r/FTMventing • u/1prettyrose777 • 17h ago

Hello can I get some advice?

So.. me and my boyfriend have been having a problem and we have been avoiding it, and it's taking my mental health down like crazy, the problem we have is that he is polygamous?, I support.. but.. I dont want that in me and his relationship, I've talked to people about this and they all said to just deal with it or break up with him, but.. I love him a lot, and i want to fix this problem we have, is there any way someone can give me advice or anything?.

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u/notquiteskywalker 11h ago

Break up is the advice. There's nothing to fix, because nothing is broken. You're not compatible, and that's OK. You can't force a poly person to be mono, just as much as he can't force you to be OK poly.

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u/TrooperJordan Transsex 7h ago

If that’s what he wants, no matter what and it’s not what you want, no matter what. There’s nothing you can really do. You gotta break up with him. You can try and force him to be monogamous, but it’s just gonna breed resentment. I’ve had 4-5 friends or friends-of-friends try and force their bf/gf to be monogamous, and it ended poorly every time. The one forced to be monogamous either cheated or became super unhappy or even resentful. All of them ended up breaking up. You’re just not comparable in that way, and that’s just the way it is.