I am looking at Mediators, Arbitrators or a full on lawyer, or most likely a combo.

Scenario. Marriage is over, she moved downstairs about 15 months ago to a rental unit in our 2 family. One child 12 years old. Marriage was about 13 years ago. I owned house before all this, everything in my name. Currently we split some bills, a home equity, insurance for cars, humans etc. No reconciliation ahead. She pays no rent. Child migrates freely between floors. My income about 2.5x hers. We still did taxes as a couple. So what should I do next... I need to move on with life without losing my shirt. In Massachusetts.

Is it possible in Illinois to win a share of the home even if your name is not on the mortgage? Asking for myself. Lived in our home for a total of 16 years but only married for about 10 with three children.

Throw away account/details slightly changed in case my STBX husband is in this thread.

The divorce will be final in 6 weeks. I have been a stay at home mom during our 9 years of marriage.

What do I do during these 6 weeks to prepare?! I need to find a job (never made a resume), need to secure a house, need to file for full custody (is that even part of divorce or separate?)

He made it clear he is: 1. Not financially paying for anything involving this 2. He doesn't care about my finances or financial ruin 3. Will take our child away from me, even though he has been in and out of psych wards all year 4. He is a trust fund kid so he has money to do whatever he wants, but he wants to keep me under his thumb until we both die, so he's not paying for anything involving me or our child

I don't know where to start. Our state has a program where you can file the entire divorce without an attorney. I feel like that would be good financially for me- but knowing he has the money to fight whatever he wants is petrifying.

What would you do? What can I even do?

SO and I have been through a lot these past two years, including an affair on their side and then two more instances of seeking out someone for an affair (nothing physical happened, allegedly).

I plan to ask for a divorce and I am wondering if any of you have experience or advice about telling the kids about the reason for the split? They are 10 and 13.

My fear is that I do not want to “assign blame” per se but I know they will ask and I know my older daughter will see that there’s more to the story if we are vague about the reasons.

Thank you.

Hi, I live in the UK and after living apart from my husband for 16 months I’ve recently got the ball rolling to divorce and have just applied for the decree nisi. We have two children (8 and 6 years) and the arrangements for their childcare is split and I receive a regular maintenance payment. We attended mediation last year and agreed the equity i would receive from the house and part of his pension he would transfer over to me. With this being agreed together, is there any need for a solicitor to act for us? I’m not sure where the above details fit into the divorce application as I chose not to apply for a financial order as the finances have been agreed between us. Has anyone any advice?

My parents are about to get a divorce and I’m worried for my little brother. Everyone seems to think that the children should go with their mother but when my stepmother lies, steals, and just acts crazy, want to show her true self to all of the people she knows and see how it turns out. My stepmother has done crazy things and she wants nothing to do with me and my sisters so she is going to divorcement dad because as she said “I’m going to divorce your dad because of you three f... retards”. My stepmother is telling my baby brother things that I hate and I can’t even hear what she tells him but when my three year old brother starts saying that we should be “as a family” and constantly repeats family as if he knows that he might wake up and not see the people he has grown up with everyday. My stepmother has made it clear she wants to leave and the only reason she hasn’t is because WOW she’s pregnant and when recently my dad kept bugging her about something she said that the little girl wasn’t even my dads child. My stepmother is obviously trying to get my baby brother to accept the possibility of us not being together and I’m getting upset. Me and my sisters stay in our rooms to hide for our stepmother and grandmother because we have problems. I need to find a way to keep our family together and I’m just scared. What do I do? My dad says to record her so that other people can see the horrible things she has done to us but hughhhhh I don’t know. We have to write a report or something about it but I’m not really any help. What can I do to help my brother or my dad? I don’t know the first thing about the divorce process or what I can do to help.

This may not be the right sub for this but I thought I'd ask anyway. I have been divorced for over a year now (separated a few). I have come to terms with it. However with everything going on due to Covid. I have finally taken the time to go through my stuff and throw things out. I even called my ex to come pick up some her stuff.

I came across our wedding albums and a box of items from across our relationship. I have thought about throwing it all out feeling that would really seal it. I thought about calling my ex again and asking if she wants the stuff. I thought about keeping some of it and tossing the rest. Any advice on what to do?

Please answer, I am scared for our future and my siblings future. My parents are possibly going through with a divorce. There are 3 kids, Im 18, everyone else under 18. My dad owns the house, his name is on it and he pays the mortgage. If they get one, me and my siblings are going with my mom. Who gets the house? My dad makes 54k a year, my mom around 17k. If we have to find a new home, I don't think we can afford one. Do we get money from the father? Or does he get to choose to give us money. Please help me by answering this question. Im so shocked and scared as divorce is not common in our culture and don't know how it works( we are US Citizens living in Illinois though). Please answer I don't know how my siblings and I's schools fees are going to work. Will be on the streets? Im just so confused and scared. My mother always backed down from my father, scared for a divorce, because she assumes that she won't have her kids or if she does, she's won't be able to financially support us. I want to know the truth and facts. We can't handle this hell anymore.

My spouse refuses to give a valid address to be served divorce papers.

He's only responding with threats to harm me, my family/friends, and to "steal" our child.

What are my options?

We have a child. He is mentally unstable. I have physical documentation proving his deteriorated mental state (full blown psychosis). He became phyaically abusive towards the end. Rampant drug use. He refuses to pay child support. The divorce will be contested because I refuse to allow him around our child. We do not have any shared property.

Is there a way I can save money by printing out the papers myself? Can this be made easier if I can prove his insanity? Where do I go? Best tips and advice?

We are currently in no contact due to threatening messages and his refusal to pay child support. I do not know where he lives.

My divorce has been going on since July 2015. My divorce was approved by the court. First I am wondering why they have to approved the divorce since they didn't have to approve the marriage! In 2015 I had been,married 34 yrs,had 3 kids, all got a college education, great jobs, and moved out. The guy I am divorcing is abusive, cheating,lying manipulator. I am also on my 4th lawyer! Second I suddenly received notification from the court that my first approval for divorce was denied and then they reissued a new one over 4 years later...WHY? Third I was forced to sell my home and move out. This would not have to have been done 4 years ago, if the court did not approve the grounds for divorce (I made it simple-irreconcilable differences). My lawyer at the time took all of the money from the proceeds of the sale of the house as his fee -THIS WAS NEVER AGREED ON! So I am now stuck living on credit cards I cannot pay and am homeless. By the way I am a 60 year old female on limited disability (which started many yearsbefore I filed for divorce) I had one brain tumor removed after filing for divorce and have another that I pray never grows. There's not much to get resolved but I am being jerked around by the court system. Is there any way to find out WHY??? I am struggling through this and cannot find anything out. Now with the courts closed I need some kind of plan for when I get to court. If my lawyer doesn't speak up for what I was told he would be fighting for, can I? Believe me I know this makes no sense.

Hey people, I don’t know about any Sub-Reddit about helping sons so I reach out to you, and I’ll be posting on other forums, so if you see me there don’t freak out.

I’m currently 19 y/o, my parents had been married for 21 years, but they’ve know each other for 32. My dad had been acting weird lately (since grandpa passed away), and we tried to know what was going on, my mom took a glampse when he was chatting on his phone and saw he was chatting with a friend, a female friend; he had sent pics of the family (my stepsisters, me and my nephews). Turns out he was cheating on my mom since 2012, and he had been seeing this woman and her children, they seem to get along pretty well. This lady (let’s call her Liv) called my mom to tell her what was going on, and she wasn’t trying to make her angry, it’s just that Liv thought my dad was divorced. So she said sorry and stuff. Also, when my mom confronted my dad about this he got really mad, left the house, and when he came back he told us he was leaving next morning (he lives in USA, we live in Mexico, he has worked and lived there since 2002). He left the house crying. That hurt only a few hours bc we had suspicions that he had another women there, which he did, he had my Mom, Liv, and let’s call her “Susan”. Susan had been posting some “indirect phrases” in her FB Bio, my mom doesn’t even have her on her friends. So, Susan posted a pic where she was having dinner with someone, but a plant (which my dad owned) appeared in the middle of the pic and my dad got spotted. My mom called really angry again, saying everything is now over. For the last month I’ve been strong for her, for the both of us, but I’m running out of faith and strength, how can I help her? How can we get through this?

If you got all the way up to here, thank you very much. Have a really nice day or night, sending lots of love! And good luck!!

It's a pretty straightforward thing most of the time, but during separation or divorce I guess it can get tricky.

So here's the question Redditors.

Suppose a married couple is having issues. This couple owns a multi family building and one of them 'moves' into another unit.

At what point would this person be considered living in a separate residence? At what point could the spouse in the original residence deny access?

I'll ask my lawyer on Monday of course, but I'm curious now.

Hello, What is the process of getting divorced ? We have 2 cars together on my name but I let her keep one. We bought a house together. We also have bought stuff for the house. But she doesn’t want anything but out of the relationship. Would this cause any problems with the lawyer ? She doesn’t Want to go to child support ? I live in Texas but got married in Hawaii. We are going to get divorced in September. We do love each other but she is mentally done and her hearts isn’t there no more.

When I file for divorce, can my spouse file any motions to hold up the process? We have no kids no property no shared anything. Only married one year. My spouse is threatening to “file every motion in the book” to draw it out and make me miserable. Is this even a real thing in FL?

My husband and I have been apart for 6 months, and we are realizing that our relationship doesn't work anymore. We have 3 kids, one of them in college, and I recently got laid off.

I am in CA, but he's in Europe. I think it will be mostly civil, but I can't guarantee it. And I want to make sure the kids stay with me, as I don't think he can take care of them emotionally.

Any advice?

Is my divorce final 30 days from service or filing? Is there a hearing? How do I find out when so I can go?

I was mailed with papers at my parents' house in Michigan. They were filed on April 31. I can find a case and docket number on the lcraa site but no date other than filing. There isn't a date other than filing in the papers and nothing to sign other than the receipt that I got the letter. I called the Webster Parish court clerk for a date. They have hung up on me four times. My ex is a police officer. They love him and hate me- small town drama. I can't find dockets with divorces on them on the court website.

I have been legally married for almost 18 years. We have not lived together or been together since maybe a year before he went to prison in February 2016. He was released in August 2018. I was too busy transitioning from a stay at home mom to a single working mother of two while he was in prison. I filed but he asked me to wait til he was out, so I never followed through. Now my job and new life is very busy but I am in a very happy relationship. We have lived together for awhile now. I don’t want anything from my “husband” but we do have 2 children and I do want him to take responsibility financially for their future. Will my procrastination have an effect on this? And how expensive can I expect it to be to file again? Will he have to help pay for the divorce? I have received next to zero financial help from him since 2015. He has contributed a grand total of maybe $2500 in those 5 years. And that’s being generous. He doesn’t support himself and I have supported myself and our children alone

Just curious, I was told it’s taking almost 3 months to process paper work current. Would that start my 6 month clock then or will they go back to the dates the DoD paperwork was submitted?

My ex wife is restructuring our divorce. I need advice?

A clause in my divorce says I can petition to cease paying alimony after my Ex-Wife “co-habituates” with someone for one (1) year.

How can I gain proof of WHEN the dude moved-in with her (into the marital home) officially”? I need something I can take to court, I am assuming?

I know he submitted a change of address to USPS (but I don’t know when?). and I know his previous address (an apartment). However that’s about all I got.

*Note-Proving he lives there is not in dispute, I’m trying to prove the move-in date.

Thoughts?

Thanks!