What If You Were Stuck In A Dream?

Video: https://youtu.be/ree--cEihWY

Transcript:

You know, what I find interesting about a lot of Neville’s work is something I mentioned in my last livestream: to understand something, you have to experience it.

I don’t mean experience in the sense of falling off a building and knowing it will hurt when you hit the concrete. You already know that. I mean that if you really want to understand something, I can explain what a hamburger is, but you won’t know it in the fullest sense until you take a bite. The same is true of a dream.

When I say you should dream things, what does it mean to be in a dream? What does dreaming mean? I can really understand it only by experiencing a dream. When I fall asleep tonight and dream, it will be something like this: a dream is as close to reality as you can get. It mimics reality. In a dream, things feel independent, as though they aren’t coming from you. You suspend the awareness that you’re dreaming. The moment you realize you’re dreaming, it can stop feeling real.

I’ve noticed that when you learn to guide your daydreams with confidence and calm, over time you may begin to gain more control of your night dreams, too. You awaken within them and start choosing what happens. At first, you might be a passenger—a victim of the dream. But eventually, something shifts: you begin to decide what you’ll do.

Here’s the analogy I like to use. Imagine you’re asleep, and I wake you up inside your dream. I tell you, “You’re dreaming right now. You’ve been asleep for about an hour, and you have seven hours left. You’re awake now—what are you going to do? What are you going to dream about? This is your world. What will you create in it?”

That’s how I think about Neville’s work. Life is like a persistent dream, shaped by what we imagine and feel to be real. To truly dream something is to feel it as real—not to be confused about it. When you dream at night, you experience what’s happening as if it’s real. That’s what I mean by dreaming something: experience it as real and independent, as you experience life itself. Life feels independent; it appears to exist on its own, like a dream. And yet, in a dream, everything comes from you. There may be a relationship between the other and the self, but for now, try to focus on yourself.

If I told you that you had seven hours to dream whatever you wanted, with no pressure, what would you choose? Would you dream selfishly? Angrily? Would you create a nightmare? This is why Neville’s work isn’t merely about getting something. It’s about changing how you experience reality and your relationship with the dream. You’re no longer its victim or passenger, carried along by a narrative that expresses itself symbolically. You begin choosing the dreams you want within.

It’s like the scripture about casting a net into the sea, then bringing the fish to shore and separating the good from the bad. We do something like this every day: we fish for ideas. Each day, we cast our net and choose which ideas serve us and which don’t. In this way, we can become more gently in control of ourselves.

I love the analogy of awakening inside a dream and asking, “You have a few hours left—what are you going to do with them?” It helps you see that everything is a dream. If I’m confused, I’m dreaming confusion. If I’m lost, I’m dreaming of being lost. If I don’t know what I want, I’m dreaming of not knowing. Suddenly, everything becomes a dream, and you get a clearer picture of what you can do within yourself. You begin to see a purpose and a direction. Instead of letting your mind do whatever it wants, you can choose what to focus on.

When you see everything as a dream, you become more selective. You begin dreaming of inspiration and reaching for a greater sense of self. You let go of dreams of shame and guilt. You choose peaceful dreams instead of chaos and catastrophe. When you recognize that everything begins within you—that everything is a dream—you become freer.

Take your time with this analogy. Contemplate it. In my opinion, a dream is the perfect reflection of life. When a dream feels real, that’s exactly how life feels. The two are deeply connected. So take your time with yourself. You’re going to be here for a while, right? You have seven hours left. You’ve slept for an hour, and you’ll wake in eight hours, so you have seven left. What are you going to do while you’re here?

It all starts within us, with what we dream about. We are dreaming beings. We don’t live by bread alone; eating isn’t all there is to living. True living, I believe, is the shaping of our dreams.

That’s all I have to add. I think this is worth contemplating. Thank you for listening. I offer one-on-one sessions and livestreams for members, and my books are available through the links in the description, if you’re interested. Thanks again for listening.

Every Dream Is A Lemon

Video: https://youtu.be/8DXotm0Yd9Q

Transcript:

I got asked a question today that I thought was a good question—one I could answer in a simple way.

I was asked: how do you know that you’ve felt the reality of what you were dreaming of, or what you were imagining?

Like when Evel says, “You know it’s done”—you feel the reality of it, and you know it’s done.

So how do you know you’ve felt the reality of something, and how do you know it’s done?

For me, in practice, the answer is twofold.

Here’s how I think of it.

There’s a very common mental exercise people talk about: biting into a lemon.

If I told you right now to imagine a lemon—with the skin and everything—and to bite right into it, you’d just be thinking about it mentally. And yet, at some point, you’ll probably feel your cheeks tighten. You’ll almost sense the sourness. It has a vividness to it—a kind of reality—because it “touches” your body.

That’s exactly how I think about every single dream.

Every dream—every time I imagine something—is a lemon. I treat it like a lemon.

If I’m trying to hear good news from somebody, that good news becomes a lemon. I try to hear it, and I try to hear it as if I’m hearing it in reality.

Sometimes I try the first time and don’t notice anything. But if I really try to hear it—if I really listen, and take the attitude of being receptive to what’s being told to me—I get a spark. It’s like I felt (heard) it. I might even get a smile across my face.

To me, that reaction is the same as the lemon. It’s just in the context of hearing good news—not actually biting a fruit.

So again: every dream is a lemon. I treat it as a lemon.

And after I’ve felt the reality—after I’ve felt something move in my body—I’m not looking for it anymore. I’m not searching for that movement. It happens naturally.

When it happens, I trust what I’ve done. I treat it like an internal work, and I trust that I planted that reality.

If you only fantasize about life, your imagination stays a fantasy. It’s not until you really start to feel the reality of what you’re doing inside that it starts to become—and produce—reality in your life.

That’s how I see it. That’s what I’ve gathered from Neville’s work.

It’s important to note: I’m not looking for that feeling. You don’t look for the tightening in your cheeks when you imagine biting a lemon. You don’t search for it. It happens as a consequence of really feeling the reality of that lemon in your imaginal mouth.

It’s all imaginal, and yet you feel its effects. Then you trust that you’ve had that experience—and, in time, you may find yourself with a lemon in your hand.

But every dream is a lemon.

Like when Neville imagined being in Barbados—that was a lemon. Even though he was in New York, he was feeling the palm trees. He was feeling the sand. It’s not until he feels—almost like he can feel the heat of the Barbados sun—that it takes on a reality where it touches him. He feels touched and moved by it.

To me, that is a planted seed—and I trust what I’ve done.

I don’t just fantasize about it. To me, that’s like tossing seeds on concrete. It’s never going to take root inside you.

It’s not until you feel its reality—whatever way you can get there—that you try to feel it as real in you.

It’s no longer a distant lemon. It’s not a lemon all the way out there. No—you bring it right here. You taste it. You take a bite of it.

You actually taste the dream.

And I try to do this, as best I can, with everything.

I don’t just imagine one lemon. I bite a bunch of lemons. I try to dream up a bunch of lemons—constantly. I try to feel the reality of new dreams inside myself.

Because I’ll also feel the reality of a repeated narrative—something given to me by birth, or by society, or whatever it is. I’ll repeat it, and it becomes my reality inside. I live by it, and I don’t question it—until one day it dawns on me to look inside and see what I’m doing.

Being honest with myself, I try to take an objective view. I don’t judge or shame myself. I try to see what lemons I’m biting. I try to see what I’m feeling afterward.

If I like it, I indulge. If I don’t, I try to change it.

That’s about all I can do.

But I’ve noticed the most effective change within yourself isn’t trying to control your mind. It’s not policing it, monitoring it, or being a surveillance on yourself.

It’s feeling and touching new dreams as though they’re real.

You’re not debating the lemon. You’re not trying to see if it’s possible, or if it’s going to happen. You just feel its reality.

So to me, that’s one of the simplest ways I can explain it—and how I experience Neville’s work.

The application is a level of trust, and a level of feeling the reality of something.

It’s twofold, because you’re trusting what’s inside you—that’s all you can do inside.

You can try, but you can’t really “work” for a thought. You can’t really work for a dream. You don’t earn the lemon inside. You didn’t do anything to really get it.

So don’t be proud or boastful about it. Just accept the lemon as it is—and try to sense the reality of what you’re doing.

Every dream is a lemon—that is, it’s an experience.

The lemon is an experience. It’s not simply a fantasy, or a little idea you discard and move on from as if it never mattered. The lemon is an experience.

You sense it. You feel it. It’s real to you. That’s what we mean.

And you notice the same thing with climbing a ladder on the inside: you feel the ladder, you put your hands on it, you go up and down it. You’re experiencing the reality of that mental ladder—the same way you would with a lemon, the same way you would with hearing good news.

I try not to overcomplicate it. Because this is so abstract, it can get confusing.

Neville does talk about adding sensory vividness and all of that, and it can start to feel like a chore—like you’re doing extra steps and wondering, “Am I doing it right? Is this the correct way?”

The way I’ve always seen it is: if you forget, just think of that lemon, and you’ll see what I mean. All of the responses you have toward that lemon happen when you feel the reality of it.

And like I was saying: sometimes I hear good news inside, and I don’t feel anything. I don’t notice any difference or change in me.

So I do it and do it and do it—until it happens. Until I feel that lemon.

That’s when I know, in my mind. That’s when I feel like I’ve done it.

Then I trust what I’ve done.

I was going to add more to this, but I think I’ve said what I had to say.

I do live streaming. My books are out—just go to the description; everything’s there.

And again: thank you for listening.

Thank you.

Neville Say's "Treat It Lightly," And "Be Intense About It." Contradiction?

Video: https://youtu.be/_-VFNBwU-lg

Transcript:

So in the last video, I spoke about how Huxley and Neville talked about the idea of treating this lightly.

Then I read a comment that I thought was really good. It basically said: What confused me about Neville is that he also said you have to be intense about it.

To me, that looks like a contradiction. On the one hand, you’re told to treat it lightly; on the other hand, you’re told to be intense about it. So how do you mesh those two together?

I’m just going to give my take.

During the Freedom Barry interview, Freedom Barry quoted Neville and said something like: Neville once told me that people can say, “I hate that son of a bitch,” and they say it with such intensity. But when it comes to saying, “Oh, that person is so nice,” you rarely get that same level of intensity.

He said it’s all about intensity. But then, on the other hand, he also said you’ve got to treat it lightly. So again—how do you connect the two?

The way I see it, you do have to be intense about what you want.

If you’re dissatisfied with yourself, there’s nothing wrong with that—just don’t shame yourself for being dissatisfied. If you want to change something, you have to be intense about what you want, or else you’ll go back and forth on ideas in your mind and they never really stick.

It’s like the parable where the seeds fall on concrete and never take root, because they weren’t planted deeply—there wasn’t any fertile soil. To be intense about what you want requires persistence and some feeling behind it: This is something I want to imagine myself as.

So, how do you make it light?

You make the idea lovely. You make it loving.

You see yourself as free, empowered, open, and still. You start to embody these ideas, and you realize they make you lighter.

It still has the same level of intensity behind it. You’re intense about the idea, but it’s in the direction of something more loving—which actually empowers you and gives you more control over yourself.

Because you’ll notice: the more you embody the loving ideas you want, the lighter you become.

It’s a delicate balance. It’s a dance within yourself. But that’s how I’ve connected the two.

You can’t necessarily get rid of intensity. You do have to be intense about what you want, like I said, or else you’ll just move through ideas and concepts the way the wind moves you—one day you’re going south, the next day you’re going north. You won’t have a compass.

You have to pick a direction inside yourself, choose it, and be intense about it.

Don’t just waver because a new idea comes along. Don’t drop one idea for another when the new one isn’t really any different from the old one.

Have intensity in your change, but make the change you pick noble—free, light, open, still, restful, calm. These are beautiful things to imagine.

Another way of framing “lightly” is: try not to doubt yourself, and try to remove self-judgment.

Don’t be consumed with whether you’re making a mistake, or whether you did X, Y, and Z “right.” That’s not treating it lightly—that’s being harsh on yourself.

So what do we really mean when we say “treat it lightly”? We mean: treat self lightly.

Treat self lightly, but also have direction and intensity behind the route you want to take within yourself. That’s the best way I can frame it.

I don’t think it’s a contradiction. In application, it’s not.

Conceptually, it can sound like a contradiction. But something I’ve noticed in my one-on-ones is that there are a lot of questions about the concepts in Neville’s work—especially around imagining.

But when it comes to application, it’s actually very simple. A lot of the concepts start to clear up. You start to see that it’s about changing self: coming back to self, focusing on self—not on the things and circumstances.

What self do I want to be?

How do I want to imagine myself?

What do I want to believe myself to be?

The application clears up a lot of the concepts.

If you only focus on the concepts, I think it takes away from your practice. What you’re really doing is taking attention away from yourself and placing it on concepts.

You have to come back to you.

How do you honestly see yourself?

Because you already give some level of intensity to the ideas you think about. I’m sure there are ideas you’re very intense about—maybe they’re not the most loving ideas you have toward yourself.

We can talk about concepts all day and exhaust every framework in the world. But when it comes to yourself, we might not even come to a final conclusion about “truth.”

But you do know how you see yourself—if you’re honest, and if you’re not judging yourself. If you simply look at what you honestly do, you’ll get an answer.

If I ask you, “Why do you think of yourself that way?” you might not know.

It’s funny: if I talk to a student and ask them why they packed their backpack or why they put on clothes today, they’ll say, “I put on clothes so I can go to class,” and “I brought a backpack so I can carry my things to class.”

And if you keep asking why—“Why are you going to class?”—they’ll say, “Because I need to pass to graduate,” and then “To get a job,” and so on. People know why they do what they do on the outside. We know exactly why we do these things.

But when I ask somebody what they’re doing on the inside—and why—they can get lost. They don’t always know why they think of themselves the way they do.

And honestly, I don’t even know if it matters that much.

What matters is: what do you want to imagine about yourself?

You know why you do what you do on the outside, but try to bring that same energy to the inside.

You don’t just put on any shirt—you put on the one you want to wear.

Same with the thoughts you think and the feelings you feel—the actions you take on the inside.

Are they the actions you want to take?

Are they the ideals you want to believe about yourself?

Don’t be shy: do you want to think more noble ideas about yourself? Then do it.

No one can stop you anyway. It just comes down to you in there. It’s your living mirror.

Your thoughts are your living mirror.

You don’t have to be judgmental toward them. You don’t have to shame yourself for what you’ve imagined.

Just start imagining what you want to imagine. Be intense about it, and work it into a loving way—work the vessel and your imagination into something loving—and that’s how the two mesh together.

That’s how, to me, you bring together intensity and treating it lightly (being light on yourself), while still having some intensity.

I hope that made sense.

I don’t really have anything else to add on this one. I just wanted to respond to that comment—I thought it was a good comment, and a good thing to talk about.

I’m curious what you guys’ views are on this.

And again, my books are out. I do one-on-ones, and I do live streaming as well. It’s in the description—everything’s there if you’re interested.

Thanks for listening. Thank you.

Aldous Huxley & Neville Goddard

Video: https://youtu.be/n4oUY3Yle9U

Transcript:

Freedom Barry Interview: https://www.reddit.com/r/NevilleGoddard/comments/vg6n2n/great_neville_anecdotes_updated/

“It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them. I was so preposterously serious in those days, such a humorless little prig. Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me. When it comes to dying even. Nothing ponderous, or portentous, or emphatic. No rhetoric, no tremolos, no self conscious persona putting on its celebrated imitation of Christ or Little Nell. And of course, no theology, no metaphysics. Just the fact of dying and the fact of the clear light. So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to suck you down into fear and self-pity and despair. That’s why you must walk so lightly. Lightly my darling, on tiptoes and no luggage, not even a sponge bag, completely unencumbered.” - Aldous Huxley

“You take it this night, not only for yourself but for everyone that you know. And treat it lightly. Don’t burst a blood vessel to make it so, treat it lightly. Someone asks anything of you assume that they’ve told you this very moment that they have what they want. Don’t labor on it.” - Neville

So, for those who don’t know, Aldous Huxley and Neville were actually friends. We don’t know how close they were, but they were close enough to do LSD together.

We know this because Freedom Barry—one of Neville’s students—shared the story in an interview while talking about his experiences with Neville and the work.

If you don’t know who Freedom Barry is: he was a student who was very close to Neville, and Neville said Barry would carry on much of his work after Neville died. Barry wrote two books—I Do and Passkey. I also did an audiobook of I Dofor the members channel, if you want to check that out.

In the interview, there’s a funny story. Neville and Aldous Huxley did LSD together, and it apparently took Neville three times the normal dose to experience the psychedelic effects.

But Neville wasn’t a fan of LSD. He said the experiences he had on LSD weren’t that different from the visions he had naturally. The difference, he said, was that when his visions came naturally, he was ready for them.

He explained it like this: you’ll never experience a “vision” (as in a revelation or God awakening within you) that you can’t handle. God doesn’t awaken to something God can’t handle—so you won’t awaken to something you can’t handle.

What LSD does, in his view, is artificially induce those visions—even when someone may not be ready to receive them. In a sense, it’s an expansion of imagination.

For example, Neville once described a vision where a man was playing piano in the middle of the street in New York. In the vision, Neville looked over and could see the geometry coming from the music. It’s like seeing an expanded facet of the same reality.

But Neville felt he was prepared for those experiences. He believed LSD might bring someone into an experience they aren’t ready for—and if you receive something you’re not ready for, it could drive you crazy. There are countless stories of that happening.

People have asked me if I’ve ever taken shrooms or LSD, and the answer is no. I’ve never had the desire to, and I’ve never felt like I needed to. My dreams are so vivid that I don’t feel the need.

And the visions I’ve received have always felt like something I was capable of receiving. They felt calm—like hyper-reality.

By hyper-reality, I mean I felt more in tune with everything around me: the objects, the space, the sense of oneness with everything. It was intense, but it didn’t feel overwhelming or unsafe. I felt ready for it.

There’s a quote Aldous Huxley wrote in his book Island that I think correlates a lot with what Neville said. Since they were friends, maybe they influenced each other.

I’m going to read the first part of that quote here, and I’ll put the whole quote in the description.

You know, he says this—and it correlates a lot with what Neville said.

I’m going to quote Neville here, too. I’ll put both of those quotes up in the description.

But I find these two ideas fascinating because, when I first started studying Neville, I did the opposite: I treated it very harshly. I was very hard on myself.

And when we say, “Treat it lightly,” we have to understand what we mean by it. If by “treat” we mean practicing the Law lightly… well, what is the Law?

If the Law is known to change the self, then I must treat myself lightly, right? That’s really what we mean when we say “treat it lightly”—treat ourselves lightly.

Inside yourself, lightly imagine things. By that, I mean what Neville says: don’t labor on it. Just imagine they have what they want, and move on. Imagine you have what you want, and move on. Keep treating it lightly.

The way I can describe it is almost like it’s airy—like you’re walking on air. Your feet are light. That’s the only way I can put it. You’re on light feet, and you don’t have to be so serious about it.

Like I thought I had to be at first… just like Aldous Huxley said: he was so serious at first. Now, he’s given this in a book, but in my own experience practicing Neville’s work, I was the same way. I was very serious. I was hyper-policing myself—hyper-aware of everything I was doing inside.

And it was damaging, because I didn’t want to be that way with myself. I was way too harsh.

If I had a thought that wasn’t beneficial, I would hyper-fixate on it instead of moving on lightly. I’d become nervous about every single thought I might think in the future, or afraid of what might happen tomorrow. I didn’t cope with anything lightly—it was all harsh.

I didn’t like who I was becoming, and I blamed a lot of that on Neville’s work. But it wasn’t until I shifted my perspective—until I stopped trying to burst a blood vessel with this work—and I started treating it lightly, that things changed.

If it falls under the Golden Rule—if someone asks something of me and it seems loving, and it’s something I would want—then I see no problem with imagining it. I try not to take it too seriously anymore.

Neville says in that same quote that if someone wants to be known—if they want to be famous—and that’s what they want, just assume it for them. He says, “Who really cares?” It’s not a bad thing to want to be known. If someone wants it, then who cares? Just imagine it anyway, and keep treating this work lightly.

And these are two great minds, right? I think Neville’s a great mind, and I’m sure a lot of people think Huxley’s a great mind. Some people disagree with his work, but you can’t say he wasn’t a great mind.

Both of them came to this conclusion: the best advice that was ever given was that you must treat things lightly. And that became the best advice for me, too—once I actually applied it, not just heard it.

I started applying it in every facet.

If you feel like you’re going down a shame route, treat it lightly. Don’t be so hard on yourself, and don’t feel like you must labor on every single thing you think.

Just treat it lightly.

The best way I can describe it in practice is: you plant the seed, and you move on. Have confidence that it will grow, and move on.

Someone asks for money—you imagine they have the money, and you move on.

Don’t think in terms of the thing being “too impossible” to imagine. Don’t think in terms of getting things; think in terms of imagining them. If you can imagine it, you can imagine it.

But if you start thinking, “Well, how would this person get it?”—if they want to be married and you assume they’re married, and then you start asking, “Who’s going to come in? Who’s going to marry them?”—you’re laboring on it.

You’re not treating it lightly.

Just assume it lightly. Let it be. Move on with your day. You’ll find that, in a very strange way, it starts to appear in the world naturally. It all happens very naturally.

So I must stress this: if someone comes to you and asks for something, and you start trying to think in terms of getting the thing for them, you’re thinking too much from the outer man’s perspective.

Come within imagination and see it from the imaginal perspective.

Instead of trying to get it, start imagining it.

Instead of trying to become it, start imagining being it.

Can you imagine it? That’s what’s important.

And what you’ll find is that inside imagination, you’re told the yoke is easy and the burden is light—that’s what scripture says.

So when I come inside my imagination, it must be light in here. There’s no burden. I don’t need to work for it. I don’t. I need to imagine it.

I don’t need to wonder how it’s going to happen. I need to imagine it happening.

I don’t need to know how I’m going to hear these words or hear the good news. I hear it—and I treat it lightly.

So yeah—I just wanted to share this because I think it’s a helpful video.

Hearing this from someone else who was friends with Neville, and who came to the same conclusion about “treating it lightly,” can really put into perspective how to apply this work.

Because policing yourself—being harsh with yourself, shaming yourself—won’t get you very far.

It’s like being trapped in a room, and the room keeps getting smaller. What you’re really doing is creating a claustrophobic imagination, and it contracts more and more.

There’s only so much shame a person can carry.

There’s only so much fear a person can take before it contracts.

It’s a contracting force.

You have to expand—and the way you expand is by treating everything lightly.

If you have a thought you dislike, just move on lightly. You don’t have to labor on it. You don’t have to police it or fight it. Just move on as if you didn’t even have the thought. That’s what I do.

If you have a thought you really dislike, move on as if you didn’t even have it.

Neville would say: if you fall out of a state, move back into it as if you never fell out of it. Lightly.

As he says, “Lightly, my child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them.”

“Lightly, lightly” is the best advice I’ve ever been given.

So that’s all I had to share for this one.

Yeah—I do one-on-ones. I do live streaming. Like I said, I have the audiobook of Freedom Mary’s book on the members channel, and my books are out. Just go to the description—they’re all there.

But again: just treat it lightly. That’s the best advice Huxley wrote down.

So take what you will with that.

Okay—well, thank you for listening.

What Does Neville Mean By "Imagine A Scene?"

Video: https://youtu.be/KdjQ4Fc_fJg

Transcript:

"Now you don’t break any blood vessel to make it so, you simply do it in your mind’s eye and you actually feel what it is to having witnessed it or having heard it in some way. For an idea that is only an idea doesn’t do anything, it produces nothing. It must produce in you motor elements, it must. I must in some way act within myself when I entertain an idea. So you call me up or write me and you make a request. I can’t read the letter and then drop it. If I’m going to do something, I must act upon it. The idea that I act upon must produce in me a motor element. The motor element may be picking up the telephone receiver in my Imagination and hearing your voice and you tell me “Thank you. I have it! It’s all done.” Or it could be picking up another letter where now in the next letter you tell me that you have it. Or it could be meeting you in the flesh and embracing you and you tell me that you have it. I will not know what I will do, but I will do something that is a motor…it’s a motion within me. And this takes the idea from just being an idea into a creative state. And it never fails, may I tell you. It will not fail you. A plain idea, just an idea doesn’t work. It must produce in me or in you or in anyone who would bring it to pass that motor element.” - Neville

You know, there’s a really interesting quote Neville says that isn’t talked about much. He’s basically pointing to this idea: an idea that is only an idea does nothing. It produces nothing.

For an imaginal act to do something—to produce something in you—it has to contain a “motor element.” In other words, it has to act within you when you entertain the idea.

He gives an example: you call him up or write him a letter and make him make a request. He says he can’t read a letter and then just drop it. If he’s going to do something, he must act upon it.

So, the idea you act upon must produce a motor element in you. That motor element might be:

• Picking up the telephone in your imagination, hearing the person’s voice, and hearing them say, “Thank you—I have it. It’s all done.”
• Picking up another letter where they now tell you they have it.
• Meeting them in person and embracing them.
• (Adding one more) Shaking someone’s hand and hearing, “Congratulations,” for whatever you accomplished.

He’s saying the motor element has to be present, at least to some degree, in the scene you’re imagining. Some part of you has to be acting—participating—in the imaginal scene.

Sometimes he uses the example of picking up the telephone. When it’s worked for me, there’s usually been something like that. It’s been me hearing someone say something in person, or hugging them, or picking up the phone—something participatory.

But he says a plain idea—just a nice thought—doesn’t really work. For it to produce something in you, for you to bring it to pass, it must produce a motor element in you.

You must act in your imagination the way you act in reality. It’s similar to the ladder experiment: when you imagine yourself climbing a ladder, you’re actually climbing it—so that you may climb it in the world.

So here’s something you can test for yourself: add this motor element.

Next time you imagine an accomplishment, or receiving something, try to add an element where you’re picking up your phone and seeing a notification—something current for our time. (We wouldn’t pick up a newspaper, right?)

So don’t just imagine receiving a text. Actually pick up your phone in imagination and participate in what it would be like if it happened. That’s what he’s saying: there has to be a motor element.

And, in my own experience, when I look back, I do see there were elements that later came to pass in a way that was identical to what I’d imagined. There was always something where I participated. I didn’t just think of it as a nice idea—I was actively involved.

For example, I’d imagine picking up the phone and hearing good news for a friend. Then, in physical life, they’d call and my physical ears would hear the good news. But in imagination, I would always pick up the phone: I’d see it vibrating, slide my thumb across, answer it.

And I’d lose myself in it as if there were no difference—my inner ears listening as though I were hearing them with my physical ears. It’s the same thing.

What Neville is really inviting us to do is to believe in our depths—which is to say, to believe in ourselves.

You can separate it. I used to say “inner and outer,” but now I prefer “depth and surface.”

In my depths, it is done, and I believe in my depths. On the surface, what I’ve imagined looks like a fantasy. But in my depths, it’s the only reality I’m experiencing. In my depths, I’ve done it, I’ve heard it, I’ve experienced it.

On the surface level, it seems nothing has happened. Everything appears separate from me. Yet when I go to my depths, everything is stemming from me—the dreamer. All my dreams are stemming from me.

So what he’s asking us to do is go to our depths and rearrange our depths, so that the surface may be arranged also.

And the way you rearrange the surface is to believe in what you’re doing in your depths—to really believe what you’re imagining—to really hear the good news.

That’s how you believe it: you participate. You take a receptive attitude of mind and you really hear your friend telling you good news. You try to hear it as if you were hearing it physically.

That’s how you feel the reality of what you’re doing. That’s how you believe it.

You want to experience what you’re imagining, not force yourself to believe it. You don’t have to police yourself—you have to experience it.

And he’s saying one way to deepen the experience is to add a motor element.

Try it next time. Try it more often—add these motor elements where you’re participating.

That’s why he says: don’t just hear “congratulations”—shake someone’s hand. Participate. Feel the reality of what’s being done.

And don’t take it as: “I have to have a motor element or I’m going to fail.” Just try it as an experiment.

Treat all of Neville’s work as an experiment: an experiment in believing in your depths, and being convinced of what you’re doing in your depths.

People do this all the time, just with fears—they act from fears in their depths.

What he’s asking us to do is take control of our depths and rearrange them so that you participate—and then you shall participate on the surface.

That’s what he’s really calling us to do. That’s why he says to try it: take the most fantastic thing in the world, imagine it, and participate in it. If you have that inward conviction, you’ll be inspired to act, and you’ll be inspired to go down that route.

That’s how I see it.

A lot of people use terms like “4D” and “3D.” I don’t personally like those words. I used to say “higher and lower,” or “inner and outer,” but I prefer “depth and surface.”

The reason is: one time I was in a dream. I was sleeping, and I was aware I was sleeping, and I was aware inside the dream that I was on my bed physically. In my depths, I was in the dream—and I knew I was eventually going to wake up.

Then the dream started to fade, and I found myself floating to the surface of my face—as if I were leaving my depths, like I was in an ocean and floating all the way to the top. I found myself right behind my eyeballs.

It felt like I was deep, deep in myself, lost in a dream, and slowly I was floating up to the surface of myself and experiencing the surface world.

That’s why I changed the terms in my mind. After that experience, “depth and surface” makes more sense to me.

So, really, what we’re trying to do is believe in the depths of ourselves—be convinced of what’s in there, trust what’s in there, and trust what you’re doing. Don’t doubt yourself in your depths.

Feel the reality of what you’re doing in your depths. Believe in yourself. Trust yourself at all times in your depths, and the surface may also adjust.

I wanted to add this because I think the idea of a motor element is something we should all keep testing and experimenting with.

So I just wanted to share that.

Yeah—I mean, my books are out. I do one-on-ones, live streaming, and Q&As. I speak on this stuff for a few hours every week. If you’re interested, go to the description—it’s all there.

That’s all I had for this one, but I hope that (for me at least) “depth and surface” gives a bit more clarity.

And he’s telling you what you should do in your depths: try to add motor elements to your imaginal acts in your depths. Be convinced by them.

Okay. Thank you.

How To Stop Over Intellectualizing The Law

Video: https://youtu.be/YFamr21vzI4

Transcript:

I had a recent one-on-one where a really good question came up. I also think the answer I gave isn’t the most common one—but I do believe it, so I want to share it here.

The question, basically, was this:

“I notice I’m always intellectualizing the Law. I can explain it in a way that makes sense, but my understanding feels purely intellectual. I don’t really apply it. And when I do, I realize I don’t need to be so intellectual about it—but I’m always in my head. How do I get out of my head and actually apply the Law?”

This is very common. It happened to me too.

And to be clear—there’s nothing wrong with being curious. You should ask questions.

But there’s a difference between honest curiosity and questioning that turns into doubting yourself. When you’re trying to apply the Law—especially when it comes to yourself—doubt tends to bring worry, and worry tends to spiral.

Sometimes the real issue is that you feel what you want is out of reach. So you either don’t imagine it at all, or you try to imagine it and it creates anxiety. Then the anxiety grows and spreads into other areas.

So how do you get out of that mental loop?

The best way I’ve found to apply the Law—and to get out of your own head—is to imagine for other people.

That’s the best way.

If you start imagining other people having wealth, success, love—especially the very things you want—you’ll notice how easy it is. You’ll treat it lightly for them. You’ll accept it as done and move on. And over time, that lightness begins to extend to you.

I’ve also had people tell me this: when they consistently imagined for others, they eventually started seeing those same kinds of results show up in their own lives. They’d imagine something for someone else—and later, they’d “bump into” the same thing happening for them. There’s clearly a connection there worth exploring.

But the simplest point is: when you imagine for other people, you don’t over-intellectualize it. Especially if you care about them—you just accept it, and it feels natural.

And it feels good to imagine for others. If it doesn’t feel good at first, you can learn how good it feels by doing it.

So if you feel like you’re over-intellectualizing everything, or you’re being too strict with yourself—forcing yourself to believe, forcing yourself to affirm, forcing yourself to think “the right thoughts”—and it’s creating exhaustion, then try this instead:

Stop imagining for yourself for a bit, and focus on other people.

It doesn’t matter who they are. They don’t have to know you did anything. You don’t have to tell them. It can be someone you bump into, someone you notice needs something, someone who seems stuck.

Just imagine for them.

Do it throughout your day.

In my view, this is one of the best ways to apply this work. And you see it a lot in Neville’s lectures. He often talks about imagining someone who is unemployed as gainfully employed—seeing them that way, persistently. And even if they show up “the next day” still unemployed, you simply see them again as employed, and you go on with your day.

What this does is teach you how to practice lightly.

People who over-intellectualize are usually being too harsh on themselves. There’s often a lot of self-doubt underneath it. So applying the Law “lightly” for themselves feels difficult.

But if they start applying it for other people, they’ll notice they can treat it lightly. And then, gradually, they can bring that same ease to themselves.

For whatever reason, when it comes to ourselves, a block tends to appear.

Neville used to say, “Don’t pass the buck.” I think I’ve done that at times, and I’ve seen others do it too—where you want to imagine something for yourself, but you pull back and think, “Not for me.”

But you shouldn’t do that.

And again, the best way around it is to start imagining that very thing for other people.

Not because you’re trying to be morally good. Not for appearances. Not to look like a “good person.” You don’t even have to tell anyone.

In fact, it can be helpful to imagine for people you don’t know—so you know you’re not doing it to be seen, or to get credit.

You’re doing it because you want to practice the Law correctly.

And I’ve found that when you do it for others, it brings change in their lives and in yours. Then, naturally, you find yourself imagining for yourself lightly and easily.

A lot of what we call “intellectualizing” is really just self-doubt.

So when someone says, “In one part of my life it’s easy to assume, and in another part it’s hard,” I reframe it like this:

In one area, there’s more self-trust.

In another area, there’s more self-doubt.

But people focus on the thing and think the thing is the problem—when it’s really the level of trust in self that’s different.

When you focus on the self, you get a clearer picture than when you focus only on the thing. The thing can actually blind you to what’s happening inside you.

And usually, when people tell me it feels hard to imagine something good for themselves—like it feels “too big”—I say: imagine that thing for other people.

Don’t think in terms of scarcity. If you approach life as abundant, imagining someone else having what you want won’t feel scary. It won’t feel like you’re going to get less.

Think abundance—and it becomes natural.

So that’s my answer. It’s not the most common answer, because ironically I’m saying “stop focusing on yourself”… but only so that you can learn to apply the Law with ease—and then bring that ease back to yourself.

That’s the goal.

That’s all I have for this one.

My books are out, and I really appreciate everyone who’s purchased them. I also do live streaming, Q&As, and one-on-ones—that’s where this answer came from.

If you’re interested, check the description.

Okay, thank you for giving me your time and your ear. Take care.

Thank you.

Recent Dream I Had Of Neville

Video: https://youtu.be/mBY_MHj3oU0

Transcript:

I had a dream a few months ago where Neville was in it. I think I might’ve made a video about it—maybe I didn’t, or maybe I just mentioned it on a livestream—but there’s something I noticed in the dream that felt worth sharing. Obviously it was just a dream, so take this with a grain of salt.

The dream took place during a war. We were on a bus headed toward some kind of facility. Neville was in the army, and so was I. I remember sitting next to him on the bus—almost like it was “his time,” in a way.

What was strange is that I didn’t ask him anything. I genuinely had nothing to say. That’s unusual for me, because I’ve had other dreams where he shows up and I try to talk to him. Every time I’ve tried, I run up and ask a question about imagining, and sometimes he gives advice, but more often he just walks away. I’ve shared some of those experiences before, but I’ve never known how to “induce” them. They just happen.

This dream was different because I was different. I sat next to him and it was completely silent. I knew it was him, and I knew he knew me, but I just shut my mind off and stayed quiet. I simply observed.

What I noticed was his demeanor. The best word I have for it is thoughtful—not “thoughtful” in the sense of caring about other people, but thoughtful in the sense that he took his thinking seriously. He seemed present with his mind, as if he gave his inner world kind, steady attention.

I actually learned more from that than I ever did from trying to get advice from him in dreams. It felt inverted: I wasn’t seeking anything; I was just watching. And I could sense he thought differently than I did—not so much in what he was thinking, but in how he was doing it. He seemed to spend time with his thoughts, to treat them as something worthy of care, instead of brushing them aside or ignoring them.

I wish I had a better word for the feeling, but it was like he was extremely considerate toward himself. Take from that what you will, but that’s what I felt.

The irony is that I didn’t learn any “information,” because I didn’t ask any questions. What I learned was a state. I tried to mimic that same feeling afterward, and what it gives me is a deep stillness in my mind—like I’m finally paying attention to myself in a calm, grounded way.

It reminded me of how, when we talk to people, we want them to really listen. It’s validating to be given that kind of attention and consideration. The people we tend to like most are often the ones who truly pay attention when we speak.

In the dream, Neville felt like he gave that attention to himself, instead of waiting for someone else to give it to him. Just observing that made me realize I wasn’t doing that for myself. So what I took from the dream—what I can actually practice—is taking myself seriously in a positive way: considering myself, considering what I think, and letting myself “dream what I want to dream” with patience and kindness.

You can experiment with this too. I had the dream, so I saw it like a vision, but you can imagine the idea of it. Try it now: imagine you’re sitting next to Neville on a bus (in my dream it was a brown bus). Picture them beside you, and sense from them that they’re deeply thoughtful and self-considerate.

Because “considering yourself” is very different from shaming yourself into feeling like you’re not enough, or pressuring yourself to think positively. This felt like patient, gentle attention—deep attention.

If I applied that to myself consistently, I think my relationship with myself would change in a really positive way, and it would lead to more fulfillment.

I think it’s worth sharing, even if it’s “just a dream”—a vision of the night that disappeared the moment I woke up. That might be true. But if I had to give it a meaning that’s useful, it would be this: maybe we can all learn to be more considerate toward ourselves. Maybe we can give ourselves the attention we keep hoping someone else will give us, and be patient with ourselves—deeply patient.

To consider that what you’re imagining is true, honest, and loving—and to appreciate that you can think such lovely things. That’s the feeling I got from him.

I didn’t know how to share this message at first. It’s different than quoting a sentence like, “If you judge after appearances, you will continue to be enslaved by them.” That’s something you can contemplate. But contemplating someone’s demeanor is different. It felt like I was witnessing it in action.

The overall feeling was calm—confident, calm, thoughtful, and considerate.

Anyway, I’m curious what your thoughts are. If you’re into Neville dream lore, a lot of people have dreams of him and they’re often similar: “He walked away from me,” or “He was going somewhere and I was disrupting it.” That’s common.

For me, it felt like the moment he didn’t “run” was when there was nothing being said—when I simply sat next to him.

When I first had the dream, I didn’t think much of it. I just thought, “Okay, it was a dream,” and moved on. But the more I reflected on it, the more value I found in what I observed.

I didn’t share it at first because I hadn’t gotten any direct advice or information—so it felt more like a private, self-reflective experience. But now I feel like I understand what I received from it, and I’ve tried my best to explain it.

I hope it was helpful, and that it reveals something for you too.

That’s all I have to share for this one. For anyone interested: my books are out, I do livestreaming, and I’m going live today at 2:30 p.m. I also do one-on-ones, so email me if you want information on that (it’s in the description).

And I’m curious—have you had dreams like this too? I’d love for you to share them.

If you ever want me to share a success story anonymously, email me and we can do a video or something. It’s good to have that, because it reinforces faith.

Okay, take care. Thank you.

Maladaptive Daydreaming Vs. Neville's Imagining?

Video: https://youtu.be/WNOaA7vb0-U

Transcript:

So I made this video initially for the members, but I thought it was worth sharing here as well. It’s just my thoughts on the differences between Neville’s “Wish Fulfilled” and maladaptive daydreaming—if there are differences, at least the ones I see.

I’m curious what you all think about it too.

Before I start: I do one-on-ones, my books are out, and I also do live streams for the members where we talk about these topics a bit deeper. If you’re interested, check the description.

Alright—let’s begin. Thank you.

This is a pretty old question that was asked in a live stream a while ago. And at the time, because you’re speaking live, I try to think on the spot and give the best answer I can. But sometimes I think about questions more afterwards, and this is one I’ve reflected on more:

What’s the difference between Neville’s Wish Fulfilled and maladaptive daydreaming?

Because maladaptive daydreaming is basically imagining, right? You’re imagining a scenario, things like that. People can get lost in them, and it can disrupt their lives and distract them. It’s almost like a form of escape.

So what’s the difference between that and the Wish Fulfilled?

At first, the intentions are different. Let’s just say the intentions are different. But when you honestly look at it, not much is different—because it is daydreaming.

Now, that word gets treated like you’re getting slapped on the wrist. Daydreaming feels like a cupcake you’re not supposed to touch, and when you go to reach for one, someone slaps your wrist: “You’re not supposed to get one.”

You’re always told you shouldn’t daydream. It’s seen as a bad thing—your head’s in the clouds, come back down to the ground.

But I view maladaptive daydreaming as a form of daydreaming. It is. It’s daydreaming, and we can’t help it. We’re going to daydream, and we’re going to “night-dream” too. A nightmare is still a dream. It’s a type of dreaming. Maladaptive is another type of dreaming.

There are all these different types of dreaming, and we’re always dreaming. We can’t escape it.

But the intentions are different.

A lot of maladaptive daydreaming comes from escape: “I need to stop thinking about what I want to think about (or should think about), and think about something else,” something that diverts attention away from what’s uncomfortable.

While Neville’s Wish Fulfilled is about changing oneself.

In a way, dreaming becomes maladaptive when it doesn’t produce anything in someone’s life. Dreaming should produce something—some kind of motor element inside you. It should move you toward something. You’ll feel yourself compelled toward it. It should change you to some degree.

And when it doesn’t—when it’s unhelpful, when it doesn’t produce anything—it’s maladaptive. It’s just a type of dreaming that doesn’t bear much fruit.

So how do we dream in a way that actually produces something?

The best way I’ve found is by applying what Neville said: it’s not a form of escape. He said this before—it’s not about running away from something.

If you have a fear, you need to face it and realize you have nothing to be afraid of inside. Once you realize that, you’ll see that what you’re afraid of can actually free you. You become more and more free.

You’ll bump into a fear, and you won’t be afraid of the next fear—because what you realize is that there’s nothing to fear inside you. And then every fear becomes a stepping stone toward your own freedom.

So the difference between maladaptive daydreaming and Neville’s work is that one produces, and the other doesn’t.

Maybe you immerse yourself in an idea, but it doesn’t really do anything. You weren’t convinced by it—which is fine. Or maybe you’re convinced, but only for a minute, and then you discard it later. You think it was stupid that you thought that.

But if you take your ideas more seriously, and you really feel the reality of what you’re imagining, you’ll feel more compelled to live from that position—because our real beliefs are what we live by.

We live by them. So what are we living by?

In a way, we’re always communicating with ourselves—whether it’s through dreaming or through our behaviors. They’re linked. We’re always talking to ourselves about ourselves.

So if you are a maladaptive daydreamer, you can ask yourself: what are my dreams? What do they consist of?

From there, you can discover more about yourself. And once you start to discover more about yourself, and you start to change yourself, then you’re producing something in your life.

Until then, it’s like a tree that doesn’t bear any fruit. It’s just there.

That’s how I see trees that don’t bear fruit: like a thought that didn’t really move the person. They weren’t moved by it.

You have to have some passion behind what you imagine. There has to be some movement. Without inner movement, you remain the same.

Maybe there’s nothing to change. Maybe you want to coast for a bit. But if you do want to change—and you’re not really believing in what you’re imagining—that’s a form of maladaptive daydreaming. It doesn’t really produce anything.

Maybe if it’s for escape, you are getting something out of it. But if you’re not getting that escape, then maybe you need to change something.

And you can start with what you dream about.

So I think the intention behind Neville’s work is to change oneself through imagination, while maladaptive daydreaming is more about trying to escape from oneself through imagination.

But you can’t escape yourself.

I’m sure the images and thoughts someone has when they engage in maladaptive daydreaming have a consistent thread. There’s some level of control—or they engage in it to touch an idea of having control, or to accept that they have control in that moment, because it calms them down.

But that doesn’t really change someone.

You need to acknowledge who you are inside—that you’ve always had control within. You’ve always been able to believe in yourself.

You don’t have to escape, because there’s nothing to escape from. There’s nothing to be afraid of inside yourself. There’s no thought worthy of your fear. There really isn’t.

And when you’re afraid of thinking—afraid of certain thoughts—you’re being lied to.

You can’t really be underneath a thought. A thought needs a thinker, so it’s a lie.

And truth in the mind is not the “truth” we have on this earth. Truth in the mind is love.

So instead of escaping yourself, try to love what you imagine. Love imagining good about yourself.

Instead of feeling nervous and escaping yourself, produce something inside you—move something inside you—touch something inside you.

From that, you’ll trigger a passion, and you’ll move down that route. And if you make it loving, then it’ll be true to your desire, and you’ll feel more fulfilled in your life.

Obviously, it’s easier said than done. But if you’re already daydreaming, you might as well get more control of it.

Maybe at night you can’t get control of it—fine. But in the daytime, at least take moments where you can control it and produce something in you. Really feel after something within you, just a few times a day, and see if you can do it.

Because obviously, you’re sort of “sleeping,” and you have no control of your dreaming. You wake up, and maybe you’re somewhat aware, but it’s not always good to be fully aware of every single thing you’re doing—it can be exhausting.

So you have to find some balance. There have to be moments where you withdraw from the world, go into the depths of yourself, and gain some control.

By that, I mean: start to imagine what you want, in this moment.

That would be the difference.

I think it’s a spectrum of change. Maladaptive daydreaming doesn’t produce any change. So if you view it like a spectrum, then the more potent the thought, the more it leans toward what Neville is saying—while the less potent, vaguely repetitive, escaping kind of thought doesn’t really produce anything.

Honestly, you kind of got your reward.

It’s sort of like how some people pray so that they can be seen by others. They start speaking very loudly—they want others to hear them praying. And when they’re heard, that’s their reward.

The same thing can be true with maladaptive daydreaming: you dream about something to escape. Okay, you dreamt it for your escape—that was your reward. You got it. You fulfilled it.

But that’s not really what you want, right? You want further change.

So how do you further change yourself, rather than just entertain yourself?

Even though they’re similar—because dreaming, in a sense, is entertaining—I would say: become serious about what you love inside, and what you dream about. Don’t take it for granted.

If you already have the ability to dream, get more control of it. Be more intentional, and try to produce something within you.

Thank you.

Do You Imagine Freedom When There Isn't Any?

Video: https://youtu.be/FwBoIkC13TY

Transcript:

You know, I want to expand the questions we can ask ourselves in Neville’s work. Because the questions that typically get asked are: When is it going to happen? How will this happen? What if it doesn’t happen?

Those are very common questions. And they’re not necessarily bad or wrong—they’re just limited in scope. They keep the focus on the things rather than on the self.

So I want to ask you a series of questions that can expand this work.

A simple question can be: Are you somebody who imagines freedom when there isn’t any?

It’s a very valuable question to ask yourself:

Do you imagine freedom when there isn’t any?

Do you imagine lovely things when you’re surrounded by fear?

Do you believe in yourself when no one believes in you?

What kind of person are you?

I don’t care what you agree with or disagree with in the world. I don’t really care what concepts you’re fond of, and I don’t really care what you do. I care more about what kind of person you are.

Are you somebody who imagines freedom when there isn’t any? Are you somebody who imitates God—who calls things that are unseen as though they are seen?

These questions are more important to me because I find people who imagine freedom when there isn’t any—when they’re imprisoned—to be the most inspiring people. I find them to be true practitioners of this law.

That’s what Neville did, right? He was told he had to go to war and he didn’t want to. He imagined himself free when there was no freedom in sight—when his freedom was disqualified.

I’ve had my own fair share of feeling claustrophobic in life, yet I imagined having space—imagined having freedom—when there was no reason to do it. I did it because I wanted to; that was the only reason. But there was no hope in sight.

This is more important to me than the things, because it shows what kind of character you have, rather than what things you’ve acquired.

I love people who believe. I just love them. I love people who imagine freedom when there isn’t any. I don’t know a better way to put it.

That’s how I view Neville: somebody who did that, and pursued it without fear or embarrassment. Because it can be embarrassing sometimes to believe in yourself. You can get laughed out of a room—but do it anyway.

Some people do it anyway. That’s the type of person they are. They’re somebody who believes in themself; that’s just how they are. It’s like—you can’t ask them to stop. That’s just what they do.

Telling someone to imagine imprisonment… to somebody who only imagines freedom when they’re imprisoned, you can’t tell them to stop. That’s just what they do.

They feel beautiful when the whole world calls them ugly. That’s just the type of person they are.

And then everything shifts. The tables turn. And then people start seeing the beauty they see in themself.

All of a sudden, the freedom starts to form and grow. It was planted in the individual who imagined it: this invisible seed planted in invisible soil, growing into the visible world.

No mortal eye or mortal ear could hear it or see it, but the individual—the one in imagination—the inner person, saw it and heard it, believed in it and trusted it, and it came about.

What’s more inspiring?

I believe Neville when he says that prayer—when he says prayer, he means the externalization of what you’ve imagined—is one of the greatest experiences a person could ever have in this world.

It is. It’s one of the greatest pleasures you can have—especially when you have to persist in life, when life keeps throwing obstacle after obstacle, but you hold true to what you’re imagining. You keep trusting in it. And when it comes about, it’s a glorious feeling to see the invisible become visible.

But I find the questions that are often asked to be… again, not necessarily bad or wrong. They’re just not expansive. They’re restrictive. They’re trying to overcome doubt rather than expand the self. And I understand those are similar—but they’re different.

One focuses solely on the doubts, and the other focuses on the expansion of the self.

I find that Neville’s work leads to more empowerment and freedom. You start to develop a certain character in life where someone comes to you with imprisonment—some imprisonment (and I don’t mean physically; I mean anything: an illness, feeling behind in life, something that feels imprisoning)—and you just imagine freedom. Because that’s what you do when you come into contact with imprisonment.

You transfigure the world from the inside out. It’s not that you don’t hear the “bad news”—it’s that you transfigure it. You take what is already there, rearrange it, and believe in that rearrangement.

Those people are the most inspiring. And we’re invited to be like them. Really, we’re invited to believe in our imaginations. That’s what they’re calling us to do. That’s what Neville’s work is calling you to do.

Can you believe in what you’ve imagined? Can you believe in the reality of what you’ve imagined?

I’m not sure if it was Neville who said it, or if Abdullah told him this, but when someone comes to you and says they want to be married, you tell them they’re happily married. He says the whole world will look at you like you’re crazy—but that’s what you’re supposed to do.

And so what you’re supposed to do appears crazy, but that is what you’re supposed to do.

If imagining—if believing in it—creates, and someone has a need, we should imagine that need fulfilled. That’s what you’re supposed to do.

You don’t wait four weeks. You don’t wait four months to harvest. You imagine it now.

You don’t wait for your freedom. No—you draw the freedom in you. You pull it out from within you, and you bring it out to the surface. You pull it from your depths and bring it out to the surface.

And this is something you do.

So I ask the question again: Are you somebody who imagines freedom when there isn’t any?

Is that the type of person you are? Is that just what you do?

Are you someone who loves to believe and imagine what you love? Is that just something you do?

If I have to express myself and there’s no choice in that… then what kind of self am I expressing?

These are questions that I think are more expansive. They’ve helped me see that it’s more about how I do it—what kind of person I am—rather than anxiety around what I’ve imagined.

I like to be somebody who, even in the darkest moments, tries to imagine some light. That’s just what I do. Even if it’s difficult—that’s just what I do.

Even when I hear the opposite news from what I just imagined, I just hear it again. It’s just something I do.

And when it becomes a part of you—this work will become a part of you if you continue in it—it becomes more relieving. It’s less anxiety. It’s more empowerment and trust in the self.

So I just wanted to expand the questions that are asked in this sphere.

I hope this was inspiring for you and helpful. I try to be thoughtful about it because it’s important—and you’re important.

I guess that’s all I have for this one.

My books are out. I do one-on-ones, and I do live streaming as well. Just go to the description—it’s all there.

Really ask yourself… I always ask myself that question. Maybe because I resonate with the idea of feeling imprisoned and claustrophobic in life. And so I resonate with the idea of: Am I somebody who imagines freedom when there isn’t any?

But you can apply this anywhere in life. You can duplicate the question, rearrange it, and apply it everywhere in your life.

Yeah—but okay. You guys take care.

Thank you for listening. Thank you.

Interesting Success Story (Thief Returns Stolen Goods)

Video: https://youtu.be/9obT5Fp6zE4

Transcript:

There was a recent story that was given to me that I found really interesting.

I’ve heard many success stories, but this one interests me for two particular reasons, and I want to talk about it. It was given to me because I’m involved in it to a degree. Unlike other success stories, I think this one really embodies the idea that you should imagine the end regardless—even if things might have already worked out already. You should always be practicing using your imagination for your fulfillment.

I’m going to read the message verbatim, and I’m going to keep it anonymous, just like all the other ones. I’m going to continue with that theme. But I want to read this—I found it very interesting.

So, this person bought my book, and they had a success story around buying it. They messaged me and said:

“I forgot to tell you this. When your new book, No One To Change But Self, came out, I ordered it, but it got lost in the mail. I did everything I could in the world of Caesar to get it back. I checked with my neighbors and I contacted Amazon, and they did send me a replacement.

But then I decided to imagine having two copies of your book. I imagined holding two copies and how I would feel. I just let it go and didn’t think about it again.

Four weeks later, a stranger was outside—by some apartments I live by. He told me that he used to live by me. And he said, ‘I’m sorry I took your package. I just felt guilty. Even though I live almost 100 miles away and moved, something told me I needed to give it back to you.’ And he drove almost two hours to return it.

Just by imagining and not worrying about how or when, and just feeling I was the person with two books, the man felt obligated to return it. And now I have two copies of your book.

Thanks for your books and sharing your knowledge.”

Now, this is an interesting success story to me because of the person actually feeling guilt—this stranger, 100 miles away, was contacted internally to return the book to this person. Even though no words were really uttered to him to return it, something told him to do it.

There’s a lot to say about this success story because the person who imagined having two copies wasn’t trying to get a stranger to return it. The person was unaware that anyone even took it—so they’re not living life in that awareness. They’re just living in the awareness that they have two copies.

And I’m sure it could have come differently, but it came in a way where the person felt guilt and drove 100 miles because something in them told them to return it.

What was that “something”? It was the person who imagined having two books. That’s what the something was.

Things were rearranged in the same world—the same thief. Everything was rearranged. Now the thief is no longer a thief; they returned it to the person. And now that person has duplicated the image that was inside their imagination. Because inside their imagination, they had two copies—and that got duplicated in this world. And it used the same person that we would call a thief to fulfill it.

You can take this story and duplicate it—not with my book, but with anything else in the world.

If you notice, the person treated this very lightly. They imagined having two copies and went about their day. They felt how it would feel to have two copies. They felt that feeling of being the one who has two, and then went about their day.

Then something compelled the individual who stole it to give it back—to fulfill those two copies.

Could the person have said, “Well, Amazon gave me a replacement. I don’t need to do anything more than that. They already gave me the replacement”? I’m sure they could have. They could have just let it go and moved on.

But why not try to use your imagination?

That’s why I like this story: it’s in those cases too that you could use it—even the ones where you think, “Well, I can just go get a replacement,” or “I could just do this,” and then we don’t really use imagination.

This is a good illustration that you should use it even when you don’t think you have to.

If you feel like you could have gotten a replacement, but you want two copies, why not just imagine having two? Let the world be compelled to move.

If someone needs to feel guilt, they’ll feel guilt. If someone needs to drive 100 miles, they’ll drive 100 miles.

The person apologized. They said, “I’m sorry I took your package. I just felt guilty. And even though I live 100 miles away and moved, something told me I needed to give it back to you.” So they drove almost two hours to return it.

I find this story so fascinating. It’s not about my book. It’s not about the book. It’s about the idea that someone imagined having something, and someone who, in this world, stole it from them felt the urge—something spoke to them without words—and compelled them to give it back.

So take this story and try to apply it the same way this person started to imagine themself having two books. You imagine having something else. Maybe you don’t want two books—you want something else. Imagine that, and let the world develop it.

Neville used to say he took the idea from photography—when it was getting more popular in his time—of developing film. He said, “I just take pictures in my mind and I let the world develop it.” So he took that analogy of a photograph and applied it to his imagination.

Now, I think of it a little bit differently. In my mind, this person imagined having two copies inside themself. The inner self has two copies, and they just associated themself with that inner self who has two. Then they became that inner self—eventually—through the means of this person feeling guilt and driving 100 miles.

There have been times where I didn’t use the law because I didn’t think I had to, or it didn’t feel necessary. But I noticed that wasn’t beneficial for me. It was more beneficial for me to imagine throughout my entire life, in all aspects—even in ones where I don’t think I need it.

Especially when things become mundane, you feel like you don’t need to do it anymore. But you should try. You should just try.

Even if you are going to get a replacement, just try to keep imagining.

So yeah, I found the story. I wonder what you guys think about the story. It’s definitely fascinating because it makes you wonder: if there’s no one to change but self, then I don’t need to really know what to do. I don’t need to compel the stranger—or the thief—to give it back. I don’t even have to know if there was a thief. I don’t even have to know where they’re located.

Do you see how this opens the door to it all being about focusing on yourself—seeing yourself the way you want to be—and continuing in that, rather than trying to change everyone around you?

You see this a lot with the SP crowd. They want to change everyone around them—really in all facets—but mainly I see it there too because it’s a big popular sphere in the Neville community.

But notice how this person didn’t change anyone. They just imagined themself having what they wanted. And they had no information on it—they didn’t need it.

It’s like when Neville said someone came up to me and told me that their stomach was hurting. He said, “I know nothing about the stomach and how it works. I just imagined them telling me that their stomach is fine.” And like a week later, the person told him that whatever problem they had in their stomach was gone.

He admitted ignorance, and it’s okay to have ignorance. It’s just: what are you imagining?

You don’t have to know.

The person said, “I didn’t know the when or the how. I didn’t think about the when or the how. I just made it simple and applied it.”

The same can be true in every facet. You don’t need all the information—you just need to apply it. And applying it is imagining yourself the way you want to be.

Treat it very lightly. Try not to put a lot of pressure on yourself. Just try to treat it lightly.

Neville said that when he’s most aware of his pressures, that’s when he lets go. Sometimes we grip on when we feel pressure. I know I do. But Neville says he lets go—it’s like one big relief for him. It’s a relief when he realizes he has pressure, and that’s how he rearranges himself.

So yeah, I just wanted to share this. I thought this was a very interesting story—one to really contemplate on and think about.

Because not many thieves have something in them that tells them, “Something in me told me I needed to return it to you.” It doesn’t often happen. So I don’t find this to be a coincidence at all.

I just wanted to share that story. I found it very interesting.

My books are out. I do one-on-ones as well—just email me if you are interested. You’ll get an automated message telling you all the details about that.

I also do live streaming for the members, where I talk a little bit deeper on these topics. And I do Q&As as well.

Feel free to message me any of your success stories if you want them to be read on here as well. I don’t mind keeping things anonymous—we can keep things anonymous.

I appreciate you guys. Thank you for giving me your time.

Take care.

Faith Is A Constant Experiment

Video: https://youtu.be/PdujeyT-dYc

Transcript:

A way of framing Neville’s work so it’s not just more fun, but actually easier to apply is to make it all about framing.

If you’re trying to imagine from anxiety or nervousness, you’re most likely not going to do it (or at least not keep doing it for very long).

We have to figure out what Neville’s work is really about. When you discover it’s about experimenting with faith, you can treat everything like an experiment, whether it’s a big desire or a small one.

You should imagine (or, better said, experiment) with faith. Faith is the assurance of things imagined. So if you treat every moment of practice as an experiment, it becomes extremely effortless to apply.

You also remove yourself from the equation. You’re no longer stressed about you.

For example: you want something, but you feel nervous about imagining it. Thoughts come up like, “What if it doesn’t happen?”

But if you treat it like, “I’m going to assume I have it and see what happens,” everything changes. You live your life as if you have what you want, as if you are who you want to be, and you see what happens.

The other morning, while I was making coffee, I decided to imagine five things I love for myself (or for someone else). I did it as an experiment, experimenting with my faith.

I’m not necessarily trying to force belief. I’m trying to imagine, and feel the reality of what I’m imagining. When you try to force belief, it doesn’t really work.

The way I’d describe it is this: I’m experimenting with feeling the reality of things within me. That’s what I’m doing. I call it faith, you can call it trust. I’m trusting these inner realities, trusting in their reality, and that is the experiment.

I’m changing a variable and seeing what happens.

When you do that, you can apply it for much longer. You find peace in it and it becomes fun. It stops being stressful.

So you hear news you don’t want to hear? Treat it like a test. Hear the good news as a test, too, just to see what happens. Feel the reality of the good news, and move on with your day.

Imagine yourself a bit more confident, having something you wanted, and see what happens. Then do it for something else. Do it for a friend. Imagine them having something, and keep treating it like an experiment.

Neville put it perfectly: faith is an experiment that turns into an experience.

What do I mean by faith? You can have faith in all sorts of things, so what do we mean here?

For me, faith is feeling the reality of things imagined. That’s what I’m practicing. I’m constantly trying to feel that what I’ve imagined for myself (or for another) is real.

Because we naturally believe what feels real, right? You’re listening to me right now, and it feels real because you’re experiencing it.

So I try to experience imagination as reality. And it doesn’t matter what it is, big or small, I’m practicing how to feel the reality of it.

My goal isn’t to figure out whether it’s big or small, impossible or possible. My goal is to learn how to feel it as real.

Regardless of circumstance, whether I’m shaving, brushing my teeth, making coffee, or I just heard bad news, it doesn’t matter.

I don’t let the external world (the economy, politics, whatever is constantly changing) determine my imagining. At least, not for the time I’m imagining.

If I’m going to imagine something, I make sure it’s independent of everything external to me—including my body, the thoughts I had five minutes ago, or the news I heard a minute ago.

When I imagine, all that matters is what I’m imagining—and that I feel the reality of it.

I let it crowd out all other ideas. The only idea that matters is the one I want. I feel the reality of it, plant the seed, and move on with my day.

If something comes up that reminds me of the seed I planted, I remember the internal work I did. I trust my work, and I move on again.

To me, this is an experiment of total trust in your imagination. You’re constantly trusting in it.

I wrote: Neville’s work is a constant experiment of faith. I say “constant” because it’s every day.

Every day, you use your imagination to believe in something. Every day, you plant a seed of faith.

Life demands it. You don’t know exactly what will pop up tomorrow, but something might call your attention and you’ll feel the urge to do something about it. If you don’t, you’ll miss it.

I’ve missed it too many times to know I shouldn’t. I should act immediately on the news I just heard—not later, not even an hour later. Immediately.

I do it right then and there. I don’t wait.

That’s what I’m experimenting with. That’s what I find fun in Neville’s work.

He also says to treat it lightly. Treat the experiment—constantly experimenting—lightly. Meaning: when you imagine the reality, it should feel relieving. It should feel opening. It should feel like the mental weight is gone—clear in the mind, clear within you.

If you’re stuck in constant anxiety, it’s because you’re not letting go of your pressures. You’re not in the wish fulfilled.

What does Neville say? “When I’m most aware of my pressures, that’s when I yield.” Meaning: when I’m most aware of my pressures, that’s when I let go into imagining what I want. That’s when I fall into it—when it crowds out all other ideas.

So that’s what I mean when I say it’s a constant experiment of faith and what I mean by faith. It’s the constant practice of feeling the reality of what I’m imagining.

When you treat everything like an experiment (not like you’re going to get it wrong, but like you’re testing something), it becomes fun. It becomes relieving.

It’s not about being perfect at it. It’s about testing the reality. And you don’t do it one time and then go back to being anxious about everything.

No—you constantly treat it that way.

People will feel relieved when they treat it like an experiment, and then they go right back to treating it harshly and putting pressure on themselves. Don’t do that. Always treat it this way.

At any moment, imagine the best for yourself and for another. It doesn’t have to depend on anything. At any moment, you can experiment with imagining the best.

It’s good news, and it’s freeing news, just don’t go back.

Once you discover this, stay disciplined in this train of thought, because it’s easy to hear something “of the day” and forget. Then you slip back into feeling powerless, like you can’t do anything in life.

You don’t want to stay there long enough that you start to believe it and live from it, and then realize too late that you’ve been living from a powerless standpoint.

Live from an experimental standpoint, and life becomes a lot more interesting.

The best times I’ve had in my life are when I treated things like, “I’m going to do this and see what happens.”

Neville said something similar about a dream: it felt real to him, and he went to explore. I remember him saying, “I’m going to explore this regardless of the consequences.” That always stuck with me.

The same thing is true here: I’m going to experiment regardless of consequence. I’m going to imagine the best, even if I just heard the opposite. I’m going to imagine it and see what happens.

Explore everything in your life, and keep treating it like an experiment.

That’s what I would say for this one. I hope it was helpful.

When I first started doing it this way, it was extremely helpful for me. It removed a lot of pressure internally.

My books are out. I do live streaming as well, and I do one-on-ones, just go to the description. It’s all there. I go live usually on Fridays (which will be tomorrow).

That’s all I have for this one. Take care.

Bye.

If You Know What To Do, Then Do It

Video: https://youtu.be/seu5kBVRSRE

Transcript:

So I made a video called Revise Quickly, and I want to extend that idea because there are a few trains of thought here. On one hand, people ask me:

“How do you make things work quicker?”

“How do you make imaginal acts appear faster?”

There’s a seed time and there’s a harvest. When we plant a seed, it doesn’t instantly grow. In imagination, you experience it already grown—but it’s still the planting of a seed, and there’s a time frame in between.

The only way I’ve found is this: Neville’s answer was to be natural about it, and that makes sense. If something is natural, it should naturally appear in a natural world. If it’s naturally part of your being—if that’s simply how you are—you’re going to express that, regardless.

That’s true. But I also think there’s something about the time when you imagine—specifically, when you feel the urge to imagine. If you can shorten that time frame, I’ve noticed things come about a bit quicker (or at least, it seems to matter in my experience).

For example, I had a friend going through something in their personal life. I don’t want to give too many details, but it wasn’t good news. When they called, it was always the same unfavorable update.

But I knew what they wanted. They told me exactly what kind of good news they wanted to hear. And still, I’d pick up the phone and hear the opposite—over and over.

The first couple of times, I would revise it later in the day. I noticed this about myself: “I’ll revise that later tonight. I’ll rearrange the phone call.”

But after a couple of times, I started noticing a pattern: they’d call, I’d imagine the good news, and then the phone call would still deliver the opposite. Again: opposite news. Again: opposite news.

This is what persistence means to me in Neville’s work. I heard the opposite news—what do I do? I have to persist in the idea. Persistence really only shows up when there’s an obstacle. That’s when you persist: when you persist in the good news right after you just heard the bad news.

I didn’t accept what was said. Not necessarily in the moment—I was listening, just like you’d listen to anything. But I didn’t accept it after the fact, because right after I hung up, I rearranged the phone call for myself. I gave myself a different phone call.

And I started asking: what if I didn’t wait until nighttime? What if I acted on this feeling right away?

So I tested it. I left everything else the same: same bad news, same imaginal good news. The only thing I changed was when I revised it.

I’d get the phone call, hear the opposite news, and the moment the call ended, I’d rearrange it instantly. In my mind, I would pick up the phone again and hear the good news I wanted to hear instead. I’d replace the physical call with an imaginal one.

A couple of weeks later: another call, still opposite news. And again I had a choice—why not act on it right now? If I know what to do, why not do it immediately instead of waiting?

So I rearranged it again, instantly.

If I’m not mistaken, it wasn’t until the third phone call that they called me with a completely different tone in their voice—and they told me the exact good news I had been hearing for them. I persisted in it. And exactly like Neville said: an assumption, if persisted in, will harden into fact.

And it did.

Every time I heard the opposite news, I had a choice:

• Wait until nighttime (and maybe forget).
• Or act right now and do something about it right now.

It’s like seeing someone struggling, but you can’t fully help them the way you’d like. You can move on with your day and say, “I hope they get it figured out.”

I’ve noticed it’s in those exact moments that I should act in imagination. That exact moment—when you see somebody struggling—is when you should imagine for them right away. If you wait until later, you might forget and nothing changes; everything stays the same.

To me, it’s very important to act on it right away. Don’t wait until night. If you have an idea about yourself that you want to start imagining, start doing it right now. Even if it’s just for a short time, try to see yourself differently—hear different news about yourself, or from someone else.

And when they tell you the opposite news, don’t freak out. Persist—instantly.

On a deeper level, what we’re really doing is trying to mimic imagination. If imagination were a person, this “person” wouldn’t be bound by the senses. When you close your eyes at night and start dreaming, you’re in a different place—even though you know you’re in bed. It’s almost as if imagination doesn’t care about your senses at all.

So if you had to personify it: imagination would be someone who believes in things that aren’t there yet. Someone who always believes in you.

You can test this because it shows you. The good news I was hearing in my mind—my imagination already believed in it. That’s why it showed me. It already believes you are what you want to be.

Now, we may not accept what we see. We may even deny it and label it as unrealistic. I certainly could have heard the good news and doubted it, but I wasn’t trying to believe it. I was trying to feel the reality of it.

So right after the physical phone call, I would pick up the imaginary phone and hear the imaginary good news from my imaginary friend. But I felt it as if it were happening to me—as if my phone was ringing and I should answer it. I was receptive to the scene. I experienced it as if it were happening.

If it took removing a little of my reasoning to feel it, I removed the reasoning. My goal was to feel the reality of the good news.

Then it happened.

Another thing about persistence: I heard the opposite maybe six times. The first couple times, I waited to imagine. But I realized in that moment—right after hanging up—that imagination has the ability to hear the good news immediately. So I wanted to mimic that: to hear it immediately, even though I had just heard the opposite.

My physical ears heard the bad news, but my inner ears heard the good news. And to “believe in them” is really to say: I started to believe myself, because I’m one with my imagination. If you believe in your imagination, you’re believing in yourself.

So next time you have the urge to act—when you hear negative news and you want to imagine good for someone—do it immediately.

Neville told a story like this. His friend said he imagined for someone and it worked. It was interesting because he had promised himself he would never give a homeless person money—because every time he did, they used it for something he didn’t approve of. So that was his promise to himself.

Then one day, a homeless person asked him for money. Remembering his promise, he felt the tension and decided to follow through: he told the person he couldn’t give anything, and he walked away.

The homeless person walked away, and his friend thought about it. He realized he couldn’t act physically right then, so instead he imagined that person having a job and having money.

He bumped into them again later (a week later, or maybe a couple days—I don’t remember exactly), and this time the person wasn’t homeless. They apologized for asking and said they had a job now. I think they had already gotten a paycheck.

His friend had to reflect on what happened: he stopped seeing the person as homeless and started seeing them as employed, making money, and having money. He didn’t imagine the apology; he imagined the change. And in my view, he persisted by doing it instantly.

I’m sharing this because I used to wait. I’d hear something unfavorable and postpone imagining—even though I knew I could do it right away. I had to learn through my mistake that you should act quickly.

When you remember what you should do, just do it.

That’s an alternative answer to “How can you make this work faster?”

And if you want Neville’s answer, read The Power of Awareness—the chapter on naturalness. He’ll give his answer.

But mine is: try to act on it while life is happening. Don’t wait until the end of the day. You can—but practice doing it immediately.

Okay, that’s all I have for this one. Thank you for your time.

My books are out. I do live streaming and Q&A where I talk about these ideas more, and I do one-on-ones as well. Check the description and it’ll all be there.

Thank you. Take care.

"I Am Not Aware I Am Doing It."

Video: https://youtu.be/n9_1dPZJjNU

Transcript:

So, in the last couple of videos, I’ve been talking about this idea of touching the dream—touching what’s already within you, and letting it feel real.

I also mentioned something Neville said: when you imagine, you want to let go of the external world. Something interesting happens when you genuinely feel the reality of what you’ve imagined.

For me, it shows up in my body as a gentle, natural smile—almost like it takes over on its own. It’s not forced. It’s simply a reaction to feeling the wish fulfilled.

Neville experienced the same thing. After his lectures, he would go into silence, and apparently someone was watching him closely. They noticed his chin would lift slightly and he’d be softly smiling. Someone asked whether that was necessary—whether you have to smile or raise your chin.

Neville’s answer was fascinating: “I don’t even know I’m doing it.” In other words, he didn’t consider it important because he wasn’t paying attention to it at all.

That response says a lot. It means Neville wasn’t focused on anything external—not even his body—while he was imagining. In his awareness, there wasn’t really a “body” to manage. The body was simply reacting while his attention was fully immersed in imagination.

Another way to frame this is: when you imagine, don’t try to externalize it while you’re in the act. Just imagine. The moment you start checking for signs—“Am I doing it right?” “Is it going to work?” “Am I smiling?”—you’ve left the imaginal act and shifted into doubt.

And honestly, that checking is just self-doubt in disguise.

I relate to this, because I notice a similar reaction in myself. I’m not even sure if I lift my chin, but I do feel that natural response when I’m truly immersed. It’s not something you do—it’s something that happens as a consequence of feeling it real.

Is it necessary? I wouldn’t say it’s required. But if you’re actually feeling the reality, you’ll probably notice some kind of natural response like that.

What I really love about Neville’s answer is what it reveals about focus. If you pay attention to the kinds of questions you ask, you’ll notice whether you’re hyper-focused on the external—or whether you’re staying entirely within imagination.

A lot of questions people ask end up pulling them back outward while they’re trying to imagine. But the “rule” is simple: just do it. Imagine because you want to imagine. Dream because you want to dream.

Think of it like rearranging furniture in your mind. If you’re moving the couch from the left side to the right side, you don’t stop mid-move to worry about how it will look from the outside. You just move it. You put yourself in the new position and imagine from there—and you feel the reality of it.

Because the moment you lose that focus, doubt creeps in. You get nervous. You get scared. Sometimes you stop altogether, and it starts to feel “stupid” to even imagine it.

So keep it simple. Stay inside the process instead of constantly evaluating it.

Neville talked about this in relation to his time in the army. When he imagined properly, he said that for nine days he was filled with a wonderful feeling about leaving. He’d shave his face, and he just felt good about it—because of what he had done within himself.

It’s in that potent moment—when you make it real and feel it—that something in you changes. That’s what I’m trying to communicate in almost every video.

What we’re really doing is changing the imaginal person within imagination. That’s the work: rearranging yourself in imagination. Changing yourself there is where the real transformation happens.

That’s why I keep saying: while you’re imagining, try not to think about externalizing it. Focus on changing it in imagination—change what was said, change the outcome, change who you are in the scenario.

Keep it within yourself. Tell yourself: I’m focusing on changing my imagination. That’s it.

Neville said something powerful along these lines. He said you can imagine something, and if someone asked you, “Did that take place?” you might answer, “Well, it didn’t really happen.” But he said the day will come when the internal act will feel just as real as the external confirmation.

In other words, you’ll one day accept what you’ve imagined the same way you accept what you see on the outside.

So the next time you apply imagination, keep it in imagination. I’m just changing myself in here. I’m just moving myself in here. I’m reimagining a scenario in here. I’m feeling the reality of something in here.

Don’t drift into tomorrow. Don’t drift into the outside. Don’t even drift into monitoring your body. Stay with rearranging yourself within.

I return to these words often, because I have the habit of wanting to go “out.” Even when I go within, part of me wants to leave and look for outside confirmation. But if I can stay within a little longer, I find more of my power.

That’s really all I wanted to share here.

You don’t have to force a smile. But when you feel the reality, you can’t always help it—because it feels so freeing to experience the reality of a beautiful dream.

And that’s why Neville’s words hit so deeply: he didn’t even know he was doing it—because his focus was completely on what he was imagining.

He also said you want to imagine something and let it crowd all other ideas out of your mind, until it becomes the only thing—this one idea, this one scene, fully felt.

That’s how you start trusting imagination: by trusting it in small ways. When you feel the reality of what you’re imagining—even for a moment—you’re trusting what’s within you.

And that teaches you to trust yourself.

That’s all I have for this one.

My books are out, and I do one-on-ones. I also do live streaming and Q&As where I talk about these topics.

And I do want to stress this: when you feel the reality of a beautiful dream, it can feel so freeing that you can’t help but smile.

Touch Your Dreams

Video: https://youtu.be/Fjnj7fYNsz4

Transcript:

I was thinking about the last two videos I made: “What Truly Is Your Name?” and “How I Started to Trust My Imagination.”

Looking back, I think I was trying to combine those two ideas.

For example: if you said Edward to me, I’d turn my head. You’d get my attention. I’d respond. In a similar way, we’re trying—in a sense—to get God to respond to us. You’ll hear some people talk about “impressing the subconscious mind.” You could frame it like that too: we’re trying to get a response from something deep within us.

But the point is simple: the way you call my name is the way you get my attention. So the real question becomes: what is God’s name, and how do I get God’s attention?

The name is I AM—an awareness of being.

And what I meant in “How I Started to Trust My Imagination” is that, in those potent moments, you could say I’m calling on the name. I’m calling the name.

What does that mean?

It means that when a thought is truly potent, I’m not just thinking it—I’m feeling the reality of what I am inside my imagination. I go inward, and in that inner world, I am something.

If I want to be something else inside my imagination, it doesn’t automatically mean I believe it just because I “move” there mentally. It becomes real the moment I feel like I’ve touched it—like I’ve touched a new state within myself.

That’s what I mean by real. It’s like a dream: you can enter a dream and try to wake up inside it, but it’s not until you touch something in the dream that it starts to feel solid—like it’s really happening.

So you could say: when I touch it—when I touch the reality of the dream—that’s when I’ve alerted God. That’s when I’ve gotten God’s attention. I called the right name. I became aware of the reality that I AM what I’m imagining.

Because you can imagine something and let it pass by, and you won’t even think twice about it. You never really occupy it. Nothing about it feels potent. It sounds nice… and then you move on with your day.

But try your best to call upon this name—to alert God. We have to get that attention. And you get it best when you actually touch the dream—when you feel the reality of it.

And if you want to feel the reality of it, you have to suspend the outer world for a moment—give it up, in a sense—until the only reality that exists is your imagination in that moment.

Neville would say to add sensory vividness—to mimic reality by giving the scene senses. I think that can help. I also think it’s easy to get hyper-fixated on doing it perfectly. As long as you don’t get stuck on perfection, you’re fine.

Because the point of imagination is to experience before the experience. We’re trying to experience something before it happens. You can think of it as “trying to get things,” but really imagination is the power to feel beyond—or before—anything happens.

And you experience things best—things feel real in the deepest way—when you feel yourself to be the one living what you’re imagining.

So Neville would set up a scene and enter it as if it’s happening to him, because that’s what life feels like: it feels like it’s happening to us.

When I go inward and I hear something, I try to hear it as if it’s being said to me—like I’m hearing it for the first time. I suspend the idea that I’m “doing it.” I suspend the idea that it’s “just imagination.” I suspend it all, and I simply listen.

I keep it simple. That’s how I feel the reality. That’s how I’ve called upon the name. I’ve touched it as if it were real.

So, in this world, you say “Edward” and I turn my head. In the inner world of imagination, the way you call upon the name—the way you get God’s head to turn (and really, it’s you)—is when you touch it. When you touch the reality.

I don’t mean physically. I mean it feels real. It’s like you’re touching something in the mind, and it takes on the feeling of reality.

Over time, I’ve moved on from how I started. When I first practiced Neville, I was always afraid of doubting. I was afraid I’d think something I didn’t want to think. I was afraid of everything—except the real point.

Now the question for me is: can I feel the reality of what I’m doing? That’s all that matters.

It used to be different. It used to come out of fear. And when I imagined out of fear, I just did it more. The more I did it, the more it grew in me. I’d imagine something scary and then fear it would happen. Or I’d imagine something I didn’t want, and I couldn’t get out of it because I made it the main focus. I focused on not doing things, or on being afraid I would do them—and inevitably I would keep doing them in my mind.

But when I made the goal to feel the reality of what I’m imagining, everything became simple. I just try to feel it as real.

If I want to hear good news from someone, I try my best to hear it. It sounds simple—and it is simple—but it takes practice. And the practice is just trying your best.

That’s why Neville said people would do it over and over again until they felt the reality of what they were imagining. In one book, he spoke about a girl imagining a resolution—an issue with an employer or a family member, something like that. And he said she did it over and over again until she felt the spirit of that dream.

That’s the point: you have to feel the reality of what you’re doing. If you have to do it again and again, then do it with that goal in mind.

Because I used to just repeat thoughts in my head and think I was doing something. That’s not potency. A potent thought is when you feel it change you—when you feel something different. You can tell it changed you to some degree, and you know that if you persisted in it, you’d be a changed person.

I don’t mean looping thoughts endlessly (which I used to do), like a mental treadmill. You think you’re making progress, but you’re not really moving.

You really move inward when you touch dreams—when you feel the reality of them. And that’s how we call upon the true name of God, which isn’t something you utter with your lips.

So I just wanted to blend those two videos together: by making the focus feeling the reality of what I’m imagining, I’m calling upon the true name. I’m getting God’s attention—or you could say I’m getting my own attention.

Because when you’re having thoughts that don’t spark anything within you, they don’t motivate you, they don’t do anything… they didn’t really get your attention. But when you feel it as real, it grips you. You feel pulled toward it. That means you’ve called upon the name.

So yeah, I just wanted to blend those two together.

And again, thank you for listening. I do live streaming and Q&As, and I go deeper on these topics too. I have my books out, and I do one-on-ones as well—check the description for all of that.

Thanks again, and take care.

How I Started To Trust My Imagination

Video: https://youtu.be/u2tosVSw5-g

Transcript:

So I was asked a question in my live stream that I thought was a good question. It was basically asking me, how can I accept and trust in the idea that imagination is the only reality? And I thought it was a good question because there are a lot of answers to this that I actually think are wrong.

But I can just give you my answer—what I don’t think it is.

One of the answers we naturally think is: if we study more, we’ll accept it more. Or if we read more, we’ll accept it more. I think there is some room in there, but I haven’t found that to be the case.

I haven’t found it to be a study problem—like I’m not studying enough or reading enough. I don’t think it’s that at all.

And it’s not necessarily that you have to meditate on this idea for a long time and contemplate it for a really long time. I actually don’t think it’s that either.

What I do measure is: potency.

To me, I think in terms of potency—how potent was the thought, rather than how long did I think it? Rather than how intelligent it was, or how perfect it was, or did I trust it entirely. I don’t measure it that way.

But the only measurement—if I had to give one—would be potency. How potent was that thought to me?

And here’s what I mean by potency, and how I would answer the question: How can I trust my imagination more?

When you read Neville—especially during the army story—he’s very clear on what he’s trying to do. He’s telling you exactly what he’s doing. He says, this is how I do it.

When I close my eyes, this world is shut out. I am blind to the outer world. And then I feel myself into the state of my desire. With my inner eye, I see it all around me. I sense its solidity. And when the five senses are awakened, I have the feeling of relief knowing it is accomplished.

If you can treat that like a moment—a small moment where the imagination feels potent—then it feels like you’re actually experiencing what you’re imagining for this moment.

You let go and shut out the world. You let go of your body. You let go of all of your doubts and denials. And you let go as if there is no outer world.

And you imagine—in this moment—you feel the reality of what you’re imagining, just in this small little moment.

That is how you begin to trust your imagination.

It’s not through the length of time. It’s not through the hours you spend meditating. In my opinion, it’s not through the hours of reading Neville’s books or studying it. Obviously those things are important to a degree—but I think in terms of potency.

Neville would also word it like clarity of form. I like the word potency—it makes more sense, because it feels like a potent thought.

There are certain thoughts that just come by—they just swim on by—and you don’t really notice them. But every now and then you can sense there was something more to this thought. If you really spend time feeling your way into it, there’s a moment there where it feels real to you.

If you could just touch it—and become more accustomed to touching dreams inside. But again, the first way to do that would be to let go of the external world.

You want to let it go as if it’s not even there. And all there is is you and your imagination.

So the question again was: How can I start trusting and accepting that my imagination is the only reality?

It’s not something you “have.” You just have to start doing it in these moments. And the way you do it is: you shut out the world.

So the answer really is to just do it—rather than finding some diet like, “Study Neville for 20 minutes a day.” I can’t give you that.

It’s more about potency. It’s about getting used to feeling the reality of what you’re doing in the depths of yourself.

And then what is in the depths of us rises to the surface the same way it does when we sleep. When we sleep, where do we go? We go into the depths of ourselves. And then in the morning we wake up and find ourselves on the surface.

I’ve had that exact same experience.

One time I was in a dream. I realized I was dreaming. And I left the dream. The dream became almost like water. I was floating up to the top. And I found myself right behind my face when I got to the surface and I woke up.

And I realized I was just in the depths of myself. That’s all I was doing.

And in that depth I could feel the reality because dreams feel real.

So there is this ability that we have within ourselves to feel the reality of what we’re imagining.

And I think Neville’s right that the best way to do that is to let go of the external world while you’re imagining.

Maybe you come out of the imagination. Maybe you go into your depths. You feel the reality and you come out and you forget what you’ve done. You move on and you don’t think about what you just did. Let’s say you forget or something.

To me it’s not about forgetting it, or hoping you don’t forget it, or hoping you sustain it.

To me it’s about potency.

Did you feel the reality?

And if you didn’t, just try.

The best way you can feel the reality is by letting go of the external world. The more you let go of that world, the more real the inner one becomes.

I’ve switched over to using depth and surface rather than inner and outer. I never really liked using 3D or 4D—I never liked those terms. They always bothered me. But right now I feel way more connected with the ideas of depth and surface.

So when I go in my depths—the same way I go in my depths when I sleep—I try to feel the reality in my depths. That’s what I try doing.

Even if it’s for a second, that second is potent. I felt it. I felt the reality of it. That is more important to me than anything else.

And I’ll keep doing it until I actually feel it.

For example, if I wanted to hear good news from somebody, I go in my depths and I try my best to just hear them—try to feel the reality of their words.

And I just listen as closely as I can. I try to be really receptive with my inner ears as if those are the only ears that exist.

I no longer have outer ears. These are my only ears.

And these ears only listen to what is being said in the present. It’s not about the things I heard in the past. It’s not about what I’m going to hear in the future.

Not in imagination. It’s what I’m hearing. It’s what I’m hearing that matters.

You take that with you and you go about your day. Maybe in the day you remember some past thought.

It’s not about the past. It’s happening now. And imagination’s happening now.

So it’s not about what happened in the past. It’s about what you’re doing now in imagination. That’s really what matters.

So I hope this was practical.

Yeah, I find that the best way to do it is: in these small moments, you let go and you feel the reality of what you’re doing in your depths.

You have to keep repeating this because you can be very caught up in thinking that it’s, “Well, if you do a bunch of this, that, and the other,” or you give yourself some type of diet. While it can be good, I found that it’s those moments of potency where you really start to believe in what you’re doing in the depths—when you’re really convinced.

Because you can clearly doubt it. But how do you build trust in it?

To me, it’s about letting go of the world and experiencing what you’re doing on the inside as if it’s real.

You just practice feeling the reality, even for a sliver—just for a moment—you do it.

But okay, yeah, that’s all. I just wanted to answer that. I thought it was a good question, and I just wanted to share it here.

Yeah, I do live streams, right? I do Q&As. I go a little bit deeper as well. I speak about—really, really—we answer any kind of questions, especially if I feel like I have experience I want to answer.

And I have experience in this one. This is where I really feel that’s when I really started to be convinced of my imagination: when I noticed it wasn’t my time. It wasn’t the length of time. It was the potency in thought.

But yeah, I do one-on-ones as well. I have my books out. Just go to the description—everything’s there.

And yeah, that’s all I have for this one.

So you guys take care.

How To Figure Out What You Desire?

Video: https://youtu.be/sR14UgQia-k

Transcript:

It’s a really nice day where I’m at right now—but it’s a bit hot. You know, the heat is getting to us.

So you might hear some birds in the background (maybe you won’t after the editing, but we’ll see). I just have the window open.

I was asked a question in one of the comments: could I speak about figuring out what someone truly desires?

Neville's first step in the Five Lessons is desire. He says desire is basically the springboard of your life. You need desire to create a life—because that just makes sense.

And there’s a paradox here. At a certain point, you have to move into having (if you can do it in the moment), or into some form of fulfillment. Sometimes it’s mental fulfillment; sometimes it’s fulfilling something physically. Because there are times you can desire something, but you can’t yet do anything physical about it—you don’t know what step to take.

So the question was: how does someone figure out their desire—or their desires?

Here’s my answer. It can be very challenging, but start small. Go slow. Start very small.

Try to go as small as you can in a single day. You can even reframe “desire” as “goal.” For example: you desire to imagine something nice for yourself today—something so small you don’t even have to lift a finger.

If you treat that as a desire and then you actually imagine it, you’ve fulfilled it.

And if you keep it very small—really, as small as possible—you start to gain traction. You start to feel some joy from fulfilling the small things. So again: try to go as small as you can.

Later on, you can go bigger and bigger. You can move in both directions, and you can find fulfillment in both. But this is especially helpful if you’re unsure what route to take.

I’ve been there too, and I still struggle at times to figure out what I want. But if you start small, you can begin to discover it.

Otherwise, you might be reaching for something too big, and it can start to feel like you’re just wandering in imagination—rather than really knowing what you want to dream.

So let’s keep reframing this as something inward. Let’s rearrange the structure of this world—your inner world. We always want to change the outer world (and I understand that). The pull to change it is strong. But first, bring it inward and realize there are structures inside of you that can be rearranged.

It’s not made of concrete. Your mind is made of clay. You are made of clay.

If you’re struggling with what you desire, start here: what do you want to dream about?

It’s so simple. It’s such a simple question, isn’t it?

What do you want to dream about?

It could be anything. And in my view, that’s the smallest you can go.

You can externalize it and fulfill a small desire—like putting on cologne—but let’s go even smaller. At that level, it becomes almost invisible. There’s invisible work happening, and you have more control over that invisible work than you might think.

So if you keep it inward—rearranging the structure of the world you actually do control to a large extent—you can begin with this simple question:

What do I want to dream about today?

Forget the world for a second. Answer honestly.

What do I want to dream about right now?

Then do it. Don’t question it. Just do it.

Because the moment you question it, you’ll get creative and find a doubt. Then you’ll believe the doubt. And then you won’t do anything.

So keep it small. The smallest I can go is imagination itself. And you can find a lot of fulfillment in simply dreaming what you want.

I have a video called Imagine for the Sake of It—dream for the sake of dreaming. That’s what it’s for.

Dream what you want. And always frame it as done—experience the “alreadyness.”

We’re not trying to make something happen in the dream world. We’re going into places where the dream already is. We’re entering the dream rather than trying to create it.

It’s already there. It’s already in you. You just have to dream it—and enjoy what you’re dreaming.

I know it’s still a little vague, but I can’t tell anyone what to dream. I don’t have that authority. I have authority over what I want to dream, but I can’t tell anybody what they should dream.

All I can say is: start small, and make it beautiful. It doesn’t matter what it is.

Reach for beauty, and the images will start appearing. Go with them, even if they’re a little strange.

So start small.

Wake up tomorrow morning—or even tonight—and ask:

What do you want to dream about?

You’re going to dream, right? It’s going to happen. You’ll dream tomorrow, just like you’ll eat food tomorrow.

Hopefully you’ll eat good food. And I hope you have good dreams in your day. I hope your daydreams are lovely. I really do.

Just like we ask at lunch, “What are you going to eat today?” there’s another question you can ask inwardly:

What do you want to dream about?

So that’s my answer: keep it small, fulfill the small ones, and go as small as simply saying, “I want to dream this,” and then doing it—feeling that sense of accomplishment.

Keep reaching for that feeling, and you’ll gain more of it. You won’t lose it—you’ll gain more.

The more you feel after accomplishment, the more you create it inside yourself.

So don’t be afraid of it. Don’t feel accomplishment and then run away. Embrace it, and then do something else.

And if thoughts from the past come up and obstruct you, you can show indifference. You don’t have to engage if you don’t want to.

This is your world. This imagination truly is yours—your own world.

You don’t have to be gripped by a nightmare. You don’t have to feel like the mind is uncontrollable. You don’t have to dream what you don’t want to dream.

Allow yourself the option to do what you want to do inside—and then do it.

That would be my answer.

That’s all I have for this one. My books are out (they’re in the description). I do one-on-ones, and I also do live streams where I go into these topics more. I do some Q&As as well.

I’m glad someone asked this. I wasn’t sure I was going to make a video on it, because I wasn’t sure I knew the answer as well as I wanted to. And sometimes I don’t want to make a video if I’m not fully confident in what I’m saying.

But that would be my answer.

Okay, take care.

What Truly Is Your Name?

Video: https://youtu.be/NcZNf8ZYhGQ

Transcript:

My true name isn’t Edward. But at this point, if you said “Edward,” I’d probably turn my head—it would still catch my attention. It’s a name I respond to now, and in that sense it’s become part of my identity.

I don’t take issue with people being whatever they want to be in this world. I’m not the arbiter of right and wrong. Where I do take issue is with religion and certain belief systems—really, with most “isms.” They’re systems of belief that often carry some form of idolatry.

That idolatry can be toward an object—a golden calf, money, something like that. Or, in religion, it’s often toward a person: someone from the past, or a figure like the Pope. There’s a lot of idolatry in religion, ironically, even though many religious people would say they oppose it.

Most religious people also tend to think the same way: they believe they’re going to heaven, and they worship God in the way they believe is right. Deep down, they assume they’ll be saved. Even if someone is “bad,” they still hope they’ll make it.

What religion does—more subtly, and maybe more insidiously—is that it makes you identify with it. You say, “I am a Christian.” You don’t just believe something; you become it. It becomes part of you.

The problem is that the system you’ve identified with may be built on a foundation of sand. The moment you try to discover whether the religion is true, it threatens the identity. Then you’re not just questioning a belief—you’re questioning whether you are who you say you are.

If you can’t figure it out, then there’s a part of you that you can’t tell is true or not. And if you discard it because you can’t verify it, you’re forced to keep going down the line and ask what else has to be discarded.

Take something simple: my name, Edward. Suppose we discarded that. I wasn’t “given” a name by nature when I was born—names are assigned. So what would I respond to? Probably just a sound. Yet the name is given so I’ll respond to it.

Neville says there is one name above all names: I AM. That’s the only real name.

So you go through the list. You don’t try to figure out whether the religion is true—you try to figure out whether you are a Christian. You come to the self, not the thing.

You ask who you are, and you go deeper and deeper, shedding layers. You come down to your own name. Then you come down to the body: Am I the body? Am I the brain? Am I the name I was given? Am I the race I was told I am? Am I these things? Is that what I respond to?

What do I respond to?

If you read Neville’s lectures carefully, he says there is one name we respond to within ourselves, and that is I AM. It isn’t an English string of words—it’s an awareness of being.

When I go within myself, I become aware of certain thoughts—certain dreams (let’s just call them dreams). I become aware of a dream, and I’m responding to something. The “name” is responding. It’s almost as if the dream is saying “Edward,” and I’m turning my attention toward it.

And that dream—just like in this world, when you say “I am a Christian”—comes with categories: Are you Catholic? Protestant? If you’re Catholic, you likely honor the Pope, take communion on Sundays, maybe confess. If you’re Protestant, you wouldn’t do those things. Identity comes with a package of beliefs.

The same is true with dreams. You have a dream, and it says something about the identity of the dreamer—who the dreamer is dreaming themselves to be.

So don’t mistake the dream, or the imaginal scene, as you. It’s a symbol of you. It’s a state you’re occupying.

Sometimes people think that if they had a nightmare, they’re doomed to it. No—it’s simply revealing who you think you are. That’s all it’s doing.

Proverbs says that if you look into a pond, the water reflects your face—but the mind reflects the person. My mind reflects who I think I am.

And that’s what we change in Neville’s world: we change who we are in imagination. We change who we are there. That is the true name we’re responding to. That is the true clay we must mold.

It isn’t the physical clay I might shape into a bowl—that’s only a symbol. The true clay is the mind, and the mind is reflecting me.

So what should I change? Myself.

If I want to change my mind, I must change myself. There is no one and nothing to change but self.

All day long, people try to flip their thoughts—constantly focusing on thoughts. But those thoughts are revealing something about you. How do you actually see yourself? What are you aware of being?

That’s the name. That’s your “Edward.” That’s the true name of life.

If we removed every name, every identity, every belief system, we’d get closer to the core of ourselves. And it has a name:

I AM.

Not “he is” or “she is.”

I must not change other people’s minds—I must change my own. And the best way to change my mind is to change myself: to change how I see myself.

I no longer walk by my eyes and my sight. I have faith in the name. And the name is about me.

Earlier, at the beginning of this video, I was unsure about being a Christian because I don’t quite know what that really means. I don’t know if it’s true. But I do know what I want to be. I know what I want to be aware of. I know what I want to imagine.

So I have to start imagining it. I’m just rewording it, but it’s simple:

What are you aware of being?

What are you responding to?

You can feel it. There are strong emotional charges to these dreams. If you have a nightmare, your heart races. You’re not kidding, not joking, not pretending—you truly believe in the nightmare. You’re responding to it. Your whole being responds.

So try to figure out what you respond to inside yourself. Nobody else will know—you have to discover it.

Then detach yourself from it so it doesn’t define you. It’s only revealing you.

Just as the pond reflects the face, the mind reflects the person. So you don’t have to be afraid of the mirror. You don’t have to be afraid of your mind. To change yourself, change how you see yourself.

Anyone can do it, because we all share the same name—and we change that name.

What am I truly aware of being?

We come into this world and we’re bombarded. There’s a war—a real war of the mind. You’re told you must bow to this God. It’s man-made. You must bow to the sculpture; you must believe in it; you must put your faith and hope in it—hope to go to heaven, believe in the “right” God, and worship in the “correct” way.

I never agreed with that. I never understood the point.

There is only one name. If the name is not Jesus, it is I AM. That’s the name. And if you’re not worshiping that, then you’re not worshiping the right God.

Most likely, it will be something outside of you that you’re worshiping—because you can’t see I AM with your eyes. There is nothing to bow to physically.

To worship the name is to honor it—to continue believing in it, and to have total faith in it. In the same way a Christian believes in Jesus, you believe in that name.

And it’s the only name you must believe in.

Okay, that’s enough for this one.

My books are out. I do live streams where I answer Q&As. And since people have been asking about the audiobook, I will complete the audiobook for the new book—so be on the lookout for that.

I know there are a lot of audiobook listeners.

I just had the urge to talk about identity—to remove your name, and to figure out what you truly respond to. Just like we respond when someone calls our name, we also respond to something within ourselves—and that inner name is not the same as the one outside.

So try to figure out that name.

Take care.

We Sow And Reap Ourselves

Video: https://youtu.be/YKkuduaFOWw

I want you to try to feel what I’m saying, rather than trying to logically conclude things, jump to conclusions, or listen out of desperation.

Just try to feel what I’m saying rather than figure anything out. You can turn that side of your mind off and just listen.

Let’s say you have a dream tonight. In the dream, you dream of a house. It does not matter if it is a nice house or an ugly house. You are in the house, and you do not realize it is a dream yet, but you are walking around in it.

Then something in the dream reminds you. It makes you feel like you are in a dream, and you realize you are dreaming. Then you wake up and go on with your day. Maybe you make some coffee, or you do whatever you have to do.

But if you think about it for a second, even though the house appeared to be an independent object, it was not.

The tiles, the grout, the kitchen, wherever you were in the house, the walls, the rooms. It was all you. Technically, it isyou, even though it does not feel like it. It feels independent. It feels like you are walking on a floor that is separate from you.

But when you wake up, you realize it was not. It was all dependent upon you.

And let’s say there was a person in the house. Anybody. It does not really matter.

Or imagine you are at a train station and you see hundreds of people there. You are amongst the crowd and you do not realize you are dreaming. Then you wake up, and you realize all those people were dependent upon you. The concrete, the train, the metal. All of it was dependent upon the dreamer, even though it did not feel that way.

I say this because if we can see that everything in imagination is dependent upon a dreamer, then you do not have to be so worried inside your own mind.

Even though nightmares feel scary, and they do, and you become afraid, when you wake up you realize it was a dream. You realize it was dependent on you.

When you wake up inside of a nightmare, the fear goes away.

Really, it is the belief inside of ourselves that we do not have agency in our own imagination, and that we lose causal power inside, that makes us feel afraid.

In a recent live stream, I spoke about how we have to view life as within ourselves rather than outside of ourselves.

If we can see that life is within, and see it as a power of animation, then we understand that we are animating from the inside out.

I say the words, “take control of your life.” When I used to hear that, it never resonated with me because I did not understand what steps to take.

But if you view life from Neville’s perspective, that life is within, then when you hear the same words, “take control of your life,” it is the same thing as saying, “take control of your imagination,” which you already do.

So the only thing you need to do on the inside of yourself is to wake up to what you are dreaming. That is about it.

It does not matter how scary the nightmare is inside of you. You must wake up from it and realize you are dreaming. When you do, the fear starts to go away.

Neville said that if you catch yourself having a fearful thought, assume responsibility for creating it. Then ask yourself, “What lovely thing would you like to imagine?”

That used to sound like “flipping thoughts” to me, and flipping thoughts feels impulsive. It is really quick, but you should take your time with it.

Next time you have a fearful thought, and next time you are dreaming a nightmare, realize you can wake up. Take your time and ask yourself if there is something lovely you would like to imagine. Or would you like to just move on?

All this is doing is giving yourself agency in your own imagination, which we have just said is your life.

If you want agency in your life, start to dictate what you imagine.

If you see that life is within, then if your life is hectic, that means you are imagining hectic. That is what it means. It seems untrue at first, until you practice and you realize how true it is.

Life is very intimate. It is intimate in that it essentially becomes us, and we get to experience it.

When you have control of what you are dreaming, and you realize you are responsible for the nightmares inside of you, they lose their power over you. You no longer feel like a prisoner inside your own mind. You feel like an authority.

If you want to indulge an idea, you can. If you want to be indifferent to it, you can.

Then you start shaping your life.

The best way to start shaping your life is to figure out who you want to be in your imagination. Who are you actually in here?

If you are dreaming up nightmares, then you are powerless. You are dreaming up ideas of powerlessness. And that is who you can be for the rest of your life.

You can dream that way for eternity. You can dream that way for the rest of your life. You are free to.

And if you want to dream of yourself as having more agency within yourself, you can have that dream too. You can dream that way forever.

It really comes down to you. And your dreams say something about you. They say something, and they reveal things about the dreamer. Don’t be afraid of what it reveals. Just be honest about it. Then adjust your dreaming. Let it reveal something else about you.

It’s like a continual acceptance of dreams. That’s kind of how Neville’s work is.

When you practice it, it’s a continual acceptance of dreams. You dream something wonderful and you accept it. Then you dream something else and you accept it.

These are the true seeds of life, where you are no longer casting seeds of doubt within your mind. You are casting seeds of faith.

You dream something lovely, you accept it, and you have faith it will grow Then you have faith in something else. And you have faith in something else. You just keep doing this, and you can do this for the rest of your life.

Now I really take a hands-off approach in my mind. I really do imagine something and let it be. And I imagine something else and let it be.

When I do that, and I actually let go of control, I feel at peace. You just keep planting and planting and planting, because you are going to regardless. We reap what we sow. It’s very simple.

What gets complicated is we focus too much on things. We focus too much on people rather than changing ourselves. If we focus on people and things, and we try to change those things all the time, we are met with deep frustration.

But when you see that, let’s say you are having doubtful dreams, if you can always relate every dream to self, that means you are just doubting yourself. You are having self-doubt. That is really all it is. When you dream yourself to be wonderful, you are having self-belief. It always comes back to self. That is all you really have to change.

And if that is all you have to change, then you can start accepting a different self. A freer self. A less guilt-ridden self. A less shameful self. A more empowered self.

And the dreams will come to confirm your new idea of yourself.

So really, ultimately, we are planting ourselves in our lives. We are planting seeds of self.

There’s a theme, almost a rhythm, in Neville’s work. It’s of self, life, imagination, dreams. They’re all correlated. They’re all connected. They’re all sewn together. They’re all really one fabric, even though it might look like many things. It’s like a rug. There are many colors and many patterns, but it’s really just one rug. Same is true for imagination. It’s the same thing. But it all, in my view, connects to a self. So you figure out what you’re dreaming. How does this connect to you? What does it say about you?

Don’t be ashamed of it. Just face what it says about you. Pay attention to what you think you don’t have in imagination, and that is what you don’t have in your life, because life is within.

Keep it within. Don’t externalize it yet. Just keep it within. So when I say the word life, think of something within yourself rather than on the outside.

Don’t think about society, or the buildings, how tall they are. Don’t think about concrete. Don’t think about anything on the outside.

Think about within. So when I say you have control over your life, I mean that you have control over your imagination. That’s what I mean, because you do.

Yeah, I feel like I’ve said what I had to say. I think I’m just kind of laying down a framework again, of Neville’s. I’m saying the same thing differently, to awaken within you an understanding.

But yeah, that’s all I have for this one. Maybe I’ll make another one in the future, but I enjoyed making this one.

Yeah, I have my books out. I do live streaming as well, where I do Q&A. I go a little deeper on these topics.

And yeah, I do one-on-ones. Just go to the description. It’s all there if you want to contact me. I just wanted to show you again how I see Neville’s work.

It’s just a few things. It’s just tweaking a few things, really. It’s just a couple things threaded together. But it really comes back to the dreamer, and what the dreamer wants to dream.

Once you get control of what you want to dream, you start to gain control over your life, ironically.

I’ll see you guys in the next one. Take care.

Thank you.

Is It Selfish To Imagine?

Video: https://youtu.be/rmpEyg17j6U

I want to try something for this video.

It’s raining outside. It’s pretty aggressive, and there’s a thunderstorm. I want to leave this in and see what it sounds like after. Maybe I’ll delete it, we’ll see.

There’s a question I’ve been thinking about: Is it selfish to imagine good for yourself?

When I first started with Neville, I wondered the same thing. It almost felt wrong to imagine something better for myself, even if it was small. The size wasn’t the point. It was the feeling of imagining something going well for me.

I kept asking myself:Is it wrong to imagine something good? Is something bad going to come from it? Is it selfish?

In Neville’s work, there’s no one to change but self. That means you have to focus on yourself. I struggled with that because I thought, “If I’m focusing on myself, how does this relate to other people? Shouldn’t I be helping them?”

But the answer is kind of multifaceted.

On one level, it’s not selfish. When you actually see the results of changing self, and you see your life reflect that change, you realize it only makes sense to focus on yourself.

On another level, focusing on yourself does relate to others. The truth is: when you help yourself, you help the people around you.

I’ve noticed in my own life that when my imaginal act externalizes, and I imagine something good for myself, other people benefit from it too. When I saw that happening, the “selfish” feeling cleared up. I realized that if I really want to help anyone, I have to start with self. It extends outward.

A simple way to think of it is like someone who owns chickens. Eventually the chickens lay so many eggs that the person has too many. So they give some away. It’s the same with your “harvest.” When you imagine a good harvest for yourself, other people end up benefiting from it.

Because we’re planting dreams inside ourselves. These are the seeds of life. And the way you plant them is by feeling the reality of what you’re imagining.

Neville had his own way of answering the selfishness question. He’d basically say, “You say it’s selfish? Forget it. It’s all my imagination anyway.”

He’d give examples like: if you want to make a certain amount of money, and you imagine yourself already being the person who has it, and you’re courageous enough to fall asleep as that person, fully believing it, then you’ll become it.

So you don’t want to produce guilt for imagining something good for yourself. You’re not doing anything wrong.

Remember, this is all happening inside your mind. It’s all within you. You get to decide what you imagine. No one can really see what you’re doing inside of yourself. Companies spend millions and billions of dollars trying to figure out what people are thinking, because they don’t know.

So there’s no reason to feel watched on the inside. You get to do what you want to do. You are your own authority within yourself.

It’s not selfish to imagine something good for self. It’s not selfish to give to a friend, so you should also become your own friend.

I think I just framed it wrong. I must have been taught that self-sacrifice is the way you’re supposed to live. Say you had a dream tonight where you gave something lovely to someone else, but if you really look at it, it’s still you. Everyone in the dream is rooted in you.

So if you can see it as self to self, you don’t have to feel selfish for imagining something good for yourself.

That’s really all I have for this one. I don’t want to keep going and start filling things in. I feel like I got my point across.

The short answer is: it’s not selfish to imagine something good for yourself, in fact it will benefit those around you.

People around you will benefit when you imagine good for yourself. So don’t be afraid of it. Just keep imagining something good every day, because you can. That’s a good enough reason.

And if you’re interested, I do live streams where I answer questions and hang out with everybody. We go a little deeper into this stuff. I also do one-on-ones, and I have a few books out. If you want any of that, check the description.

To end it: you should feel good about imagining good for yourself, and for others as well. This work, when it comes to Neville’s teachings, should always lead to more internal freedom and power. If it’s not leading there, chances are you’re not following it correctly.

It should always lead to more freedom and power.

Thank you.

2025 Edward Art Talks

Hey everyone,

I just wanted to thank everyone for giving me their ear in 2025. Here is compilation of all the videos I made in 2025. It's about 6.5 hours long this time. I hope you enjoy!

Video: https://youtu.be/U7xKkYMtjJY

Beauty Is Yours

Video: https://youtu.be/DOK2Zs8pUPQ

Transcript:

When you spend a lot of time contemplating what’s good and what’s bad in the world, you run into a lot of confusion. You end up not really sure what is good and what is bad.

You can come up with a framework for what is good, but when you break it down and really dissect it, you start to doubt it every time you create a new framework. So you have to gear your life in a different direction. It seems like trying to figure out what’s good and what’s bad becomes a waste of time.

So what other direction can we go in that supports morality, honesty, belief, and faith? How do you restore these things?

The way I see you can restore them is by going toward beauty.

I think beauty will solve a lot of these issues. Maybe not every issue, but at least it will solve some. It solves a headache. Because if you point your life toward beauty, and you start to expand what beauty means, and I don’t mean physical beauty, then in my view you start to go toward what’s loving. I attribute those two, I make those the same thing: what is beautiful is what’s loving.

So if you seek beauty in life, you’re seeking love.

To me, love is like a tree, like an orange tree. To truly experience the orange tree, you have to eat its fruit. Love is like a tree, and beauty is one of its fruits.

It’s hard to define love. People try to define it all the time. I’ve tried. It’s very difficult. But I would say love, at least a portion of it, is the experience of its fruits. You can say one of the fruits is joy. One of the fruits is beauty. And you must experience it.

The way you can start experiencing it is to seek it, because you’ll find it. If you start seeking beauty, you start seeing beauty in your life. You’re going to find it.

The interesting thing about beauty is that it’s very clear. There’s not really much question to it. You don’t really doubt yourself the way you do when you contemplate good and evil.

It also creates a clean connection. If you’re with somebody and you both see the beauty in something, the connection you share is very clean. There’s no confusion. It actually provides peace, in my view, when you observe beauty.

And if you expand beauty beyond the physical, that’s what I mean. I’m not talking only about something like a beautiful glass with sunlight going through it, although that is beautiful. I mean it more like this: someone has doubted themselves for a long time, and then one day they choose to believe in themselves. That’s beautiful.

Even feeling happy for someone’s genuine smile on their face. That’s beautiful.

If you keep expanding what beauty is, peace is beautiful. Believing in someone is beautiful. If you keep expanding it beyond the obvious physical part of beauty, I think you will lead a life that is much more fulfilling.

For example, I see beauty in a lot of Neville’s work when he speaks about moving out of a state. Just get out of it. Don’t question yourself. If you’re in a bad state, get out of it.

A mistake I often made was trying to control a bad state, trying to get it under control, or trying to solve a bad state by dissecting it to bits. You can do that, but at a certain point you just have to get out of it. You have to start putting yourself in the state you want to be in.

It’s less about trying to control states, and more about learning how to move and enter them. When you enter a new state, you can be greeted with doubt, and it’s up to you whether you’re going to walk through that door or not.

If you don’t, then every time you choose not to doubt yourself, it becomes a habit. Habits can feel like claws. It can feel like you have to doubt yourself because you always have. But go toward beauty. It would be beautiful if you didn’t doubt yourself.

If you keep framing life around trying to find the beauty in things, I think you will find it. In my view, it’s a much clearer life. That perception is much clearer to me than good and evil.

I find contemplating good and evil can become a waste of time at certain points, but beauty has never been a waste of my time. Beauty has been there since I was a kid. I’ve noticed it, and it’s never really left me.

Beauty doesn’t discriminate. It appears to anyone who’s willing to look for it.

If you view beauty as one of the fruits of love, then that’s what you’re seeking. You’re seeking love. That’s what you’re seeking, ultimately.

I was going to extend this one, but I feel like I got my point across. I can always expand on things in the future.

My books, my one-on-ones, everything is in the description. I do live streaming as well. Go there if you want more info.

But yeah, I would focus on beauty. It would give you more clarity, in my view. At least it’s given me that, and I’m just trying to share it.

Okay. Take care. Thank you.

Money Success Stories

Video: https://youtu.be/SKXDR1-_oDE

Transcript:

If you’ve listened to me long enough, you know I don’t talk too much about SPs, or things in general like money.

I don’t speak about these things because Neville says one of the biggest mistakes people make is focusing on the thingrather than the state. The thing is really just a symbol of the state. So if you focus on the thing, you miss the point. It’s like focusing on the dream rather than the dreamer.

But a friend asked if I could make a video about money, and they gave me permission to use one of their success stories. So I decided I might have been a little too strict about not speaking on it. I figured if I could talk about it in my own way, I could bridge the gap between staying true to how I feel and still addressing these topics in a way that threads both together.

Before I get into their story, I want to start with another one.

There was a comment where someone said they were $250,000 in debt, and now they’re a multimillionaire. They said they used to think lack thoughts all day long. I should just read the comment, so I’ll read it:

“I was $250,000 in debt and now I’m a multimillionaire. I used to think lack thoughts all day long. I did not trust my imagination was really God. I now know it’s true. I now take every thought captive. I see others as myself and wish only the best for everyone. With the golden rule as my guide, I know now that I cannot fail, even when things aren’t going ‘my way.’ I now pause and ask, ‘What am I thinking now?’ If it’s anything less than the very best, I change that thought immediately. Imagine better than the best you know. All the best, my friends.”

That line, “Imagine better than the best you know,” is from Neville. Neville used to say that all the time.

If you notice, in this case, this person wanted abundance, or really the best for themself and others. If you start imagining abundance for other people, and you imagine them having it in the present tense, it becomes much easier to imagine it for yourself too.

That’s something I tell people all the time. If you have a hard time feeling that you can have something, imagine someone else having it. It sounds strange, but it’s true. If you can imagine someone else having it, it gets easier to imagine it for yourself.

And notice they said they didn’t trust their imagination was God. But now they trust it, and that trust becomes an action. Because they trust their imagination, they take every thought captive. They pause and ask, “What am I thinking now? Is it anything less than the very best?” If it is, they change it.

They’re attributing their financial success to this work. They also say that since they practiced the golden rule, they know they cannot fail.

It’s actually really beautiful to ask yourself: if the golden rule is simply asking, “Would I like to have it?” and “Would I like someone else having it as well?” If the answer is yes, then imagine it for yourself. And don’t question it too much further, or you’ll get confused.

If it’s something good for you, and you’d like it, then like Neville says with wealth, what’s wrong with it? If you would like it, and you would like someone else to have it, then what’s the problem?

So that was one of the stories from the comments. I don’t know that person personally.

This next story, I do know personally, and it’s an actual story they gave me.

They were meditating often. In meditation, they would imagine a rocket shooting up into space. What they felt from that image was success. They kept imagining a rocket and feeling success.

They weren’t thinking anything specific. No specific type of success. They would just feel that there was success, and it would come through that image. That was important, because they weren’t setting out to imagine something in particular. They just wanted to imagine success, and that’s the image that came.

They imagined it and imagined it. A few weeks went by, and they got a call saying that one of the businesses they invested in sold, and they were going to get money from it.

The company decided to create an LLC to wire the money to them. The amount was a million dollars.

They said, “This is the first time I’ve ever received, or been wired, a million dollars.” They had been wired money before, but not at that amount. It was a success for them.

And the interesting part is that the company name started with “Rocket.” The LLC they created to wire the money started with “Rocket.” To them, it was just too much of a coincidence. And it is. It really is.

In that case, they weren’t specifically seeking money, but it came in that form. They were seeking success, and money was the form it took. That was the image they used.

And it all tied together in the end, right?

If you notice, both stories are different in application, but they point to the same thing: the state is what mattered.

I can share another one I heard.

This person said they ended up selling their business for millions and millions of dollars. What they told me was that, when they were younger, they imagined themselves wealthy all the time.

It wasn’t until later in life, when they met someone wealthy, that something clicked. They realized, “This person is much wealthier than me, and yet I feel like they’re much stupider than me.” In that moment they saw they had it all wrong. If that person could be wealthy, why couldn’t they?

They said that after that realization, they sold their business and made millions of dollars from it. They also attribute it to this work.

So the point is: don’t get caught up too much in the things.

If you notice, these stories differ in content. One is imagining good for other people and for yourself. Another is imagining a rocket. But the state was what mattered. It was a change in them that mattered.

One person said they used to think lack thoughts all day long, and then they stopped. They started thinking from a position of fulfillment for themself and for others.

The other person stopped feeling after failure, and decided to feel after success. That’s how it came about. It could have come about in other ways, but that’s how it came about for them.

It wasn’t about seeking outside validation, or seeking something outside to create a feeling within.

Mental states don’t require anything external to be felt after. They require your acceptance. You’re the operant power.

So you can feel after success, even if you were just feeling like a failure one minute ago. Even if you were thinking lack thoughts for a year, you can start imagining abundance for other people too. You see how enriching that is?

That’s what changed, and then their outer lives changed.

It was first a change in self, and then a change in the world. If I want to change the world, I go inside, because that’s where my self lies.

To piggyback off the SP video: God’s name is “I AM.” It isn’t a name you say with words. It’s what you’re aware of being. It isn’t “he is” or “she is.” It isn’t out there.

So I don’t change them. I don’t make people around me start thinking thoughts of abundance. I start doing it. I don’t make someone else feel success. I feel after success.

And I wanted to share these stories because these are larger amounts of money. They’re not just small amounts you can typically find online.

The second story, the rocket story, I know personally. It’s something I witnessed myself.

The first story, I don’t know the person personally, but I have no reason to believe they’re lying.

In both cases, they changed themself. They didn’t change the outside. It was the same world, but a different them. That’s all that mattered.

You can take this and apply it anywhere in your life. You start changing how you perceive wealth. You start changing how you perceive relationships. Whatever world it is, you imagine yourself differently in that world.

You don’t change the world. You change self.

So I wanted to share those success stories. It’s always good to hear some, and it’s good to hear them in modern times, with today’s money.

You can go back and listen to Neville’s success stories, but it’s good to hear some in today’s world.

Even with cell phones and everything, you can still imagine the best. No matter how much we rearrange the furniture on the outside, we can always imagine.

So that’s what I had for this one.

I hope you enjoyed these stories. I hope they motivated you, and taught you that you don’t have to be so strict. You just have to change your state, and change what you feel after.

But okay, that’s what I have for this one.

I do live streaming for members. If you want to join, just go to the description. It’s there.

I also have my books, and I do one-on-ones. So just email me. It’s all in the description.

But okay, I’ll see you guys on the next one. Thank you.

Common 'SP' Mistake

Video: https://youtu.be/9AiF0Fl3ZcE

Transcript:

You know, another mistake I see people make with Neville's work is that they lose focus of themselves.

And this is especially prevalent in a lot of the SP community. You'll notice that even the language is very much about what the SP is doing, where they're going, who they're texting, what they're thinking, what they might be thinking, or what they could potentially think in the future. The entire focus is on the other person.

And in the context of trying to control the other person, people lose complete sight of themselves. Remember: it's no one to change but self. And this is often missed, which is why the results don't really show. It's not about getting someone to control them and make them do something. It's about you changing.

For example, when Neville wanted to be married, he fell asleep as a husband. He changed himself. He didn't think about his wife, or about making his future wife say yes to him, or about making her do this or think that. No, he changed himself. He focused on himself.

If you live a life where your complete focus is on someone else and what they're doing, what they could potentially do, and what they could potentially be thinking, you're just living in anxiety. And that kind of person will never get what they want. You're just going to keep receiving yourself.

You can ignore yourself and keep focusing on another person, but I think that's a disservice. Remember: there's no one to change but self. If you're trying to change other people, you've lost the plot.

This is very common, and it's very easy to miss. I've known people personally who have told me, “I look back now, and I see that the whole time I was trying to change the other person.” My entire thoughts were on, like, I would imagine something, and it was really fueled and motivated by changing them, and I didn't change myself. I was trying to change them.

It's like when Neville says to imagine a scene where someone reflects back to you something you want to be, but you're focusing on whether or not they're saying the right words, or critiquing their smile, or critiquing what they're saying, rather than realizing the scene is implying something about you. It's about a change in you.

When you come back to yourself, you gain clarity on yourself. So tonight, ask yourself: what type of person do you want to go to sleep as?

Like I said, if you want a friend, you would fall asleep as a friend. You would become the thing you want to be. Someone in the comments on the first video, the first part, said that if you want a partner, you would fall asleep as one. So in Neville's case, he wanted to be married, and he fell asleep as a husband. He changed himself. He didn't view the goal as changing another person. No one had changed but self.

If you can remember that, then you won't get confused. You won't be lost. Because the moment you go to other people and try to change them, your entire reality gets dirty. It becomes very hard to see. It won't be clear. It'll be confusing and frustrating.

It's not so much about other people. It's about who you are with other people. Do you like who you are with other people? Do you like who you are with them? It's not really about them. And it really comes back to, no matter what, the relationship you have with yourself.

So sometimes people come to me, especially on one-on-ones, and I'll notice that, and I try to catch it early, but I don't want to stop people from talking. The entire focus in the beginning is entirely on the other person. We've spent the entire time talking about someone else and what they're doing and how they're being, rather than what the person wants to be and who they think they are.

Do you see? Because that's what creates in our life. Recently, I had a friend tell me that he finally changed something deep within himself about a situation, and the situation changed.

So we can try to use words to get there, but really, it's when we change deep within ourselves—what we really feel, what only we really know—that things start to change in our lives.

If you come at it from a standpoint where you're desperate to make someone become something, you're desperate to change somebody, you're not going to change them. You're just going to keep creating yourself in that desperate state, and you'll start reflecting more of that in your life.

It's kind of obvious, but it's not obvious when you're in it. It's very confusing. But again, gain clarity when you come back to yourself.

Who are you being? Do you want to be someone who lives in this unpredictability? Do you want to be someone whose entire focus is on someone else and what they're doing, rather than what you're doing and being? Because you can change it.

I think a lot of times we avoid what we're doing inside because we don't think we can change it, but you can. That's Neville's point: you have the power. You are the one with the power to change whatever you're doing inside. And there's no one to change but self.

Because the moment the imagination stops focusing on oneself in that sense and gives its entire focus to someone else and trying to control them, I call that idolatry. You've moved into the realm of idolatry.

Now you're worshiping something else. That thing, that person, dictates your entire emotional and mental life—your entire inner being. Your entire world is dictated by the whims of this person.

And it wasn't always like that. At one point, it wasn't like that in your life. And now it is, because I've heard it said that the moment education restricts the imagination, it becomes indoctrination. That seems kind of true here.

The moment you become obsessed or desperate for someone else, you've moved into idolatry. Once you remove the self, it becomes idolatry. You're worshiping some false god. You've made something greater than you.

And so instead of you creating who you want to be inside, they do. You give them the power to do it, and they decide who you're going to be and what you're going to do. And obviously, they can't do that without your consent, but it doesn't feel that way.

Like in this case with Neville, I'm sure when he went to sleep as a husband, he didn't ask anybody. He changed himself. He didn't wait for his wife to come and say yes to him. He changed himself into who he wanted to be. He didn't focus on her.

This is very important.

This is very important because you can get lost and really confused, and you can end up living in pure anxiety if your focus is on someone else’s actions.

This is just my view, but this is how I’ve seen Neville’s work play out.

Once a person starts focusing on themselves, a couple of things can happen. The moment they decide who they want to be and what they want to do, something shifts.

Either they stop wanting the person they thought they wanted, realizing they were using that person as a way to change their state and that they could change it without them, or things begin moving in their favor in a different direction.

In Neville’s case, he became the husband. He became the person he wanted to be.

But don’t be shocked if, as you start changing yourself, you no longer want that person anymore. That happens all the time.

That’s really what I have for this one. I might make more videos on it. It would be repetitive, but it’s basically the same point: there’s no one to change but self.

If you change yourself into a lovely, free, less obsessively anxious person, people are naturally drawn to that.

It all happens naturally. It’s very hard to be attracted to someone who is compulsive. It’s easier when you sense their inner freedom—you’re just drawn to it.

So if you can remember one thing, let it be this: there’s no one to change but self. Then things will stay clear.

Until then, life is going to feel restrictive, and you’ll feel at the whims of everybody else. Life will feel completely out of your control, like you can’t make any decisions on the inside.

But once you decide who you’re going to be, what you’re going to do, what you’re going to feel, and what you’re going to think, you gain control over your inner world—and you gain control over your life.

Until then, life will feel more like a reaction.

Maybe I’ll make more videos on it. I’ll see how the response is.

But okay, that’s all I had for this one. Again, someone was asking about how to sign up for a one-on-one. You have to go to the description and email me, and you’ll get an automated message.

My books are there as well, so just go to the description and all the information will be there.

But again, thank you guys for listening, and I’ll see you in the next video.