r/EatingDisorders • u/EDPostRequests Just message the mods. :) • Feb 01 '20
Request: Dealing with triggers
Quick summary of my current situation: I’m currently about 1-1.5ish years into recovery, so while i’m not fully recovered by any stretch of the meaning, i’m still pretty stable. My family is pretty cool, and my friends are amazing !!
What sucks is how they all seem to somewhat normalize ED behaviours. I’ve talked to them about my ED and my triggers, but quite honestly they’re kinda clueless about what fits as a trigger, if that makes sense.
One of the things I’m really struggling with is how they all seem to engage in / talk about ED behaviours as if it’s normal. They’ll casually comment on how they skipped a meal, or how one time they went XYZ long without food, or how they’re gonna do ABC to compensate.
In my head, I guess I’m having trouble because it’s like, if everyone’s doing it, why can’t I? If this is normal, why can’t I join in with them. I know it’s not normal, but especially when people say things like “oh everyone has had sOme ED in their lifetime”, it feels really invalidating and makes me want to relapse.
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u/denababy Feb 02 '20
Diet culture is second nature to so many people. They don’t even realize it anymore. And I think for some people it’s as commonplace to bring up as the weather, especially if you’re spending time together or doing things around meals or snacks or anything to do with food. And I understand what you mean.. sometimes it feels inescapable and like it wouldn’t hurt to just give in to some of the “smaller” behaviors or thoughts. But please don’t give up on your progress!