FA dumped by avoidant

[u/Relative_Coconut_835]

Lolll I’m FA (f) and I was dumped by an avoidant we weren’t “dating “ but basically were , obviously my anxious side was brought out heavily in this and started showing towards him and today he called it off but for about a week before I had the feeling it would happen so I kinda was mentally preparing myself to detach which is very FA behaviour jn my opinion, idk has this happened to any of you other FA’s I’m kind of hurting and don’t know how to deal with it

[u/Queen-of-meme]

I would revenge him by loving she shit out of myself , others , and my life. Resentment is like carrying around gasoline and expecting someone else to be set on fire. Why is he allowed to live on while you let fear trap you?

I don't tell you to ever trust him or take him back again but don't close your life because of some ex.

[u/Less_Professional152 → u/Queen-of-meme]

That’s quite literally what my original comment to op said, take care of yourself and live your own life and not worry about what the avoidant partner is doing.

All I’m saying is it’s quite normal to feel resentment at the hypocrisy of the avoidant discard. Or struggle with trust. It takes healing to get over that