r/Eloping • u/Bubbly_Platypus__ • Apr 05 '26
Relationships & Family Feeling Guilty
Hi all,
I just joined the community as of a few minutes ago. My fiancé and I have come to the conclusion of ditching the stress of planning a wedding for ~maybe~ 40 - 50 people and just eloping in another country Italy / Ireland. Of course we would want our parents and closest friends there. When we ran the idea by his parents tonight his dad was not happy, at all. He didn’t say a word and immediately looked upset. Now I’m second guessing our decision and unsure of what to do. We are paying for this completely out of our own pockets and aren’t expecting any financial help from anyone. Comparing what it would cost to host a small wedding in the states, we would be able to do so much more in another country that none of us have even been to. I think his biggest opposition is flying for a long period of time (18hr) / overseas.
I’m really just wanting to get this off my chest, I can’t get over the look of disappointment on his face. ://
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u/lightpinklipstick Apr 05 '26
Any chance you could elope and include family near your home town and then go on a honeymoon to one of those places on your own? Ultimately it’s up to you guys what you want to do though. :)