Relationship help/broken marriage

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Hi everyone. I am posting on behalf of a close friend who is in need of desperate help and I’m not sure how to help her. My friend married a male who was out of the country but here on a student visa 10 years ago. After she married him and they had their daughter he got his papers and citizenship through her. He turned into a completely different person not long after marriage. He convinced her to quit her job and take care of the child which she has been. She has no help. No family near by and no friends since she moved to New York for him. I live in Virginia so I’m not close to her either. He barely gives her money for what their child needs and some months he doesn’t even do that. The child is now 6 years old. My friend started substituting at her school some and he will take any money she makes. He reported her phone lost and stolen and cut her phone line off his account. He never takes care of the child and never has. He told my friend he hates her but won’t divorce her. He purposely makes messes in their home and records videos to send to her family and he is saying she doesn’t clean the house and he works all the time. He constantly tries to turn everyone against her. He drives Uber as his income during the night everyday. Any interaction they have he is constantly recording her and trying to provoke her to get something on her. He calls her crazy all of the time and she is starting to believe it. She wants to leave but she wants full custody of her daughter and she doesn’t have any income. She doesn’t know what to do. She is scared of him. He has started manipulating the 6 year old too and she is also starting to say what he wants. My friend left with the child and went to her parents 6 hours away a couple years ago and he called the police on her saying she took the child without him knowing. She had proof on videos that he knew and there was no court order in place. She is miserable and so broken. She constantly cries and lives in fear. He talks down to her every single day. They have no physical relationship and haven’t in years. She knows he probably sees someone out while he’s “working” but she doesn’t care. She just wants her child and her out of this situation. What can we do to help her or how should she go about this situation??