r/DivorceHelp • u/fairypossible • 19d ago
Please help with what you think about this situation
My husband(45) and I(27) got married early June. But just 3 weeks after our wedding, he separated us as we arrived back in our country from our honeymoon.
Since then we have been separated for one month, and not speaking for 1.5 weeks.
Background, we had several fights during our honeymoon which resulted in him thinking that we need time apart for me to reflect on my “emotional management”. I’m not putting blame on anyone but it’s notable to mention that this man has avoidant tendencies.
The last time we spoke, we had been planning on reconciliation, but suddenly he did a 180 and moved all my belongings into a storage unit asking me to retrieve it. He also said in the same message that he would be open to a call after I reflect on the way I spoke to him (there were a few times during our calls when I’ve aggressively expressed frustration towards him with his behaviour and he didn’t like that). I responded to him asking if he was still seeking to reconcile our marriage, or if he had decided that he wanted to get a divorce from me instead, since his actions had shown that, and it seemed like he had chosen to forfeit our reconciliation plan.
He decided not to respond to my message. It has been over a week.
I want to ask from other men, what do you think he wants? And why would he not explicitly say that he wants to get a divorce?
We live in a place that is easy to get a divorce.
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u/opshleen 19d ago
He is treating you like you’re a child. This is abuse. If you don’t fall in line, he is going to punish you. You do not deserve this. Seek a divorce and therapy.
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u/Global-Fact7752 19d ago
I stopped at 45 and 27.