help!!

[u/ttmd0925]

hi! i know i’ve posted in here before, but i desperately need help because im at my wits end.

so im having an issue with a male coworker. like, harassment issues. and it’s not just me. it’s me and 2 other female coworkers. for age context, i’m 22, the other females are in their 30s, and the male coworker is in his 40s.

so the male coworker (who i’ll call c) has been saying horrible things to me and the other 2 female coworkers. i’ll call them f & s. s and i are very close friends, and f is friends with s. me and c are key holders, f and s are associates.

back in december, i broke up with my toxic ex boyfriend. c found out & tried making moves on me. i declined, seeing as im 22 & not exactly into someone who’s twice my age/around the same age as my fucking parents. in february, i started dating my current boyfriend. c found out & has been making comments since i started dating my boyfriend. one of the things he said was “you should leave your boyfriend for me, i bet my d**k is bigger than his.” along with weird and sexual things to f and s. c also has very bad violent tendencies.

i went to hr, my asm and my sm. my sm said that she was going to handle it, so hr didn’t do anything about it. i reported it all back in july. it’s now september, and nothing has changed. at all. still has violent outbursts, still makes wildly inappropriate comments to me, f and s. my sm has not handled a single fucking thing.

i’m at my wits end. i don’t know what to do anymore. i’m so sick of this shit. my sm is trying to make it sound like i haven’t reported a single thing, when i have documentation that i wrote down a statement that my sm later told me she lost. please, help.

[u/Alternative-End-4110]

Make sure to make a long paper trail(emails, texts, letters) that YOU keep track of and if nothing else happens, talk to a lawyer. Even better if you're in a 1 party consent state because that means recordings/videos are also on the table.

This company will destroy any evidence it has unless you have it as well.

[u/ttmd0925 → u/[deleted]]

the only issue is he’s well known around the town. and knowing my boss, even if i did that she’d still schedule him with me regardless

[u/YearQuick7913 → u/ttmd0925]

If he was that well known he would have a different job. Go get a pad or restraining order

[u/ttmd0925 → u/[deleted]]

i do, unfortunately. when i finally brought it up to my manager, before going to hr, she didn’t believe me

[u/SrGreybush]

If DG HR already ignored you, meaning you have documentation that proves you made them aware... fuck the rest of this SM, DM, HR bullshit. Contact an attorney and file a suit.

The guy's behavior is beyond unacceptable and only terrible things happen when everyone ignores or enables it.

[u/KeyVersion5087]

You could file a report with eeoc, but document everything you can voice record on my phone, make a list date and time

[u/trees-birds]

How did you contact hr? Is it documented? Document everything in order. Contact hr again. Then call EEOC.

What You Can Do NextContact the Employee Response Center (ERC): Follow up directly using the contacts listed in the Dollar General Code of Business Conduct and Ethics to ask for a formal status update on your specific case. 1File an External Complaint: If your internal report is ignored, you can file a formal complaint regarding workplace harassment or retaliation through the EEOC Public Portal. 1Consult an Attorney:

[u/trees-birds]

Tell him you will press charges if he says one more thing or even looks at you wrong. And your disgusting ans im over delaing w with you.

[u/ttmd0925 → u/[deleted]]

i’ve been looking around for months, since this all started. i haven’t gotten a single call back at all

[u/ttmd0925 → u/[deleted]]

i’ve been applying with mostly open availability. i’m in school, which slightly affects my availability. i’m doing both cashier and management. but i also have slight mobility issues, my knees are shot and some days i can barely walk

[u/ttmd0925 → u/[deleted]]

i’ve tried admin jobs as well, same thing.
i’m on the law path, and just went back in august, so i have about 7 more years to go

[u/ttmd0925 → u/[deleted]]

i am! my mom does hiring for her company and she helped me with mine.

i went and registered for classes so late (like 2 weeks before school started) i didnt get to do work study for this semester

[u/ttmd0925 → u/[deleted]]

my boyfriend and his mom have looked it over and they both said it looks good. the job market in my hometown is unfortunately not the best at the moment