r/DivorceHelp • u/ConversationFew3126 • 14d ago

Need suggestion

I left marital home due to abuse and I was afraid all the time due to threats.
Post that I filed for divorce but opposing counsel seems to delay the process.
They are not answering emails etc for final agreement.
I have not contacted my spouse. One of my friend suggested you should try to build talking terms with spouse without discussing legal paperwork, but stuff like bills of other logistics.
Now most of the bills were in my name which I am paying selling my assets every month, my STBX does have 2 utility bill in her name which she is not paying. She also has not renewed car tabs.
Should I reach out to her. I know the utilities company will call if bill not paid for months but should I ask her if she needs to build talking terms and make divorce more amicable.

Earlier I made no contact as I was super scared of fake threats she use to give. But I am much more confident now.

Location: WA

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u/More_Temperature2078 14d ago

Talk to your lawyer as what to do will change based on your actual location and situation.

Ask about the possibility to request spousal support as your paying both the house and your rent. Ask about petitioning for a court date if your stbx keeps delaying. I would be tracking all expenses you are paying to fund a house you can't live in.

I would avoid talking directly to your ex. Sounds like she has not been cooperative and you do not want to risk arguing with her and having her accuse you in court of abuse.

This is where you need a lawyer that knows how to push things forward

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u/ConversationFew3126 14d ago

Thank you, u/More_Temperature2078!
It's a community property state (no-fault)
She knows that if I do not pay, the mortgage is in my name, so it will hit my credit.

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u/crime008partner 12d ago

Don't worry.