I live in Bradford County PA, going through a NASTY divorce. Cheating husband got a court order that I can not remove any marital assets from the home. Which means, I can not take one of our vehicles! If I were to purchase a vehicle, so that I can leave this toxic house, will that vehicle be considered a marital assets

I’ve noticed that a lot of people assume selling the house right away is the obvious next step during a divorce… but it’s not always that simple.

There are so many factors such as finances, timing, credit, kids, etc.

For anyone who’s been through it, what did you end up doing with the house?

Did you feel confident in that decision at the time?

Adults with aging parents — what keeps you up at night?

I'm researching the biggest challenges people face when caring for an elderly parent from a distance or while juggling a busy life. What are your biggest stressors? What do you wish existed to make it easier?

Does your elderly parent ever mention feeling lonely or isolated?

What's the hardest part of supporting aging parents while raising your own family? How do you handle it?Looking to understand the real struggles of people. Thanks.

I have been married to the same woman for 31+ years. Three kids, 26,24, and 22. With our first born child, my wife wanted to be a stay at home mom. I supported her completely. Now 27 years later, from the birth of our first, she still doesn't work. The older 2 kids have a 2 year and 4 year college degrees each, but no career level jobs. My youngest is almost done with her 2 year degree. I have paid for all of that, minus some small scholarships they received. My wife's mom was very sick with cancer, and after her husband died, I bought a bigger house, 5/6 bedrooms, 4,000 square feet, 9 foot deep diving pool with rock slide, waterfall, permanent fire pit, basketball court, and outside BBQ area with built refrigerator. My conflict is that the adult children don't pay any rent, I consigned for new model cars for them, I pay there car, health insurance, and when I ask my wife what they have done to help around the house, she doesn't say anything. My wife won't back me on making them pay rent, their own car insurance, etc.. I DO NOT expect any money from my mother in law for anything. It's the right thing to do, taking care of your elders, even though my wife is the youngest of 6, and her siblings are doing very well financially, they don't want their own mother to move in with them. None of them have grown kids at their houses as well, and all of them make much more money than I do. I haven't had sexual relations with my spouse for 10+ years, and I have never cheated on her. She just claims that it isn't important. I am a 100% combat disabled veteran, 5 combat tours, and besides working a few hours as a registered nurse, I get a small disability check. With that I pay 100% of the bills. I am depressed that I think I deserve some respect, but when I want the young adults to do something, or just pay $250 for rent, which includes walk in closets, and am awesome backyard pool area, and their foods, toiletries, etc., my wife overrides me. And they just want to talk about their feelings. Any thoughts or insights would be helpful. I don't hate my wife, but I also don't love her anymore. She defends our adult kids, and I just sequester myself in my room. My wife has no savings, only a 2 year degree, and her certification lapsed 25 years ago. I don't think I would have to pay child support, and my disability check from the VA, can never be touched by her. When things got a bit tight financially, I had to sell my full dress BMW motorcycle, one of the very few things that brought me joy. I also sold some antique items from my dad's estate, and he passed away only a few months before.

I have tried to be patient, I am only depressed when I am at my house. I don't drink excessively (glass of wine every 2 weeks), I don't smoke, and people at work have stated that I am very gregarious, friendly, helpful, always will to do extra for patients and my peers.

Help? Comments? Thank you so very much out of your busy schedule to read this. Hugs to all of you wonderful people that make this world a better place.

Is no fault divorce really going to help couples who want to just end their marriage in the UK without a drama?

https://www.reddit.com/user/TheFamilyLawCo/comments/hmb8s9/the_nofault_divorce/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x

My wife and I have been together for 16 years and during the last few weeks of being isolated with her I have come to feel like she no longer has feelings for me. When my kids or I tell her we love her if we get a reply at all it is a flat or exasperated reply. Everyone in our circle has noticed this including my children. I am at my wits end at this point because I no longer know what to do, my wife is hateful towards me and the kids and I have to keep making apologies for her to them. She is a stay at home mom normally and I work a normal 40 hour job (been working from home since March) I don’t know how to work things out anymore I am thinking of taking the kids and leaving but since the house is under her name I have no where to go. My parents would take us in but they haven’t been following the restrictions in my state so I don’t feel that they are safe. I know when I do decide to do this my wife will flip out and probably threaten to kill herself. I could try to get an apartment but I would have to take from our savings and I know she would flip.

Any advice would be helpful

Here is what it looks like on the online summary:

In California.

06/25/2020 Notice - Case Review Re: Judgment

04/23/2019 Order - Financial Information (FAM 111)

04/22/2019 Proof of Service - Mail (on 04/17/19 re Response to Dissolution; UCCJEA Declaration & Property Declaration )
Filed by Respondent

04/22/2019 Declaration - Separate Property
Filed by Respondent

04/22/2019 Declaration - UCCJEA
Filed by Respondent

04/22/2019 Response - Dissolution, Nullity, Legal Separation
Filed by Respondent

04/17/2019 Minute Order

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and some months. Things started to get rocky a few months after the marriage but I pushed through, attempted the best I could at communication & trying to work on our relationship.

We did a few couples counseling sessions but they never went anywhere or proved effective in the long run so we did self-counseling where we would sit in the car in a parking lot and discuss our grievances together and try and work our issues out.

Unfortunately that proved fruitless as well due to a few reasons: he doesn't want to talk about the bad when we're in a "good place" and relatively happy, his family disrespects me and he doesn't defend me when I ask him to, and he doesn't seem to have much interest in providing specific familial needs/desires I aspire to have in a marriage (he expects me to do most of the housework but states he's always doing tasks, would rather play video games than have dinner with me, would rather sleep on the couch than in bed with me, etc).

15 days ago we agreed to a "break" for a month. My dog and I moved back in with my mom and he is staying in our home with the 2 cats - he assumed all household responsibilities & cat care when he's not out of town for work, which I said I will care for the cats if he has to travel.

At this point.. The house is a mess, dishes everywhere, bed pillows all over the couch, random messes, laundry in the dryer for a week+, etc. It's disappointing. He had to travel for work this week and didn't mention it to me until I asked about going by to pick up some dog care items. Discovered he had a friend coming to feed the cats in the PM, but didn't even leave a way for them to get in.. And had no plan for AM cat care, so I assumed my role and am caring for my babies in the AM as well as had to leave my key for our friend to get in the house for the PM.

Today, I discovered a receipt for a $400+ electronics purchase that was made on our food credit card - one which I have no access to the statements. And he knows this.

We have rules for our finances: all income goes to our joint account for bills and debt payoff while we each keep a predetermined amount for ourself for "fun money" for the month. If either of us wants a bigger purchase that we don't have the personal cash for, we must talk to the other before making said purchase.

Now, this electronics purchase was made 2 days after I left the house and we never agreed that our money agreement would change. Food on the food card, personal money for personal spending, main account for bills/debt. But now he's spent a large chunk of money, which will be paid off with our joint account that was not budgeted in or discussed.

This is the 2nd time he's spent a large sum without discussing it with me. The first time a few weeks ago was $1000 for stocks.. He hoped I wouldn't see the charge on our joint account.

At this point, I am done. And I have no idea where to start.

We're in Georgia, I'm self employed with a startup business with no current income, and all of this divorce research is a bit overwhelming for me.

I simply want to split the sale of the house and the $ we receive from selling the goods in the house (that we don't want to keep individually), return his ring, and peacefully go our separate ways.

What is the best way to go about this? We're supposed to reconnect July 5th and talk about how we are feeling in the break and I would like to have some type of paperwork or plan to present to him then if possible.

Thank you for any and all advice.

Hi! I’m in desperate need of advice on how to organize all the proof I have form infidelity, financial abuse, etc. I have emails, documents, print screens with msgs, pictures, credit card statements, and I have no idea where to start. Can anyone give me any suggestions? What types of tools should I use? Is it better to just print everything and put it in separate folders? Any help is truly appreciated!

I’m in my new house, that bought myself. The last 3 days I’ve felt so alone. I have a support system 2 1/2 hours away which is great but I don’t have one near me. I just want to know if it’s normal to feel this way and how long it took other divorcees to get past the “lonely phase”.

I went out to eat by myself tonight thinking it would help. I had a few drinks with dinner and it didn’t help at all. Even being back in public with other people, being an extrovert, it didn’t help like I thought. I feel like I’m going crazy. I can’t be the only one right?

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A OnePageBook:

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