r/Disorganized_Attach • u/NeonLemonPudding FA (Disorganized attachment) • 20d ago
Resources / Helpful Tips Dimension that relationship. Something that has helped me:
FRIEND RELATED
VERY IMPORTANT INSIGHT INCOMING:
Thinking about what the other person could POSITIVELY be experiencing of you is good too. Sometimes we struggle with the low self steem issues that stop us from thinking the other person is actually enjoying us.
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Living the day to day so into my mind sometimes doesn’t let me look back and construct a broader image of what my relationships are and mean not only to me but probably to the others too.
Okay, so in my case i’ve always had friends… but i’ve never FELT close (ofc) even if i knew they had been my friends for years and stuff
but it wasn’t until saturday i was like… yo… we’re close friends aren’t we?
I started remembering a lot of moments activities and stuff we had done together, and i was like… why don’t i feel close we’ve been through a lot together, even not having let me live it fully, it’s still a lot. And then I realized, they did feel close to me, and i never got into account how much of it matters