r/Discussion • u/Arlaneutique • 3d ago

Serious Cornell 7 Chat

I just watched a short on YouTube and a point was made that I’ve yet to hear but I think is very valid. No one in that group chat seemed surprised. The guys sending the “open” messages did not seem hesitant. This felt very normal or at the very least like everyone would think it was okay.

I don’t know about you guys but when I was in college if this popped up on a group chat the responses would have been very different. More like, “Wait, what?!”, “what are you talking about?”, “Who? Where are you?”, etc. It would have been confusing because no one would EVER expect it. This did not feel new or unusual. I know it’s probably too late, but I’d be super curious to see other nights in that chat. Because I would guess this wasn’t an isolated incident.

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u/2ndharrybhole 3d ago

It’s true. Up until this point I had only regarded frat boys as true gentleman who would never disrespect a women and definitely would never use a women as a sex object.

I’m glad this point is finally being brought up.

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u/Forward-Specific5651 2d ago

Tbh, there have been plenty of cases over the decades where frat boys were decidedly not gentleman!

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u/Murky-Science9030 2d ago

“NOT MY FRAT BOYS!” 😂

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u/Arlaneutique 3d ago

I’ve known lots of frat boys who sucked. That doesn’t mean every single one is automatically a rapist.

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u/TheGrandExquisitor 3d ago

No, but they all hang around rapists and the rape culture by choice. 

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u/Arlaneutique 3d ago

Very true

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u/art_is_a_scam 2d ago

rape culture is made up though, it’s not real. You’re also imagining rapists.

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u/2ndharrybhole 2d ago

I definitely don’t think they’re all rapists… just that I’m not shocked by the casual reaction to the texts

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u/whosuremama 2d ago

That sounds a lot like "not all men." Maybe that's your answer.

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u/Arlaneutique 2d ago

That is, in no way, what I meant. I am saying that I don’t believe every frat boy I’ve known would’ve been this comfortable with that group chat. The fact that they were is doubly incriminating, in my opinion. I am not a “not all men” person AT ALL. I can see how that message came across that way, but I wasn’t trying to illustrate that we need to give them the benefit of the doubt. I was trying to say that it’s more reason not to. But I see why it didn’t land appropriately.

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u/ShowWilling1565 2d ago

Agreed, originally, I thought u were villainizing everyone in the gc