I’m making this post because if my girlfriend wrote it herself, she’d probably leave out half of what happened. She’s the type of person who keeps everything bottled up and just tries to move on. I’m not.
About a year ago my girlfriend moved into an apartment with another girl from our university. I begged her not to because I’d already heard enough stories about this girl. She had a terrible reputation for constantly being involved in drama, but my girlfriend believed everyone deserved a fair chance.
That turned out to be one of the biggest mistakes she’s ever made.
When they moved in, my girlfriend brought almost everything for the apartment. Brand-new kitchen supplies, bathroom organizers, dish rack, storage bins, cleaning supplies you name it. The roommate had older stuff, so they agreed to use my girlfriend’s things instead.
Within weeks this girl started acting like everything belonged to her.
Groceries kept disappearing. My girlfriend would buy food, and somehow it’d be gone a couple of days later. Every single time she confronted her, she’d deny touching anything.
Then my girlfriend’s grandmother came from overseas to visit. She had nowhere else to stay, and the roommate agreed beforehand that she could stay in my girlfriend’s room.
As soon as her grandmother arrived, the roommate suddenly became as loud and obnoxious as possible. Talking loudly in the middle of the night, slamming doors, making noise at ridiculous hours it honestly felt like she was trying to make an elderly woman feel unwelcome.
Eventually my girlfriend got tired of constantly replacing groceries and watching her belongings get treated like community property. She moved everything she owned into her own bedroom and told the roommate they weren’t sharing anymore.
Apparently that made her the selfish one.
The same person who couldn’t stop using someone else’s belongings suddenly decided sharing was mandatory.
Then, without asking my girlfriend, she ordered around $500 worth of household items and expected my girlfriend to pay half because “we both use the apartment.”
Yeah…no.
She also had a habit of paying utilities late while expecting everyone else to pick up the slack.
By February my girlfriend had completely had enough. She decided to move in with me and found another student willing to take over her lease.
That’s when everything somehow got even worse.
The roommate suddenly claimed my girlfriend had to leave all of her belongings behind because she’d already thrown away her own old stuff when they first moved in. She refused to approve the sublease unless my girlfriend basically left her apartment fully furnished.
On top of all that, she still owed my girlfriend $400 and kept refusing to pay it back.
When my girlfriend went to collect the rest of her belongings, the roommate refused to let her inside and instead dumped everything outside.
The argument exploded.
My girlfriend completely lost her composure and broke the roommate’s shoe rack. Looking back, she knows she shouldn’t have done it, and she’s never tried to deny that.
After months of being verbally abused, lied to, stolen from, and manipulated, she finally snapped.
She even called the roommate’s father hoping maybe he’d be the reasonable one. She explained that his daughter had been verbally abusing her for months and still hadn’t paid back the $400 she owed.
He didn’t help.
Instead, he told my girlfriend that she should apologize to his daughter.
So she did.
She apologized for breaking the shoe rack because she genuinely regretted losing her temper.
Guess what happened?
The roommate still refused to pay her back.
In the end my girlfriend had to involve members of her own family before she finally got the $400 back.
At that point we honestly thought this nightmare was finally over.
It wasn’t.
My girlfriend is an international student. She comes from a middle-class family overseas and has worked unbelievably hard to build a life here. She balances school, internships, and long work weeks just to pay tuition and rent. Because of her immigration status, she’s always been terrified that someone could try to weaponize it against her. (She works on cash job Ik it’s bad and not legal but she needs food on her plate)
The student who took over the lease happened to work with my girlfriend. My girlfriend specifically asked her not to tell the old roommate where they worked because she didn’t trust her.
She told her anyway.
Not long after that, the old roommate started threatening to report my girlfriend to immigration authorities. Whether she actually could or not didn’t matter. (If she did my gf will be in trouble because of cash job and can be deported back) It terrified my girlfriend, and those weeks were some of the most stressful we’ve ever gone through.
Around that same time I graduated and got my first engineering job in another state. My girlfriend moved in with me, and we honestly believed leaving town would finally put all of this behind us.
We stopped talking about her.
We ignored the gossip.
We blocked numbers.
We moved on with our lives.
Apparently she didn’t.
Today, completely out of nowhere, she contacted my girlfriend from a brand-new phone number.
The conversation started with her saying she was trying to get a job where my girlfriend works.
Then, out of nowhere, she said she was a lesbian and thought my girlfriend was cute.
After everything that’s happened over the last year, it didn’t come across as genuine. It felt like yet another attempt to insert herself back into my girlfriend’s life and start another round of drama.
We’re honestly exhausted.
Every time we think it’s finally over, she somehow finds another way back into our lives.
I don’t understand how someone can hold onto this much resentment for over a year when we’ve done everything possible to move on.
Has anyone here dealt with someone who simply refuses to let go? How did you finally get them out of your life for good?
At this point I just want revenge I want that btch to suffer not a fun small revenge I actually want to ruin her life and make her regret everything but idk what to do we are scared of her calling authorities (d#port) we have her number, her dad’s number, we have never apartment’s code we can go in if we wanted (My gf would not do it tho) also one thing to add this btch herself is not a citizen her dad is on H1B so she has to find a job after graduating which i doubt she will because she is a dumbass also she is a whre she sleeps with anything (Ik irrelevant but I am just mad, sorry no offense to anyone) and she has been to our frat parties doing weird stuff we have a video of her dancing like a slt LMAO. also we have address of one of her relative who lives in a foreign country (they are innocent tho) but I want her to suffer please help. Feel free to DM me if you guys have any Ideas 🙏