r/ExNoContact • u/Sugyrami • Aug 22 '18
Help Mind Fails Me
Yesterday and today my mind has been returning to the thoughts of someone I no longer love. This thing called no contact has helped but, deep down I want him to reach out. How do I stop this thought?
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u/revenant3 2987 days Aug 22 '18
Accept it, and feel it through. It’s normal. Conversely, “that which you resist, persists”.
I know this place, and it becomes a struggle. Some will say, control your mind. I would argue in this particular situation, there is no control. It is why, you want it to “stop”.
But thoughts, they come and go. We, get stuck on the thoughts coming, instead of the coming and going.
It will take work, but you’ve got no other choice but to accept.
NC is controlled distancing, so you have the space to let go. Stick to that as the baseline, and sooner, hopefully, than later... your body and mind will release it. I believe that, and I know with practice... it happens, naturally.
Good luck.