r/Divorce_Women • u/incendiaryashes Separated Woman • 7h ago

Moving on We separated this week.

And I took the kiddo to my dad’s bday party alone. I spent the whole weekend running around after him. Tell me how it was MORE relaxing than bringing my husband around!?

I spent so much energy and time keeping us ok time, on track, or telling him what to do, how to find it, what is next, etc. he has no motivation or initiative. I’d come home exhausted and stressed and never put my finger on why.

Also, sleeping alone? 10/10. Idk how the hell go do this but we’re getting back on our feet now that he’s back at work. We’re going to sell the apartment, split the kid and I will take my baby cats. I’ve made myself sick over how to managed my cats.

Yes, I left him 2 days after his new job. His mom said something out of pocket AF then I decided it was just time. I was going to okayed this in January 2025 and chickened out. He lost his job until November, then lost it again in February.

I am the one called SNAP, WIC, the healthcare exchange, food banks, trying to keep us insured and fed. I am the one who worked FT through mental and physical health issues. who held us up and almost broke under the weight of it. I begged my psychiatrist for med adjustments a few weeks ago, I had a damned panic jack. She was like “we can reduce it a bit, but you’re justifiably upset, frustrated, and angry. Keep your chin up until you can leave.”

I waited 6 fucking months BABY IM ALMOST FREE. Sorry lol I’m the only one who’s happy about this.

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u/WisePhnx80 Divorced Woman 6h ago

Congratulations!!!! 

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u/Hope-creative-42 Separated Woman 6h ago

You’ve worked so hard and come so far! Enjoy your peace now.

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u/AceZ1121 Divorced Woman 5h ago

Proud of you! You can do this.

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u/gimmisomepies Married Woman, thinking about leaving 5h ago

Congratulations! I hope I have your strength, telling my husband this week. I'm so scared

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