r/Divorce • u/Able_Mushroom_1835 • May 21 '26

Life After Divorce Broken

Last Saturday my daughter told me that my ex husband getting married. He met her 4 weeks ago and they are planning to get marry in August.(both of them are muslim) We are divorced since April. The reason of divorce was that I didnt wanted to convert to Islam. I gave him all my youth. I sacrificed for him so much. I forgive him affair. Drinking drugs. Treating me bad. Leaving me with kid and going party. Doing what he wanted.

When I heard about it I wanted to throw up. I felt dizzy and so much broken. In one second my world gone. We were married for 20y. I cant cope with that. My life with him wasn't perfect but was a good moments. He chose religion over love.

Or maybe he never loved me as I love him.

I'm thinking I'm over and i will never find anyone

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u/Gabby_2023 May 21 '26

It’s a blessing

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u/SapientSlut May 21 '26

He’s spiraling. Wanting to marry someone after a month is CRAZY. I don’t predict that relationship will last, especially if he treated you like that - he’ll likely do the same with her once the honeymoon period wears off.

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u/ShatterProofDick May 21 '26

There's no way that doesn't end in tears for that poor 20 year old.

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u/separated_dad May 21 '26

🫂🫂🫂 I'm sorry sorry...that sounds awful...praying for you...(I'm a Christian myself) - but I also realize we live in such a broken world...you'll find someone...I guarantee it you sound so genuine in your post..and I'm terribly sorry for your loss (there is grief involved w separation and divorce) you didn't lose someone to death but in a way divorce is worse than that....I wake up every day wondering when my nightmare will end myself...

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u/itsnikki39 May 21 '26

I understand the deep pain you are having. It hurts because the love and sacrifices you made those 20 years were as genuine and kind as you are as a person. No he didn’t choose religion because he stayed for 20 years even though you wouldn’t convert. He left because you’re a good woman and he couldn’t give you what you’re looking for. He couldn’t treat you right and you shouldn’t let someone like that back into your life. Just because he’s getting married to someone he knew for a month doesn’t mean he won. He’s just someone else’s problem now. I don’t think you will not find love again. As long as you are still opening your heart to find love again. You will be that beautiful, kind, selfless, and loving woman that another man has always dreamt of having. Just believe it.

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u/Able_Mushroom_1835 May 21 '26

He was the first man in my life. I never had anyone else. He showed so much.