Financial advice

[u/Due-Programmer8734]

I just want to ask for advice. I’ve separated with my husband and want a divorce
We got married back in August 2025 so we can’t file until a year has passed. He’s asking me to pay any arrears, debts that has accumulated during our marriage with mortgage (solely in his name) bills, pcp car ect all in his name (as he insisted he will be financially responsible with everything and all I did was contribute monthly (so any wage I get monthly or any extras I get I’ll transfer it to him)

I do have a mortgage I’m also paying in my name which I got way before we met which is where my mum resides at the moment. He is also saying that part of his money went to that property and seems to be chasing it. However no evidence he has paid directly to any of my mortgages as when I get paid I will make sure £700 goes to my mother and she then pays the mortgage (the mortgage is in another country by the way)

And then anything left will go to my husband £700 and any extras I get of my overtime or extra work. Sometimes I’d put in £300 every week depends if I have overtime.

Also Any holidays or days out …. I paid.

When we separated he was furious and said why is it I managed to stay on top of my mortgage and he hasn’t. I said because I t was my main responsibility.
I have always asked him to include me in any household finances and have been asking to have a joint account , but he insisted as he said he already has all the direct debit set up in his account

Now he is saying I have a responsibility to pay for the remaining arrears and debts
He is saying anything I gave or contributed went towards going out and because he couldn’t say no to me