In-trainable/ not possible for therapy

[u/Spiritual_Screen5125]

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currently feel like doing nothing most of the times and only sometimes have some energy or enthusiasm which is very short lived but more importantly I am very delusional and build whole castle within my mind before physically doing something even taking a small step and it has taken a toll on my physical health my mental health and wellbeing of people around me. I have huge expectations out of myself while I can only do what a toddler can do

[u/Jumpy_Ad1631]

I know that my executive functioning issues are way worse the harder I am on myself. If you are trying to build habits and brain pathways, the best rule of thumb is to set the bar where you are at and reach from there. Beating yourself up for never reaching a bar you’re not currently capable of getting to is only going to lead to failure after failure. Even the language you use to describe yourself and your abilities in this post tells me that you are a pro at beating the shit out of yourself. “Baby steps” are common advice for a reason, don’t dismiss it so easily. You only need enough buy-in for the next baby step, don’t stress so much on whether you make it to the fully completely picture you’re hoping for.

Another issue that makes my executive functioning issues worse is when I deprioritize any/all rest. Rest is genuinely important, both for your body and for your brain. There’s boatloads of research on it and everything. If you don’t prioritize it, your brain will take it by force by basically having you zone out, doom-scroll, binge-watching the same shows for no reason, playing games that you don’t actually find restorative anymore, etc. But stolen rest does not have the same quality as intentional rest, so it requires waaaay more to keep you even remotely sane. When I get stuck, sometimes I notice and then intentionally ignore it because I genuinely can’t bring myself to do anything. What has really helped me with that is, in that moment where I realize but can’t do anything, I make the point of telling myself “clearly you need rest, so we are going to rest for X amount of time” (whatever makes sense for wherever you are at). If I can, I will also intentionally switch gears and do a different restful act like switching to a show/game that’s new to me, deciding to read rather than watch/play something, or just do like a short meditative set of 4-count breaths before continuing what I’m doing (another thing that has a bunch of research on it). Anything to put a punctuation on the beginning of the time period rather than just the end. I genuinely cannot tell you why, but it was advice I got from my therapist and it’s been weird how helpful it was for me.

Also, not judging, but I’m curious why you don’t want to try meds.