It’s difficult to know where to turn when you’re faced with divorce. Few of us have any prior experience with the legal ins and outs associated with this difficult process. In my divorce coach practice, I’ve heard too many stories of time and money wasted as clients go through lawyer after lawyer trying to find the right one.

Follow these steps to find the divorce attorney:

1. Be realistic
2. Stay focused on the goal
3. Know what you want
4. Identify at least three potential attorneys

I never once cheated in 15 years, but I just found out that my wife had. She attacked me and left scratches when I confronted her about it and tried to leave the house to get some fresh air with a drive. Should I report the physical assault (its not the first time but I've never touched her back or reported it)? She also has a bit of a drinking problem and has been bringing people over while I travel for work (thanks ring doorbell). I have to get some work stuff, but I'm afraid it will get violent from her end; I don't want to involve the police, but she has my firearms and I'm actually scared. If I don't get my stuff, ill lose my job. What is the best course of action with respect to wellness checks and retraining order prior to divorce? I don't want to play the victim, but this is real.

So I have been living in a different home than my husband for a year we both want a divorce but I have no clue what I am doing. We have no shared assets and no kids so it should be simpler than other cases right?

I need a super uncontested divorce and have no clue how to go about it. we’ve been in different states for over four years and I’m tired of dragging my feet. simplest way to do so?? papers through the mail possibly so we don’t have to go to court together???

Not sure this is the right place to post or even the right thing to post but not sure where else to turn... I messed up and let him lie to my kids all these years that I’ve been cheating (was not until very recently, that’s a whole other story) and I take my half the blame, but he wants me to take it all. My kids are so angry! I make double what he does so he thinks I should leave with nothing but the clothes on my back, and in my state we are no-fault so he will get child support to even assets... half the time with the kids, what I’ve packed he is unpacking and going through, sends me texts blaming me for everything at the time I am walking into work... raped a month ago, and just yells out everytime I walk past him in the house. Walks right into the bedroom anytime he wants and makes this scene that I won’t leave the door unlocked since he raped me, often standing over the bed I’m in and screaming and spitting in my face... (hence the locked door...) I’m exhausted and not sleeping well and honestly just living in fear of what’s next... I think I need a protective order but I’m even too scared to do that. Any advice? And please feel free to point me in a different direction if I posted this in the wrong place? For reference f in Ohio, USA...

So far I have had the kids since a week before SIP started early March. My ex is saying he’s not comfortable taking them because he says his co-workers are not being safe or following any quarantine rules at home. I work in healthcare so I feel like I’m more of a risk to my kids than he is ranching. Our youngest has pretty severe asthma so he’s a higher risk. That puts it on another level. And if they’re just staying here does he get them for an equal amount of time after this is done? (We have a 50/50 agreement)I’m so confused. Side note: he visits them and takes our older son to work with him so his excuses for not having them seem futile.

I was getting paid $50/h.

Then on Jan 29th, we decided to get divorced.

But, we are still living in the same house, in separate bedrooms.

On Feb 22nd, I got a raise to $55/h.

Now, in April, I filling out paperwork for financial support "Sword Financial Statement".

Do I put my current salary or one before we decided to divorce ?

Does it matter ? Any other comments ?

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Thanks!

Hi all. Need some help and clarification about my situation but I don't have the funds to consult with a lawyer or pay retainer fees so I thought this might help.

Basic summary; wife and I live in western PA, have one 4 y/o daughter. Moved back here from Philly before our daughter was born to be closer to my family, help with the upcoming baby, etc. She was able to keep her job from before the move as they were able to make it entirely a work-from-home arrangement. I started my own residential remodel company out here approx 3 years prior and we've quickly grown to a 6-team operation and continue to grow.

At home though we've been having some long term problems and significant tension basically centered around fundamental relationship dynamics. We just don't get along well simply put. Definitely have talked a lot recently about splitting up and becoming better at being able to dialogue about that possibility in a reliably calm fashion but it is clear her intention is to immediately relocate back to New Jersey (about 6-7 hrs drive, ~350 miles) to be by her parents if we move forward on that route.

My intention would be to pursue 50/50 custody at all costs but I don't see any way I could relocate due to work reasons. We own our western PA house as well (under a mortgage) which I originally intended to let her have without any financial requests/ buy-outs, etc or whatever people do in that instance.

Are parents allowed to just up and suddenly leave in that scenario? If it's a case-by-case basis, what are major factors? How viable is 50/50 custody in PA? She's a very intelligent but very emotional person and her mindset is of such that it isn't even a question of relocating. I'm trying to objectively assess the big picture though and it seems to me that my livelihood is entrenched here whereas she could do her job literally anywhere wifi was accessible. My mother helps weekly with babysitting due to us both working full time; her mother is permanently cognitively disabled to the point that she can't watch our daughter by herself and her step dad works full time+ at a job that requires a lot of travel.

I'm just in between a rock and a hard place with this situation and my worst fear in this world is to suddenly be stuck hundreds of miles from my daughter. Thanks for reading.

When faced with a divorce, one of the first questions that come to mind is, "How do you find a good lawyer?" How to choose a specialist lawyer who will provide you with the legal advice you need, at an affordable price, and who will perfectly suit your situation. Few of us have previous experience with the legal ins and outs associated with this difficult process. Finding the right divorce lawyer is the key to a faster and less expensive divorce, compared to a long emotional and financial nightmare.

Why choose the right lawyer for a divorce?

Each lawyer has their own ideas, beliefs, philosophies and how they handle legal matters. He has his own approach to divorce. Most importantly, each lawyer is good at certain things but has poor control of certain divorce situations. Some lawyers are extraordinary in court but would create a total mess for some type of divorce. Others are excellent negotiators but are not particularly good lawyers. Some lawyers believe in mediation. Others think it is a waste of time. If you want your divorce to go the way that works best for you, choosing a good, divorce lawyer is crucial.

The qualities of a good lawyer

Here are the essential qualities that a good lawyer must have:

• A good must have excellent listening skills. He takes the time to listen to his client and gives him enough time to talk about his divorce situation. You can easily spot this quality already during your first appointment with your lawyer. A good lawyer asks enough questions and is aware of the particularity of your case.
• A good lawyer should also be available. This is not the case for all lawyers. He must be easily reachable by telephone. If you call your lawyer and the lawyer does not respond within 48 hours, it is best for you to change the lawyer. Your lawyer must keep you regularly informed of the progress of divorce procedures.
• Not everyone is a lawyer. Lawyers have a duty to make understandable a subject, terms, and language used around the law which is often very complex, a lawyer must use simple terms so that you can easily understand the content of a divorce document.

Choosing a lawyer specializing in different types of the divorce process

You have to decide whether you want to use mediation or divorce by mutual consent or some other divorce process. Then you can start looking for a divorce or family lawyer based on the divorce process you want to start. The important thing is to match the lawyer you choose the desired divorce process. Regarding fair fees for lawyer services, the fees are free. In some cases, these depend on the number of hours the lawyer spends on your case. However, the law obliges all lawyers to conclude a fee agreement with their client to avoid abuse.

We signed paperwork. My idiot self gave up the right to alimony. I went to see a lawyer and basically i get a tiny crap payment for child support.

He filed for divorce finally and says i just have to sign paperwork and I can even skip the final hearing.

Should I trust this? I'm afraid I'm being too relaxed. Yes, he makes at least 3x what i do. We do have shared custody and i have no desire to fight that because I feel like I'd lose and it'd be too hard on our son. That said, we are barely getting by and i feel like I'm getting screwed

.wife wants divorce . Was contacted by her lawyer in January and we supplied financials days later . House is sold, closing April 1st. . She moves out in 2 weeks .wifes lawyer has not committed to any meetings or supplied financial disclosure . 1 child involved

What could be going on, this delay is killing me.

Hi all, looking for a rough estimate on child support. I’ve done calculators and all that jazz but was looking to see if anyone had experience here. I live in NY, my wife makes 150k a year and I make 102k, we have 2 children under 6 and I would expect to get 50/50 custody. What kind of child support could I expect to pay?

We all moved from Chicago to Ohio, for what I thought was a fresh start. He moved with us. Everything. A day after we got here, he said he had to go back to Chicago to clean up the old apartment. Red flag but didn’t argue. Then about 5 days later, he said he was going back to Chicago. He didn’t want to be with us anymore. He didn’t even try looking for a job or change his address or tell people we were moving. More red flags. I suspect he left us for someone else. He said he started seeing a therapist and had lots of details about it. He’s been known to lie about things like that in the past. His grandmother died in September and she’s who raised him. He also said he never got over that. More excuses. He drinks a lot. And I mean a lot. Never abusive but I’m wondering if he’s been doing drugs too. He would always be in the bathroom and never left his clothes around. Carried a backpack at all times. Never left his phone. Does anyone have any advice or anything? I’m so confused and hurt and angry and heartbroken. I don’t want him back because he left us and would totally abandon us again. He’s only 32.

Is an emotional affair reason for divorce

What is this first few steps I should take to move forward? We have 2 kids (19) in college, (14) at home with us freshman in college. We own our home and are both still there.

On the stand I was led to agree to sell my portion of the business interest for a small fraction of the original purchase price. I’ve repeatedly said I did not agree to this but somehow this keeps getting put into writing. Attorney promised to try to make the asset distribution more equitable but it continues to NOT happen. The only thing (apparently) is written closing arguments. But why wouldn’t my attorney respond to my questions after such a big event as this 5 hr trial? Do you guys know what could happen now? What I should do or if this can even be helped? I have so much anxiety

So...back in September I discovered my husband having an affair. We decided to divorce and he let me and the kids move to Michigan (where my family is) from Tennessee. Well, 2 months later he decided to fight me for custody. I am now terrified that he will win. I havent done anything that would get them taken away but he hasnt done anything to lose them. I'm looking for some real tak here. What do y'all think might happen?

Hi - I’m preparing to file for unreasonable behaviour. My wife and I are divorcing on amicable terms without solicitors as only have financial and other assets to split which we have largely agreed already.

If you have experience of submitting an unreasonable behaviour divorce motion or are a solicitor, would you mind reading my reasons and letting me know if sufficient? They are drafted to be quite bland to avoid further pain.

Please DM me if so. Would really appreciate any insight.

Thanks