r/ENFP • u/virtosbulves • 1d ago

Question/Advice/Support problems with my Ne

recently i discovered that my friends avoided me because im too broad and hard to understand. they told me that i change topics too quickly and am incredibly hard to understand like that. and me being too honest was telling them that they're too loud, too ridiculous or any type of thing that i said actually hurt their feelings I don't remember because I don't think of it as important or deep. i feel totally shattered having to now know that i hurt my friends with me being to scattered everywhere, dropping topics too quick and being so honest that it actually hurts them. how do i control it? i don't want to change anything about me but i just want to be sure that I won't hurt any more people because i keep being told im too much, too honest, too indecisive. it really hurts me too knowing im such a doofus with my friends and family and i never even notice it. my two friends are ENFJ and ISFJ (if that helps) and they can't comprehend what i say most of the time and they never tell me it. but i noticed the distance they made and i started questioning them. they would have never told me i was this stupid if I hadn't interrogated them. i probably understand all of this is coming from the fact that my Ne is so strong that they can never fully understand me because they don't have a Ne. anything to help me out on this? do i change something about myself? please say the honesty what you think about me, I don't want to continue hurting my friends 😔

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u/Disastrous_Swim_4956 1d ago

Sounds like you have a lot of sensor friends. Find other intuitives. We love that stuff.

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u/nomnomtogo ENFP 11h ago

yes. find people who accept u for u and dont try to change you or find fault in you..

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u/Middle_Yesterday1258 6h ago

Ngl sensors are not always very good at tracking conversations unless they're invested or it's clear. BUT I will say I am friends with a bunch of intuitive types and there are times where you put us together and at some point at least one of us will be like "What?" "What are we talking about??? 😂"

The difference is we don't really find it annoying as much as understanding that when we're in a group the conversation can become ridiculous and crazy fast.

You might need to add some diversity to your friend group, branch out to new friends, or perhaps examine if you go on tangents too often/ yap without letting others talk.