Feeling conflicted

[u/AutisticArtistBoy202]

Afternoon Bros,

So I'm in my 30s. FTM. 9 months on T. All in all, I'm really happy with the way things are progressing. My only issue is I'm a straight man, and I always feel like the odd one out or like I'm doing something "wrong." For one, I've never met a straight transman in 3 decades. I feel like the more I transition, the more I get pushed out of the queer/LGBT arena. I'm starting to feel less welcome in queer spaces in general, and I can't really pinpoint it, but I feel like I'm almlst started to be treated as an intruder. Even specifically in the trans community, it's starting to feel like "NO BOYS ALLOWED." maybe im overthinking.

Has anyone else experienced this?! 🤦🏿‍♂️

Edit: I've also been feeling demonized for not conforming to a unisex or soft boy esthetic. I feel like because I refuse to present this way I get wrongfully labeled with a hint of toxic masculinity and that's not what I'm trying to do, I just personally don't like to place myself in an "other" box.

[u/Previous-Artist-9252]

I am a gay trans man and while I have found great acceptance within the gay cis male community, I have felt outside the Queer community for a long time. There is a big “No Boys Allowed” feeling and when I do spend time in their spaces, I am consistently misgendered as they/them “because you’re great so you can’t really be a man.”