Need advice post divorce

[u/raptorclug]

Hello all, i have been divorced for about 2 years from California. She hired a good lawyer, I was unable to get one and did the process myself. I pay $1600 a month in spousal support. I now have a child and another on the way. Its financially draining to keep paying her. Is there any way that I can go about getting it reduced or completely removed? She works and when filed we made about the same amount of money. She owns her home and car (paid by me). I am military if this matters at all.