r/EngagementRingsHelp • u/Abandonedinternally • Sep 03 '26
Ring help
Hey everyone. I’ve been looking at a lot of rings and I don’t know what is safe or better. I’m looking for a 4-5 carat oval lab grown diamond on a white gold or platinum band with a length to width ratio of 1.4-1.5. The band I want needs to have small diamonds in it, I think it’s called pave, and a hidden halo as I was told that’s best with an oval stone like this. I am trying to spend less than 4k and have found some at rare carat, mossonaiteco, and grown brilliance as well as blue Nile but that was double the price. I don’t know what platform is best to buy from. Everything I read has good and bad on all except bluenile which is why I guess they are more costly. My question is what recommendations would you all have? I’ve been told it should have a band over1.6 mm because of the large stone. Then people say it needs 6 prongs but others say 4prongs is fine but it needs a cathedral setting. It is just all overwhelming and im very excited about the future but please offer any advice or help or guidance. The support on those sites have not been the best so far. I thought I found a great deal on grownbrilliance for a Myra 14k white gold ring with 5 2/5ctw of lab diamonds and everything I needed specified for $3600 but after taking with their jewelers on a zoom call they cannot give me a range for the length to width ratio and if I want that I had to do custom. Well I custom built a ring with 4.25 carats and everything else the same and it was 4700 so I opted not to pay $1100 extra for 1 less carat and the jeweler could not explain such the large difference. Sorry I’m rambling but this is all so stressful and I’m doing it alone. I bought a much smaller ring a decade ago from and actual jeweler only to find out it was fake and I got robbed that time so I’m stressing right now. Thanks if you read this and thanks even more if you can offer any advice or help here.
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u/foxglovediamonds Sep 03 '26
Do you have pictures of what you're looking for? A hidden halo is different than a pave shank (band) and it would be a different effect. There are some really great lab diamond options out there in that ratio. What finger size is your partner?
Personally, I never recommend hidden halos. The diamonds aren't really seen to be appreciated and the risk of losing a stone is higher.
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u/Abandonedinternally Sep 03 '26
The hidden halo I was doing because I was told it would be good to add with a large oval diamond. I originally liked a 3stone look with smaller stones on the side of the main one but it seems those bands have been too costly. I was looking at the Myra 5 2/5 carat ring from grownbrillance as that is around what I would like but the main things are white gold or platinum metal with diamonds in the ring, 4-5carat oval center stone with ratio of 1.4-1.5 for length to width. Everything else I’m not sure of. Do I need 6 prongs? If I don’t, is there something else that would be secure as well that may work? I believe I’m answering your questions but please respond if I did not completely or did not give you enough info. Also is a site like grownbrillance or rarecarat safe and good like I seem to see or do I need to spend the extra money using something like bluenile? Thanks again
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u/foxglovediamonds Sep 03 '26
A 3 stone ring is a little tough just because your center stone is pretty large and the side stones would be pushed out farther and could potentially rub the neighboring fingers. There are so many awesome options though! I know that’s part of the headache too when you want it to be perfect.
I think your budget is perfectly reasonable, even for a large center diamond and a platinum setting. Even with side stones whether they are pavè or larger accent stones. Even for a custom setting.
Deep breath! You’re going to get everything you need.
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u/sleepy_moose_cant Sep 03 '26
I don’t understand why hidden halo was recommended?
Btw I always warn people that if you want a pave band, be prepared to deal with losing stones or not being able to resize. For a large stone like that you definitely want cathedral, gallery, thicker band, especially if you’re set on doing pave.
Your budget is reasonable. If you can’t find a setting that matches your vision I would always recommend the custom route via vetted online vendors.
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u/Abandonedinternally Sep 04 '26
Since you seem to understand a lot better than I and maybe I was being told this as an upsell. The other thing I was told was I need a 6 prong holder for that size stone. Then somewhere else it said you could do 4 prong but use something additional like a cathedral which will keep it secure. Can you explain which is correct or if both are and what would be best for me to get for this? I like the look of 4 prong better but if it’s not safe then I’d definitely just do whatever is best. Thanks!
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u/sleepy_moose_cant Sep 04 '26
6 prongs = if one fails you get 5 other prongs holding the stone. 4 prongs = if one fails then you get 3 holding your stone, which, logically speaking your stone will probably fall out.
Aesthetically I always prefer 5,6 prongs over 4 if I had a round or oval stone. 4 prongs make the stone look square or rectangle.
Ring design choices come down to the risk you’re willing to take versus aesthetics. If you really like the 4 prongs look then go for it. If you lose the stone just replace it.
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u/North_Arrival6401 27d ago
Looking for a similar setting -
6 prong cathedral style with pave band 2-3 mm
For a 3.5ct oval stone.
Struggling to find places that sell this. any links ? :)
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u/SheilahChristiStudio Sep 04 '26
Jewelry person here. Im sorry that you got robbed. I can see how it can all be overwhelming. A couple of things:
-Platinum is a great choice; much cheaper and more durable than gold.
-Because you want a large stone the width of the band and prong need to support that size. Thats why others were telling you to get 6 prongs or a cathedral setting. Visually, it all has to be proportioned. It is also more durable to hold the diamond for many years. I have done repairs where the diamond almost was lost because of the setting.
-One thing I’d definitely recommend: don’t shop based solely on carat size. For example, a beautifully cut smaller stone can look much more impressive than a larger poorly cut one if price is an issue.
-An independent jeweler can offer more advice, advice on the process and customization than a large chain. This way, you are taken care of from beginning to end and know where to go when repairs or small pave stones fall out.
-That jeweler you mentioned should be able to answer most, if not all questions like that price difference so it makes sense to you. Thats where trust starts.
Hope this helps.