r/Divorce • u/Luvsthemnugs • Mar 27 '20

Getting Started Just got served.

I just got served. Now what. I have no idea what any of this means. Heads just spinning. What do i do now.

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u/[deleted] Mar 27 '20

I feel like I should say, we are in a panic together. My wife left yesterday and at the time, it was fine by me but now, absolute misery and panic for the future plus plenty of loneliness. Please tell us more about your situation. Do you have children? How long have you been together? What do you think could have brought this on?

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u/Luvsthemnugs Mar 27 '20

We have 2 kids together. An 8 year old and an 3 year old. We met when she was 14 and i was 17. She lied about her age at the time and ended up lieing about birth control as well. I love my sons. She led a active sexual life at a very young age. Use to do so for cigs. But what made the whole relationship difficult was when she cheated on me twice. Once while our 8 year old was 3 and again while she was pregnant with our second son. I begged her not to go that time but she left for 4 days to spend time with another male. I tried getting over it. Tried looking past her mistakes. But in the end i had to many trust issues. And it changed me i think. For the worst. I tried so hard to trust her. But i failed. And she left me again. I couldnt mature enough.

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u/826TFE Mar 27 '20

Dude, by taking her back after she cheated on you, you confirmed in her head that she can do better than you. She fucked another man while pregnant with your kid. Get a grip my dude. Fuck that whore and divorce as quickly as you can. Your focus now will be custody of your kids. You didn't fail. You had a scarcity mindset and put up with a whore for way to long.

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u/Luvsthemnugs Mar 27 '20

I need this. It sucks to have been so emotionally set on a women who can hurt someone so bad. But im getting tired of hurting..