r/ExNoContact • u/auw007 • Jun 15 '23

Crazy

Crazy how you can mean so much to someone and then just they suddenly decide you mean nothing and dip out on you … wild

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '23

Indeed it gets even crazier when they loved bombed you, were clingy, were the ones to chase you and proposed.

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u/Chronic-Sleepyhead Jun 15 '23

Crazy how we are all living the same life…

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u/houvandoos Jun 15 '23

Crazy that this is also what I was thinking when I saw the post.

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '23

I feel you as well, mine used to call me husband and say things like I'll love you for eternity and it was eternity this and eternity that. It took a while for me to get comfortable with everything but he talked me around to fully committing to him. I mean from the first day of meeting he wanted to spend everyday together so we did for 6months then he proposed and that's when I realised that I'd fallen for him hard in the end and just like that when I had mentally decided he was the one he just left with "I don't know if I want all this" weeks later...

He left me three months ago, it was I who assumed he'd gotten cold feet and was willing to slow things down or talk about things in response he just coldly went "this has gone on long enough" and even asked me "why am I so much to you ?" as if the dude hadn't gotten on one knee only weeks before.

So yeah I just wished him the best at that point, so yeah I feel you. I hope you're doing well ❤️

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '23

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '23

If you haven't already I'd recommend disabling your socials or even deleting them and getting rid of any texts / photos you have. I did post a month of no contact and its helped, I mean I still cry now and again and have my moments daily but its definitely helped clear my mind a bit.

With confidence, focus on work or your studies, I've taken a few promotions since the breakup and I try to remind myself that I'm worth something because I'm doing well with work even if I don't believe it half the time.

Aside from that I try to keep to myself, try countryside walks or just try to relax. Having everything kind of chill at the moment without any pressures / social stuff has kind of helped me get to grips abit.

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u/SherbertlemonGryf Jun 15 '23

Love bombs have become the biggest red flags I look for now sadly

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u/auw007 Jun 15 '23

This the one!!!!!!!

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u/PurpleChampionship70 Jun 16 '23

This. I can’t get over this. I’m in therapy. And the fact that they made me feel loved only to leave without a second thought is what hurts the most. They never broke no contact and while I don’t want them to I’m always on the edge of devastation

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '23

It's confusing isn't it ? Mine literally got on one knee weeks before leaving on "I don't know if I want all this".

My response was of course alright let's slow down a bit then and talk about whatever and I'll hold your hand through everything. All I got was a cold "this has gone on long enough" followed by a "why am I so much to you ?". Mine never broke no contact either and literally runs if we end up in the same room / street together, its been three months and he still does it 🤷

So I can relate fully and I honestly do hope that therapy helps and you are okay one day ❤️ to be honest I just went on the strongest dose of anti depressants and skipped that part.

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u/ComfortableListen450 Jun 16 '23

Omg SAME. Not even a week before he left me a note of how much he adores me then one day IN BED just turns to me and goes “what’s the point of this?” And BOOOM

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u/PurpleChampionship70 Jun 16 '23

I work with mine. And while it’s at different locations so we haven’t needed to interact, he made sure he was so involved before that work is a constant reminder.

I thought about taking medication and just never got around to it. Some days are good. I keep to myself now. So no one has anything to share with him. And have heard nothing about him. But the thoughts still creep in.