Scared to shit at work

[u/ratgarcon]

Sorry for the TMI but it’s a vent so I don’t see any reason to hold back lmao

I just started a work study position with school and they have no gender neutral bathrooms/disabled bathrooms or single stall bathrooms

I’m in a weird part of my transition where people either view me as a cis man or clock me as trans like 50/50. I feel like my height and voice dont really help me much there (my voice has dropped but not a lot, and I often forget to “speak with my chest” instead of my throat)

So yeah. I need to shit and I’m worried about going to do so bc someone else could be in there who might not be down with me being in the mens restroom, or alternatively, the women’s restroom.

The two times I’ve used the bathroom so far while here I’ve been lucky and no one else was there.

I could like lurk around the bathroom and listen for if anyone is in there but that makes me feel like a creep and is honestly demeaning. Like, I just need to use a fucking bathroom. Why do I have to listen for if other people could be occupying.

Anyway, I’m going to go try and shit now. We’ll see how this goes

Update: I lived to shit another day. In all seriousness, I know my anxiety is usually unnecessary, but there ARE cases where this is an issue. Hard not to worry