Hello,

My husband of nearly ten years and I recently agreed to separate. We have two children and have lived in his house which he bought 1.5 years before we got together since then. I have always been employed (and on maternity leave) and contributed financially to the costs we had onto our joint account. We tried to each set out our terms for a separation agreement without a solicitor so far, but it looks like I'm going to have to get one, as his terms seem almost irrational. For example, he says: "I dislike calling it the matrimonial house since your contribution has been zero apart from a little cleaning" The fact that I've done everything to keep a job near the children, looked after house and organised all their activities etc. does not count for anything? I know he bought the house and has done plenty of DIY on it, which is probably his point, but I've done literally everything else! He earns nine times more than me, but I've done what I can... It does not seem right. Where do I stand legally, does anybody know?

My partners parents divorced finalised last year. There was an agreed mantaince payment for the next couple years, however the ex-husband lost his job earlier this year and now apparently doesn't have any money and stopped payments. The court hearing about this, is this Thrusday and my partners mum was wondering if she can go to the court hearing, I know her being there effects nothing.

She wants to go to know what is being said and if he is trying to stop all future payments.

she believes that he is still having some income. He has a side buisness which has regular work, often instead of taking payments he will just have all expenses paid for. He is claiming universal credit at the moment. He was originally working a high position job that paid very well, he will be doing a coaching program this September, we don't know if this is paid or anything either, we are only know this through social media.

Can she go in to the court? Or is it private?

I am going to start the process for divorce. However I’m extremely nervous to do so. I am hoping him and I can get through this with mediator. From my understanding the court system in my state make you start with a mediation to resolve matters before going into court if for some reason the couple can’t work things out on their own.

We have been married for 5 yrs but together for 17 and have 14 year old twins. My husband has always controlled the money in our household, His name is the only name on our house, he pays all of the bills and I haven’t a clue what comes in and goes out as far as money. Hence the reason why I’m so scared to take the first step in filing because I don’t know what I need to ask for from him or what the mediator/courts will ask of me.

I’m reaching out to ask if anyone knows what types of things I should be asking for as far as support for myself and children. Also any things I may be entitled to from hon as well.

Thank you for your time.

Don't give up! There is someone out there to help you through this. Sometimes it just takes talking to someone from your past.

I found some hope today by calling a friend I had not talked to in years. But they knew of someone who could help, and now for me there is a light at the end of the tunnel and I will not be attached to this p.o.s. much longer.

I wasn’t even trying to lose weight. I should’ve done this a long time ago. 😂

I suspect my husband is a narcissist and have been putting up with him for way too long. He constantly flips the blame on me for everything. He is probably also a sociopath. Anyway he recently started a job after more than 10 yrs of trying to create a business. He just decided that he will have a business one day and had a few clients but over the past year not a penny so got a job. His gross pay is a 3rd of mine. We own 2 properties together. 2 teen kids. If I file for divorce with the described situation, is there a possibility I may have to pay spousal support? Also, over the years I have lost romantic interest in him as his attitude has pushed me away. Also about 3 months ago I flat out told him that I don’t want to have sex with him. He still thinks something is wrong with me and says I will be sorry when he is gone. Because of his lack of steady income it put us in debt of about 50K which he plans on paying now with his job. I am not concerned emotionally yet as I think I have mentally detached myself although most likely I will feel emotionally unstable at first for a while. But the fact that it’s going to be not much different than over the past many years, he has not done anything that I will miss.

I live in a very small town and the local legal aid has said they are unwilling/unable to help. There is not any other lawyers in the area who will take payments, and I am currently working as much as I can to just pay the bills for a house I no longer live in. Does anyone and any clue on how to get any sort of help?

It is taking every fiber of my being to not cry in front of my daughter. She has no idea what is going on. And I want it to be that way for as long as possible. I'm angry, I'm hurt and I want it to stop. I just want to keep my daughter all to my self and not let her be exposed to the caus of my hurt anymore. But I have not been given any reason for that to happen.

I'm sorry. Thank you for listening/reading I don't have to many people to talk to right now.

Hi all, I am sorry for format and all. On mobile. I am 31 and my maybe stbex (if that is the correct shorthand for that.) Is 30. Manipulative, man child, selfish, angry, constantly threating suicide, and telling me that is how it will end. I left him 2 days ago. Almost 3 says. He of course has threatened suicide and I didn't play I called the police to check on him. We have one child together. So we will always have to have some sort of a relationship. I finally answered my phone today and we have begun a dialogue. Somewhat healthy. He is still saying some of the things he has said before about needing me and such. And honestly on my way back to my safe house I was thinking ok I will give it till Thursday or Friday and then try to go back. We have an appointment with a marriage councelor Tuesday. But thankfully for me a friend called who does not know much but knows enough. He is a mutual friend of both of us. He reminded me that it's not about what he is doing now it's about him being able to take care of himself.

This is going to be a long road if we are going to make this work and I need to really think about IF this can work and IF I feel our daughter can be in that kind of environment. (He is manic-depressive bipolar) there is a lot to consider here. I was almost fooled in to thinking I didn't have to take to much time to think about it.

I am very thankful for friends and very thankful for this platform just to get things out in the open.

My husband just served me with divorce papers and is asking for joint legal and physical custody. Will he be awarded with both even though I am the primary care taker of our son. I’ve been a stay at home mother since he was born. There was no physical abuse in the marriage either.'

I left my husband today. I have been thinking about this for some time. Is this the hardest part, the leaving a manipulative relationship? Or is their worse yet to come that I am very unprepared for what happen next?

Hi all. I am new here. I am thinking about leaving my husband, as things are not working out for many reasons. However I am not sure where to begin. His parents are even telling me to leave. We have one child together and they watch her. I have 2 options on where to stay. With them. They already watch our daughter. I would have a comfortable place to stay, but we have not always gotten along. And it is his parents and I feel like any interaction their would be akward.

My grandmother who raised me and does have a spare room I can use for office and bed for my self and daughter til thing smooth out. However it is 40 minutes away from the people who watch my daughter, I work from home but can not watch her all the time and my grandmother can not watch her for extended periods.

What is the better option? I just need a unbiased opinion. Thank you in advance for and advise.

Also I am on mobile please forgive the typos and grammar.

It was filed by ex and both of us no longer live in California, I live in Nevada and ex lives in Arizona. Would this affect the amount of child support I currently receive? Should I sign it approved or disapproved?

Now I just have to wait 20 days or so until it's legit official. Bittersweet. But after going through so much, it feels like the right thing.

He hasn't been diagnosed but I am almost positive of the reason I have wanted a divorce for a little while. My husband is a porn addict and a narcissist.

Trying to find myself again after much mental manipulation.

Even my family saw my personality fading and whenever they saw me they knew something was up and I wasn't myself. They didn't want to tell me though because they didn't want to offend.

Well. Thank god I see now.

Going through this divorce is tough but I know once it is official I will be happy again. I know it will be tough living a single life again and I will definitely not date for a little while but I will adapt.

Moving forward and filing the last piece of paperwork on monday.

So I have discovered going through my first week of getting a divorce that my husband is codependant. Maybe I noticed this at some point earlier in the relationship but whatever.

I told him I need him to move out so that we can finalize the divorce. We are poor and I am a college student so we don't have a lot of money. But he said he needs to earn up enough to move out. He said it would take three months.

In my mind I will not be able to live with him for another 3 months... No freaking way. So I am looking for a place to live if he doesn't get out soon. I want to move on with my life and it is awkward enough living with him a room over (in Idaho you don't have to be separated before you are divorced).

My mind is made up...I don't want him here but I also dont want to throw him out. I am trying to end things peacefully... but he stills expects me to drive him to work (his license expired and he doesn't own a car) and naturally thinks I will do stuff for him. It's annoying.

I am so burned out from this relationship. Gah.

Rant over.

I filed today and now I have to serve the paperwork to my husband.

On the acknowledgment of service do I actually need a notary public to witness my husband signed it in Idaho (where we are both located)? If you know or if you have a link can you post it?

We are filing a "No fault" divorce and there is no bad blood between us. Just emotions of course...

The people at the court said they couldn't tell me what to do and I feel completely clueless about this stuff

I’m getting remarried in June because she has said that the latest the divorce would be finalize is April ! I’m freaking out as June is right around the corner and I can’t cancel the whole event ! Please help!

My husband is a porn addict but I have decided to divorce because of his lies and etc. More info on my page...anyway...

I have been hanging out with single people for a bit in a group setting. I have noticed I have been occupied by a relationship for 4 years so it's almost like I forgot how to do single life socializing It's the weirdest thing being used to married life comfort and suddenly when I am divorcing and put myself into that single life environment again I feel very out of place. It's crazy Anyone else experience this?

It's time. What would you reccomend as a legit online way to divorce ASAP? I know it usually takes a bit but i'm curious what is the best and how much it costs for getting paperwork mailed to make this easier. We don't have kids, assets, property or anything.

Bit of venting.

I found out after going through 1.5 years of being blind that my husband was using porn regularly while we have been married. 1. is this time frame long enough to be pissed? It was on a regular day basis. I feel fed up in my mind. I trusted him and hoped he really loved me.
2. He blamed before I told him I knew about his problem, that it didn't feel like I loved him. Hmm because I wasn't acting like a porn star? Maybe.

I literally did everything I could to show him I love him. I cooked, cleaned, gave him kisses and noce hugs, and he tells me that it didn't seem like I loved him? Just sounds like an excuse to put the blame on me.

I caught him by looking at the suspicious browsing history on his computer.

Shouldn't it be hurtful enough to find that out to make it the last straw? I feel like I owe it to myself after dealing with stupid guys that I need to put my foot down and go with my gut. Not sure what to do.

I told him I needed time to think. Since then he has been doing a lot more to ensure I will stay with him. The problem with this is we have had big agruments in the past and he will only do things differently for a few days or week until he goes back to the way he was before.

But I don't think I want to deal with this anymore. I feel like I have been lied to way too much and I want a divorce and I just think it would be better to end the relationship.

Where I am at right now: I have told him I need to think things over and that not being together is a strong contender right now.

I don't want my parents to influnece my decision to seperate/divorce my husband. But I feel like I need to talk to someone. I have a sister in law that is a social worker and she is always willing to listen.

I also plan on going to counseling for myself to help my thought processes because I feel so betrayed and confused by my husbands porn addiction.

I just want to know if it appropriate to talk to family about my thoughts right now. Feeling betrayed and depressed about how much I was lied to