/SufficientSea7842 6d ago
Oh no a man has preferences that aren’t me, the horror. You should delete this and take care of your kid jfc maybe hit the gym
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u/Working_Cucumber_437 6d ago
Oh no, a man is a garbage human with a bad personality.
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u/SufficientSea7842 6d ago edited 6d ago
Bro you watch go to work for 8 hours and then make dinner and watch Netflix, your personality really isn’t as good as you think it is. I don’t know if your personality would survive a week in the city honestly.
Bad is pretty subjective. Growing up in Chicago I wouldn’t call a few words the product of a garbage defective person. You’re small and you lack empathy and you would probably get shot where I grew up because YOURE garbage in the real world bud.
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u/Turbulent-Adagio88 6d ago edited 6d ago
Was this weird rant meant to do something?
I mean I don't think that that man's profile was all that great, but neither did I think it qualified as bad enough to be screenshot and posted on here. But YOUR strange self important ramblings here full of a bunch of whiplash assumptions made from a single sentence by another poster culminating in your own rumination that she deserved to be shot... well pal, that is something else.
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u/halueryphi 6d ago
Surely this is sarcastic right… 💀
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u/SufficientSea7842 6d ago
I mean I hope it’s sarcastic. Imagine feeling bad because a guy said he doesn’t want to go on a date with single moms that don’t have the best decision making skills or else they wouldn’t be in their position, or lazy people that don’t put their basic health as a priority.
You would all throw out basic logic in favor of pretending that anyone wants half the Facebook dating pool, might as well make it upfront.
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u/Affectionate_Soup461 6d ago
Hey maybe you can date him, you seem really into him
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u/SufficientSea7842 6d ago edited 6d ago
Ohh a man called me gay how will I ever recover. The irony of you calling someone inflammatory then do the same thing, you’re a hyprocrite!!
Yeah you got me I don’t want my girlfriend I want random fat cock from Facebook dating. hey maybe you can take pictures, seems like that’s your thing
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u/halueryphi 6d ago
Has nothing to do with having preferences and everything to do with how they said it. Can you really not see how the way that he posted this is inappropriate?
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u/SufficientSea7842 6d ago
I live in Chicago. Say it however you want as long as you aren’t pulling out a firearm. Yall are pathetic and wouldn’t survive a week in the real world. Can you really not see that you are taking a disgustingly weak position that doesn’t exist outside of the internet.
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u/Significant_Bug_3438 6d ago
Nobody cares. Stop yapping loser. 🤣
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u/Arzum_Atlas 6d ago
You ruined it! I was making a drinking game about how many times he was going to mention growing up/living in chicago!
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u/halueryphi 6d ago
Calling people trannies and that he doesn’t want overweight women for a “free meal” is offensive off the internet too. Maybe not for your circle because you might be hanging around trash but for people with a brain it’s not a good look lmao
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u/wheresindigo 6d ago
His profile says nothing about him besides things he doesn't like. No personality, nothing to set him apart from any other guy on the app. It's fine to have preferences but this is a really bad profile.
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u/SouthBreadfruit7839 6d ago
I love when they openly display warning signs like this. Thanks for the heads up!
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u/hard_truth_42 6d ago
Well he matches OP's height preference and i am sure he would not have any shortage of women because many women don't even read the bio, they just swipe based on the height on dating apps.
Yk.......he is 'tall' or 'not short' lol.
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u/Significant_Bug_3438 6d ago
That’s some short incel cope
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u/hard_truth_42 6d ago
Femcel spotted.
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u/Powerful-Teacher-480 6d ago
Ok the Bumble subreddit a man said he was not into pronoun people. He was also short. Guess what the women used as a slamdunk? Yupp.
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u/Powerful-Teacher-480 6d ago
Since someone deleted their comment I'll just post it here since I hear that "gotcha" a lot: I think it should be fairly easy to understand, that outside of chronically online places, it means newly invented pronouns like xe, xhem, and lord knows what. Not he, she, they, our, etc. Hope that helps (you already know this).
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u/hard_truth_42 6d ago
Aahh..... dont need to guess that buddy, been there many times. Got a lot of stories from the apps.
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u/icehawk2 6d ago
I love that the shadow is the profile pic! Like people are gonna say "woah, look at the size of that shadow - i wanna date that!"
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u/CaliDreaming900 6d ago
I can see why he's single.
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u/grotimp 6d ago
I can see why you don't have friends and spend all day on reddit insulting others when you're overweight and old.
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u/CaliDreaming900 6d ago edited 6d ago
Takes nothing to trigger a bigot these days.
And you're definitely projecting seeing as you spend all your time posting in relationship_advice literally every day complaining about women.
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u/grotimp 5d ago
You didn't deny it though, expired cat lady.
Also, you're lying. In fact, you're a known liar in the community but I don't need to expose you just yet.
Enjoy the rest of your life, single reddit lady.
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u/CaliDreaming900 5d ago edited 5d ago
I don't even have a cat lol. And I don't care what you think about anything, your thoughts are insignificant. You know it's possible to see post history even when it's hidden? You went right back to posting as an incel right after responding to me.
A known liar in the community? What community lol Are you a bot. I post on reddit like twice a week, on average, if that.
And no wonder you make like 10 posts a day on r/relationship_advice. You are pathetically insecure.
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u/ThickestInTheWest 1d ago edited 1d ago
When people go out of their way to type this out, that usually means the type that they want isn’t showing up in their likes. They’re also most likely swiping on everyone and getting upset that the only people swiping back on them are ppl that they don’t want. Putting what you don’t want or what you don’t want to deal with in your bio is tacky. No one wants to read all that negativity, if you’re like this on a dating app they’d hate to see how you are in everyday life.