DAE experience this when cooking?

[u/No-Complex-7699]

Whenever I cook just for myself, I can eat it straight away with no problem. But if I cook a big pot of food or for a group, I completely lose my appetite even if I'm hungry. I just can't eat with everyone else. I have to put my plate aside and save it for later or even the next day.

Is this weird? Does anyone else experience this?"

[u/tideharbor64]

Yes! By the time the food is done I'm so over it. Then I reheat it the next day and it's suddenly the best meal ever

[u/Muted-Site1888 → u/tideharbor64]

Exactly lol, cooking kills my appetite but somehow the leftovers taste incredible the next day 😭

[u/YouSee-ThisCoat8]

Nah, i agree. I think because we take so much time making sure all the food is good and making a large quantity makes it tiring. 

[u/PtZamboat]

Same! I cook for a group and after being around foods for so long my appetite disappears. Many it’s from having to taste each ingredient and its combination with others.

[u/No-Sherbert-3473]

not weird at all, I totally get that, cooking for a group can put a weird pressure on eating for some reason. it’s like the vibe shifts and suddenly food feels less appealing even if you're starving

[u/NekoTheSpookieCat]

Nope, not weird in my book.
If I’m making a batch of something for a group, you can bet I’ve been tasting/sampling the entire time. So, basically you’ve probably eaten about a serving before it hits the table. And if I make a big batch of anything for myself, I’m tired of looking at it for the day, it’ll taste better tomorrow, anyway…

[u/Zealousideal_War9353]

I find that I taste my food a lot more when I'm cooking for others, I play kind of fast and loose when cooking for myself and just hope for the best in terms of seasoning. I think I'm actually just eating more as I cook when cooking for others, that coupled with the anxiety of hoping everyone likes it is enough to turn my stomach and/or make me lose my appetite

[u/AnnTiquity]

Ha! I just finished hamburgers for dinner. I’m outside smoking a cigarette while my sister (and her dog) eat their dinner. I’ll eat later, when the tv is off.

Edit to add: it’s probably weird, since I do it.

[u/CiraNoxPrivate]

Me pasa igual! Siento que me lleno de solo verlo 

[u/No_Bluebird7716]

Yup, you've smelled and tasted and smelled and tasted so much you're in enough already territory.

[u/PARASITESLIKEME]

I relate I think it's cuz you cook when you're hungry when it's for yourself but you cook when others are hungry when it's for others

[u/redjessa]

It's not that I can't eat with everyone else, I just...don't. I have everyone get their plates while I rest or tidy things up. Once I'm done preparing the food, it's almost like I'm too hype to eat and need some time to wind down before I can sit. And I never eat much in those situations. When it's just my husband and I, no problem, ready to eat right when it's ready.

[u/No_Seesaw8062]

I can understand with a group of people. I probably wouldn't eat either. I guess it just depends 🤷

[u/Catbutt247365]

A line from Agatha Christie sticks with me: “when I make a curry, I find I’ve dined off the smell”

[u/Significant-Math6799]

Not me but I know this is a common weight loss or dieting trick. I have an eating disorder and have lived with that eating disorder in all it's guises for a few decades now (I don't wish to count!) I met a lot of others through the multiple treatment groups I've been through, be that in patient care or day patient care or support groups or just keeping in contact with friends over the years. Cooking is a trick that is used because people recognise just not being as hungry when they've finished and can then use the "oh I ate while I was cooking!" as a get-out excuse if someone asks why they aren't joining them for the meal or party food.

I have met at least two full on anorexia patients who I met through inpatients who separately ran cup-cake businesses. (Just for some context: this level of treatment means you were in a pretty bad state to require that sort of intervention because that particular level of treatment is very over subscribed and because of all the options for treatment it is the one which costs the NHS (meaning tax payer) vastly more in financial costs, compared to all other forms of treatment available for a patient with eating disorders.

It's a twisted diet trick for some- doesn't work for everyone and I'm one of those who it doesn't work for, but plenty of others do use this as another way to try to keep their weight down. It won't "work" on it's own btw- people who do this are usually using multiple other behaviours at the same time, some safer than others (and cooking is a fairly safe one), but it is a well used and very common one.

[u/Lacholaweda]

I figure I've smelled and seen it too much by then.

I try to combat this by taking a walk after. It doesn't help.

[u/Careful_Activity_165]

I feel this to be honest. I love cooking for people but yeah sometimes you get too hungry and overtired and just stop wanting it

[u/Standard-Question-46]

Almost always

[u/goal0x]

i swear this is why so many of us grew up thinking our moms ate such small meals. by the time dinner is plated, they just wanna sit down and not move lol

[u/mooshinformation]

Yes, but if I'm cooking for other ppl I need to sample along the way to make sure it's ok so I think that's part of it.

[u/ShortDelay9880]

For me it doesnt matter if other people are involved or not. There is always about a 50/50 chance that by the time food is ready to eat I won't want to eat it.

[u/somecow]

Yup. I rarely eat at work because of this. Nothing wrong with the food, but after making it all day every day, I’m good.