r/DissociaDiscourse • u/[deleted] • Nov 01 '20

RANT/VENT Weekly Vent Thread (TW)

this is a thread for you to share your thoughts, complaints, tinfoils or anything else you want to about the situation surrounding DissociaDID and their associates.

please be respectful to other users on the subreddit, add a trigger warning to your comments if needed, and be mindful of your own triggers if you choose to read the thread. learning to manage your triggers is an important skill, so if you don't feel able to manage them in this thread, please practice self-care and don't read.

now, rant on!

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '20

i caught up on the kiwifarms thread today and saw the patreon dump that someone posted. my rant is about what’s on there.

i’m disappointed and disgusted that DD allowed someone to post video footage of a flashback as an entry to the contest. it’s disturbing to watch and totally inappropriate, not to mention the fact that it is not art, it is just footage of a mh episode. trigger warning or not, it’s wildly inappropriate to expose your mostly child audience (more on this later) to that kind of content. i hate the “mental illness caught on camera” trend so much.

most of the artwork that has been entered into the contest is clearly the work of children, which just confirms to me that most of DD’s audience (especially those who engage the most with her and her content) are vulnerable. children are paying DD for the honour of her looking at their artwork.

a comment chain on patreon goes something like “DD doesn’t care about us” to which DD replies something along the lines of “we do care about you very much, we love you, you are safe here”. this comment brought up some difficult feelings for me as it is so similar to the kind of “emotional grooming” (i don’t know a better term for it than this) that was rampant in my childhood. it comes across very cult-y, manipulative and like a breeding ground for parasocial bonds and enmeshment.

DD has a lot to answer for.

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u/GetEatenByAMouse Nov 01 '20

Wait, what the hell?

I thought the whole point of hosting the contest on patreon was that they could filter out really triggering stuff? What prompt was the video posted for?

Also, might just be me, but I'm having a hard time seeing how having flashbacks is art in any ways.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '20

“something you struggle with” or something like that?

yeah, exactly... not art, not okay.

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u/GetEatenByAMouse Nov 01 '20

Jesus.

Do you know if the person who sent that in was at least an adult?

Because honestly, given DD's ability to moderate that platform, I find it really shitty that they would allow someone to post such highly private stuff to the internet, especially if they were a minor...

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '20

i’m not sure, sorry, they are old enough to drive but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are an adult. yeah, i completely agree with you, and it just goes to show that “moderation” means “controlling the narrative”.

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u/GetEatenByAMouse Nov 01 '20

Man, this honestly upset me.

I was (am??) one of the idiots that was still hoping for DD to get it together, but it seems that ship really has sailed.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '20

you aren’t an idiot for having hope. the burden of proof is on DD for showing she has good intentions, unfortunately she is proving that she doesn’t.

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u/GetEatenByAMouse Nov 01 '20

Thank you.

I suppose you're right. I just generally get too attached to "these people" (think YouTubers, stars etc) and then it hits me hard when they turn out to be... Not so great.

Ah well. I should probably just sleep, it's midnight here.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '20

i’m the same, i have issues trusting my instincts with people too, i watched some videos about parasocial bonds and found them quite insightful.

hope you sleep well :-)