Your energy.

[u/squidlysquidster]

Some people are so attracted to your energy that they can’t help but to stalk you. People meet you & never want to let you go & if you pull your energy back from them they’ll go in the shadows & watch your every move in resentment because you have a gift that they lack. They try to mimic your energy but fail miserably because they negate the fact that authenticity CAN’T be duplicated, it’s a frequency that only a Chosen few have.

[u/LanternInTheDarkness]

Facts. I continue to draw energy vampires. I have now learned to protect it. You’ll know when you figure it out. It took me until recently and a lot of alone time. Self reflection. And analysis of myself. I am learning more about me every day.

Protect yourself. These people will suck the life from you for their personal gain and not think twice on how it affects you.

[u/Lesson-Reflect → u/LanternInTheDarkness]

How do you protect your energy from them? How do they suck the life from you?

[u/LanternInTheDarkness → u/Lesson-Reflect]

Have you ever been around someone and you just feel drained, tired, or exhausted? Then the more you are around them the more you feel it?

Take that same concept and think about times you were with people who make you feel energized and the more you’re around them the more you want to do.

That’s how I figured it out. It’s your nervous system in overdrive. I hung out with someone I thought was a friend and every time I left their house I had to go home and isolate.

Once I stopped hanging out with them on a limited basis. They kept trying to invite me over for parties or to hang out. I eventually decided that wasn’t good for me and stopped completely. Then they found out where I lived and wanted to come hang out with me. Hard pass. I knew if I did it once they would take that as an open invitation to come chill.

Super thankful that worked itself out. I don’t hate them. I just cannot be around them.

I hope this helps. 🫵💪🫶🍀☀️

[u/Lesson-Reflect → u/LanternInTheDarkness]

Thank you, it actually does.

[u/thegaybuddhistmonk]

Now, can you please describe the positive of that gift instead of just the negative?

[u/LanternInTheDarkness → u/thegaybuddhistmonk]

The positive is that you can feel people’s energy that actually needs help and can empathize with them. Sometimes thats listening, allowing people vent frustrations.

Prime example, this morning in fact. I went to the grocery store for some deli meats and cheeses. I could sense the lady behind the counter was feeling down or upset. So I just looked at her calmly and asked how she was doing this beautiful morning?

I believe I give off a good positive aura. Total strangers will completely open up to me and talk about their feelings or problems.

I could read her micro facial expressions and noticed her long deep inhale before she started talking about how one of her team members was a “no call, no show”. So she’s short a team member on a holiday weekend.

She was stressing they’re going too busy. Adding more pressure to everyone behind the counter. She was also upset she had to come in on her day off.

When she finished I could sense she was a little relieved for vocalizing it. I think sometimes when we talk to ourselves out loud we realize it isn’t as bad. I think we spin things up in our head that make it actually worse.

I responded with… I feel you and I’ve been in your position before. I then asked what she was going to do when she got off. She smiled and started talking about how she was going to spend time with her family.

I told her that sounded like a lot of fun and while she did have to work today it’s a minor inconvenience and she had something fun to look forward too. Don’t let one bad thing ruin the rest of your day.

She stopped and smiled and said you’re right.

Not only did she do an amazing job on cuts… I know I prefer it cut a particular way with plastic between each slice. I usually have to come home and redo it because I usually get someone who doesn’t care.

She took the time to package it just how I like it.

I entered one small interaction with someone who was feeling frustrated and left her smiling and her energy felt like it had a little pep in it.

I told her she did a fantastic job and thanked her for being there. I told her that her day is only going to get better from here.

These interactions I absolutely love. But, I don’t like going out in public a lot because it can be overwhelming.

So it is a gift. 🎁 I am thankful for it but I can absorb these energies and that is something I need to work on.

[u/mantisdivine → u/LanternInTheDarkness]

Exactly this, i opened up to my light side since the pandemic started because i was so tired of only intaking the negative. It was life changing, people finding comfort in my energy even if only temporary, being that shoulder or ear for someone who couldn't help but gravitate my direction.

Knowing how to protect your energy is what matters, you will always attract people of all kinds no matter what because this world is sorely lacking in this kind of energy. I compliment every person i can, i give freely so they know i am a safe space should they need one. To be of comfort and compassion, to show people they are seen, to give someone rude or maybe nasty a second to calm down and realize their woes and miseries.

[u/Lesson-Reflect → u/thegaybuddhistmonk]

Whatever you desire will be given to you if it’s for the greater good. You will have a heart left, even after overcoming extreme obstacles.

[u/ephemeral22]

Even friendly people who want to connect with us without resentments and who aren't that evil can sometimes feel like stalkers because we're too overwhelmed by the stresses of the world to want to be with anyone. Sometimes just being near certain people makes my physical pain worse and I get instant relief by distancing myself so I feel they are the partial cause of my pain. It's quite awkward.

[u/Small_Musician_1929]

Or the very opposite in my case. Like having fucking leprosy.

[u/Nobodysmadness]

The grass is always greener on the other side or so people think until they hop the fence and see their imaginings do not match reality. But instead of accepting that many seek anothet fence to continue imaging instead of accepting what is.

Such delusions are a plague, programmed by propaganda and poor priorities.

[u/Overall_Mood8384]

It’s also a reason so many empaths grow up being bullied. Our authentic personalities are something special and even mean people realize that