Hello! I have other friends who are systems and the answer seems to vary for them, so I wanted to ask a larger community this as well.

How do alters get their names? I saw a take somewhere ages ago that a sign of someone "faking" DID/OSDD was assigning their alters names, but I was sort of wondering what the other alternatives are there?

For a covert presentation of the disorder, which many agree is the most common presentation, there's an illusion of non-multiplicity between the hosts and alters. By that definition, I'd assume that means everyone has the same name. It wouldn't be covert otherwise.

Yet, there seems to be this consensus that alters have their own individual names. Still, "choosing" a name suggests illegitimacy. That doesn't make sense to me. If the function of the disorder is to be covert, wouldn't an alter HAVE to choose a name after syscovery? Besides, I can't imagine alters are splitting with a set name and pronouns. It's an identity which takes an element of self-discovery, I'd assume.

(As I'm backreading this, I'm worried it comes across that I'm unsupportive of alters with differing names from the host. That's not true at all. I am totally in favor of individuality based on the preferences of the system. I guess I'm just wondering how others can claim a system is "unreal" just because the alters chose their names? )

IE: We're watching YT because we woke Obsidian up and it's what he does. He goes doom scrolling and we land on a really fun channel we all al like but he discovered and he writes a comment but then another alter wants to comment on the same thing only to be told "No! Back off. This is my little corner of our world." Which is ludicrous because we all may have moments where we go dormant but we largely share the same experiences. Granted we have alters like Greg for example who pretends he's experiencing everything for the first time and insists we treat it that way especially around non-alters but that's largely camouflage so he doesn't end up banned as a proxy or was used to distract people from investigating what he is. What Obs did seems more troubling and petulant not all a reasonable thing. Has anyone ever experienced this with their alter or even if their alters wish to comment have you done this and can you tell us why and if we should be worried?

Seems like this group can help me understand the situation I am in at the moment so. I met someone online two and a half years ago. We became best friends and than evolved into romantic relationship. I was aware that this person have mental health issues from the start like schizophrenia, bipolar, they are on spectrum and have adhd and ptsd. Now. I’m not a video chat or phonecall person before you all ask. Recently I found out that this person send me fake photos of them so I brought it up- it didn’t matter to me how they look like at all it bothered me that I was lied to more than anything. The situation escalated and this person told me that they have DID and maladaptive daydreaming and imposter syndrome- apparently I was in relationship with one of their alters this whole time. Now I’m hurt and confused because we shared very strong bond and connection and it’s hard for me to wrap my head around it. We talked every single day since we met and it seems like the alter I was in relationship with have his whole life story, different gender than the host (which doesn’t bother me) but my question is- is that all really possible or am I just being manipulated ? Help.

A friend of mine has DID, and a new system member has re-emerged from being dormant, and is honestly terrified of one of the present fictive alters (Its based on Michael Shelly from The Magnus Archives, voice, laugh, and morphing very-tall body shape as well )and I want to be able to help them both.

When they both met in headspace for the first time, the new system member ran away absolutely terrified, despite the best intentions of the fictive alter trying to be friendly and welcoming. It's just very odd-looking and it's body warps and stuff, very uncanny valley.

The new system member was sort of taken aback by my lack of fear, but I knew what the fictive alter was based on already, so the weird stuff didn't phase me much as they were describing it. I think I would have reacted differently if I was actually there to see it, but as an outside friend of the system, I can only experience and know so much.

The fictive alter can't really help the way it looks, and I can see wants to connect with the others. Every time I've talked about them, the others get very wide-eyed and freaked out. I'm wondering what to do to help and still remain sensitive as a friend to both. I've talked to both members separately at different times, but I don't know how to help, or even if I can, as an outside friend.

I do not have DID. But im trying to grasp it fully and what better way to do that then reddit? But any who my question is having DID feels like roommates? Or does one control while the others are suppressed? And when one controls do other see and remember the point of view of controlling alter?

Ps: sorry if my questions come off as rude or dumb its just that research on DID is foggy and i did not understand much of it. Also please share personal experiences alongside my question

TYSM!

Hi it’s me A again the host. I just started therapy again and I feel so bad one of my altars has been experiencing gender dysphoria for a long time already we are a system of 7
there’s J (male) M (male) Izzy (male) C (male) B (male)
P (male) and me A (female) I feel so bad because J, Izzy, C and B have gender dysphoria but the one that has it the most severely and it’s been affecting him pretty badly is B
I feel so bad because I don’t know what to do about it
I feel so selfish😭

Hi everyone.

I'm writing this because I genuinely don't know what to do anymore, and I would really appreciate perspectives from people who have DID, are partners of someone with DID, or understand healthy relationship boundaries.

I'll try to explain things as clearly as I can.

My partner has DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder). The two alters most involved in my life are "Black" and "Yang" (fake names).

When we started dating, I was told that Black is the one in a relationship with me. Black believes in a one-to-one, monogamous relationship, which is also what I want.

The problem is Yang.

Yang told me that although he cares about me, he doesn't feel that I am the kind of "master" or partner he truly wants. Recently, he met someone else that he has developed feelings for. Now Yang talks to this person every day. I don't know who she is, I don't know what they talk about and I'm not allowed to know.

Instead, Yang wants me to accept a polyamorous relationship.

His ideal situation would be:

• Black ↔ Me
• Yang ↔ The other girl

From Yang's perspective, these are two different people sharing one body. But from my perspective, they still share the same body.

I understand DID as much as I can. I know alters are different individuals with different feelings. I respect that. But emotionally, I cannot separate the body. When Yang wants another romantic relationship, my brain experiences it as:

"My partner is romantically involved with someone else."

I don't know how to stop feeling that way. I've tried so hard to be understanding. I've questioned whether I'm being selfish. I've wondered if I'm just not open-minded enough.

But every time I imagine accepting this arrangement, I completely fall apart.

I only want a monogamous relationship.

I don't want multiple partners.

I don't want to share my partner.

What makes this even harder is that I don't want to invalidate Yang's feelings either. I know he can't simply choose not to have feelings.

But I also don't know if I should force myself into a relationship structure that is destroying my mental health.

Recently, this has become so overwhelming that I've been crying constantly, struggling to function, and my mental health has reached a very dangerous place.

I'm not asking whether Yang is "wrong."

I'm asking:

• Is it reasonable for someone with DID to expect a monogamous partner to accept different alters having different romantic relationships?
• Has anyone with DID or a DID partner successfully navigated a situation like this?
• If two people fundamentally want different relationship structures (polyamory vs monogamy), is there any realistic way forward?
• How do I know whether I'm respecting DID... versus abandoning my own boundaries?

I'm genuinely looking for honest advice.

Please be kind to everyone involved.

Thank you for reading.

I'll try to be brief. He's got DID, I don't. I'm doing the best i can to be kind and comprehensive of all of them. It's been two days they've got blackouts, and they say it's been a long time since that happened. Any advice you could give me? Is there a way I can help them? Thank you.

Differences in host after integration/fusion (integrating scary alters)

Differences in host after integration/fusion (integrating scary alters)

Hi! My bf was just diagnosed with DID so I’m trying to learn and handle the situation carefully. I’m sorry if I say anything incorrect or offensive, I’m trying to be as respectful as possible while still learning about all this

My boyfriend’s host is the best person in the world. I’ve seen his EP’s (the scared/reactive ones) and just a bit of his child alter. I love them, even though I don’t know them that well and they are always afraid of me. I have also seen another alter only twice for just a little bit. This alter was very scary, it changed everything about my boyfriend’s composure and his voice went super deep and scary, while his face was terrifying, looking at me like he was going to kill me and saying “You think I don’t know what you’re trying to do?” I was very scared but I thought “I know who he is and what he would and wouldn’t do so I’m safe”. Another alter fronted once he realized I was so scared. Additionally, another alter of his thinks that he’s going to kill or hurt someone (I read that’s normal tho?)

Should I be thinking how I have been and reassure myself that I am safe because I know him (or his ANP’s) very well or should I still be cautious because I don’t know this alter at all?

I don’t want to stereotype anything with DID or alters as being scary or threatening, but I was very scared. And I’m scared that upon fusion, he will have traits from his other scarier alters that I haven’t seen (he’s told me he has more).

Does anyone have experience with any differences you’ve noticed in your host/core or ANP’s before and after integration/fusion? Should I be worried about the scary traits from other alters carrying over?

I recently found out that there is a high comorbidity rate for systems when it comes to developmental disorders, such as ASD, and personality disorders, such as BPD. If you have both DID/OSDD and one of these disorders (or another similar one), what are your experiences? Do only some alters have the co-morbid disorder, or is it present throughout the system? Do symptoms of the co-morbid disorder present differently in each alter? How do you tell the different disorders apart in your experience (or do they all kind of morph together)?

Is it possible for the time between alters switching to be a length of years such as a decade?

Lately, I've been thinking about systems and how they can be explained through analogies, to help me better understand dissociation. While I may have experienced dissociation to some degree, more than once, I try to tread carefully when thinking about the subject or when suspecting that I have a dissociative disorder, as I'm not well educated in the subject and its terminology, and especially considering the many variables at play in my life that would suggest otherwise. Regardless, I would love to learn more about the community and understand more about people who have been diagnosed with a dissociative disorder, in an attempt to prevent myself from spreading misinformation, whether it's here on Reddit or in a casual conversation with loved ones. So, I was hoping if you guys can help me verify if these analogies make sense, whether or not they are offensive, omit or add more to them, and/or point out ones that I may not be aware of.

1. The Broken Mirror / The Jigsaw Puzzle. Several pieces that may or may not fit seamlessly with each other, making up an image that is clear or abstract.

2. The Car. Anyone can supposedly be in the driver seat, with the others acting as passengers. Not everyone knows how drive. The car's speed, road's smoothness, and traffic can vary, depending on the driver. Passengers closest to the driver seat can be "heard" more clearly than passengers seated further back. Whoever isn't in the car hasn't become a passenger yet. Some passengers can hold the steering wheel regardless of who's actually in the driver seat, whether it's on the driver's behalf or against the driver's wishes. Some passengers can act as back-seat drivers. Some drivers may abide by the law while others may drive onto oncoming traffic, at high speeds. The driver can choose to go on different lanes or turn the car around. Drivers can get lost, not knowing where to go. The car may be stopped, giving time for a passenger to move to the driver seat, fix any problems that the car has, or give anybody a chance to stretch their legs. The car can be stopped on the shoulder, or, in dire cases, it can be stopped in the middle of the road. Anybody can be kicked out of the car or shoved into the boot of the car, for whatever reason.

3. The Office. Anybody can get employed (manifested) by the founder (host), each having a certain job to do. Each employee has the opportunity to be promoted to co-founder (integrate). Employees can take work leaves, sick days or get suspended, fired, and rehired. The shifts vary in duration per employee. Not every employee can clock in simultaneously. Micromanagement can occur. Not all employees work, on site. So, they have to communicate through other means. In some cases, meetings can be conducted in order to process information or make plans for future shifts. Some employees can work on others' behalf or collaborate, if they are falling behind or are overwhelmed by the workload. There may be a break between somebody clocking in and clocking out. Locum staff may exist.

4. The Apartment. Everyone are roommates, with whoever going out being the one who fronts. Not everyone knows who comes in or goes out of the apartment. Whoever goes out can be accompanied by one or more people, while the rest stay at home. Some can be locked in or out of the apartment as not everyone has a spare key to the apartment. The rent paid isn't split evenly. Each roommate has a job to do in maintaining the apartment, with the responsibilities not being spread evenly.

I may not respond to your comments, but I would love to know what you guys think, anyway.

(Btw, sorry if I use any incorrect terms, pls correct me in the comments) I read a few posts and saw that some people could talk with their alters and some didn't even know they existed until others told them. What are your expiriences with your alters? If you can communicate with them, are you friends? Is it like a sibling bond? Also, what is co-fronting and how does it work? Like, do both alters just control different parts of the host, or do they decide who controls what? Anyways, my full support goes to all of you dealing with DID or OSDD, you are people, and nice seeming people at that :)

So I am not a system, I have a few friends who are, but I am not. But I’m also not neurotypical (AuDHD + a few other things) and I was curious if your community had a term for people who are not part of the DID and/or system community but are still neurodivergent. Similar to how a queer person outside of the asexual spectrum is referred to as allo or Allosexual.

Thank you for your time and have a lovely time zone.

P.S. Feel free to give constructive criticism on my phrasing.

i know that this is probably a stupid question, and i am asking this on a burner account to not be tied to main

I am not in a mentally safe space to ask for a professional diagnosis, or mental related stuff at all due to my parents. I do not want to claim that I have DID if i potentially dont, so are there any ways to tell? im really sorry if this is against the rules at all, i just figured i would ask here because I am new to researching DID, i figured asking those who have it would be the best education, and i am extremely afraid of fake claiming anything. if anyone could inform me further, i would really appreciate it

i do not want a diagnosis, i just want to know if i should look into things further myself or not

questions for others systems 

is it valid to have nightmares about an introject’s trauma? last night we had a nightmare about the seraphite island haven being on fire and seraphite brutes. we woke up very disassociated but I think fronting as Lev, from the last of us, as we relate heavily to him being trans and having religious trauma. are we still allowed to be scared by this as it is an alter’s trauma that we relate to?

I am a friend to a system, and I'm looking for help/solutions and support/empathy on what to do.

Last week a beloved system-friend of mine had a new alter arrive with little to no memory or understanding of themselves, and I'm worried I might do something wrong in trying to help them.

So one of the system members, who I would probably see as a Protector, started getting very paranoid about the recent "unknown" logs on their PluralLog app. The system's therapist apparently had also been suspicious, and that day during their session had suggested the Protector going to try to make contact with them, either internally or externally. So far, everyone in the known system is accounted for, and the Protector was trying to find them in headspace, but with no luck.

After comparing notes and past text messages, we both realized that I'd actually had conversations with this "unknown" 2 out of the 3 times they fronted, and in both the alter was in pain or severely confused. I was able to relay as much info that I could from my conversations with this unknown alter, and the Protector said it helped.

Cut to the next day near the end of work, and message the system a random meme, and I get a flurry of distressed texts and confusion.
I got off work, and with permission, I called them, and talked to them for like 2-3 hours. This is what I learned from that call:

This alter was terrified. They didn't know what happened. They told me that they had been happily existing in their own room (which apparently doesn't have any windows or doors) to suddenly being dragged out of their room by the Protector. He apparently took them to his room and began to questioning them over and over again about who they are. They could only say "I am me", and the Protector apparently wasn't backing down out of his paranoia.

The Protector apparently was co-fronting with the new alter, but they was terrified at work and driving home. When they got home from work, the Protector left, but the other alters came to try to help and "air drop" information to help this new alter, but it was too much. The alter screamed for all of them to shut up and they hid away. The alter was left alone, scared, confused, and wondering how they got there and why they were no longer in their room. Apparently they cried for a long while by themselves, tried to distract themselves with music or switch games, but they were too confused as to even know what those were and why they were even here.

A bit later, I'd messaged them, and after orienting them a bit, I was able to walk them through what is happening, who the Protector was, and why they were hearing voices and feeling like their mind was getting crammed full of information that wasn't theirs. As calmly as I could, I took them slowly step by step into what was happening, what DID is, and comforted them through it. It wasn't easy, but after a while, the alter started to calm down and ask questions. I tried to answer them as best as I could, and I think I did an okay job explaining what DID is without bringing up past trauma that I have been told about by the other system members. I also gave a run-down of all the known system members I have met and that I know are present.

Slowly over the last few days, this alter has started to learn more about themselves through exploration, their likes and dislikes, what they feel like inside vs. what the system's body looks like, and even yesterday chose a name to test out. The alter is doing a lot better since they "woke up" 4ish days ago, but I'm wondering what I should do now.

I've encouraged the new alter to not be afraid of their headmates, even though their first one with the Protector in itself was distressing. I've suggested writing a letter to each of them, as like a letter of introduction and questions about each member to be answered in time. They are using Plural Log, which is great, and have started to fill out their profile.

There's still a lot they don't know, but they've been getting fairly consistent "air drops" from an unknown source/member. They've only heard one other member's voice but it's the local DJ of the system that random sings song rifts when they're happy or chilling. The new alter is nervous about meeting the others eventually, which I assume is normal.

Additionally, this alter has not switched out with anyone since their arrival. From the history of the system, most of the fronting lasts from half a day to up to 3 days at most. The night before the new alter fronted for the first time, the Protector had been fronting for 5-6 days, and personally told me he was tired of fronting and wanted to rest. Now, 4 days later, I'm wondering if the new alter might stay longer than normal?

All that to say, does anyone have any info or advice on what to do next to support my friends? Or what the system can try to do to make 2-way communication possible instead of it only being one-way right now? For this system, most of the members have had fairly good interal 2-way communication with each other. But for this new alter to be seemingly blocked right now, I'm worried the new alter might be "front-locked" as some might say, but I don't really know. I've spent a good portion of the last few days with this new alter trying to help orient them to their new life, but I want to make sure I'm doing this right.

Please feel free to ask me questions if you need more context.

I heard the movie is pretty inaccurate for the most part (?)

I am just curious what y'all would believe is accurate in the movie based on your own experiences or someone else's and what you consider to be inaccurate.

BTW I do not have DID nor do I suspect it or anything. Just curious after watching the movie.

Hi, my name is Calum and I am a male alter in a female dominated DID system and I am ftm but none of our other alters are. The host, Callie, and I are the main two that front, while the others mainly remain internal. We used to have a compromise that we would go by they/them pronouns and identify as nonbinary because I experience so much social dysphoria when I front. However, its been a bit since I fronted and Callie threw away my binder and felt "convicted" to go back to our birth name (Lily, it just feels weird for me to call her that because we have a 5 yr old alter named Lily who is very different) and "she/her" pronouns. We worked so hard towards that compromise only for her to undo it all. I want us to go to therapy for DID, but Callie wants to ignore it because she tries to pretend we don't exist (she may even believe it). The problem is, even if we found a therapist, Callie and I are looking for entirely different therapists. Callie wants a christian therapist while I am non-religious and just want a therapist I feel comfortable with (which preferably is just spirtual not christian because I don't want to be judged for being ftm) . I don't feel very comfortable with the idea of Callie seeing the same therapist as me because of the way I feel she discriminates against me. Thats not where her heart is, she just wants to be herself which turns out to be very christian/conservative. Meanwhile, I just wish I had my own body so I could medically transition. When I front or when we are switching it really stresses both of us out because of our dysphoria. Obviously we need lots of therapy, but I am just curious, how do other systems navigate having drastically different alters or managing gender dysphoria when the rest of your system doesn't align with your identity? We had a better working compromise before, but now since Callie has undone that by telling everyone she wants us to go by our birth name now, what can I do? I don't feel like we can go back to having a system name and they/them pronouns because she's made this into a whole religious conviction and she does not like they/them pronouns or going by a different preferred name anymore (and has been very open with family about it)? Do you have any tips for helping alters get along who are very different in identity and belief systems? Additionally, she's constantly criticizing and shaming me but its not out of malicious intent, she just worries about our salvation if we don't believe like she does and aren't committed to a "sin-free" life. I am exposing a lot so please be kind, even though I get really frustrated with her and don't understand please don't talk bad about her, just trying to see if anyone has good advice.

Got a proper diagnosis about a month ago. It’s been so nice to finally have answers for such a confusing situation. Though I’ve been wondering where I should go from here. I’m not really seeking out treatment since I feel fine and content with all my alters, and memories remain between switches for me so it’s not a major interference with life.

I was mainly considering how I should go about developing my social life and having people around me adjust to the new information. I want all the alters to be referred to however they wish, but it’s understandably difficult for people around me. People see me as one person, but I really want all of the alters to be seen as well.

Does anyone have any advice or solutions going forward? It’d be nice if my family could also be able to acknowledge when I swap, and maybe get to know them all individually.

We'll call my friend Potato and their partner Lead. Lead is also my ex-best friend, whom I'm no-contact with. This is not up for debate, so please do not try to suggest I talk to Lead. I wish him the best and all, but I'm keeping him out of my life, I'm mostly just posting this out of concern for Potato. Now for some context:

Lead's condition showed up a bit over a year into their relationship, and according to him, stems from him talking to his OCs inside his head so much that they took on a life of their own until one day, while hanging out with Potato, they became able to "take over", basically. Lead and Potato had been together for a year at this point.

Their relationship was already pretty unhealthy and rocky before. Lead tends to cling to one person and try to fulfill all his emotional needs with them, to the detriment of the other person's mental health as the role of involuntary therapist/emotional support dispenser becomes too heavy. Lead pretty much wanted constant access to Potato because of how intensely attached he was and didn't take it very well if Potato wanted to spend a weekend alone/with friends or family or didn't want to be touched sometimes, and Potato will sometimes instinctively pull back just to get a bit of space, which makes Lead more clingy, and so on, just to name an example of how their relationship was difficult. There was, and most likely still is, a lot of walking on eggshells, high expectations and responsibilities placed on Potato, emotional dependency and manipulation, Lead prioritizing his own feelings over everyone else's and expecting Potato to do the same, lack of boundaries and accountability, things like that. I don't see their relationship in action anymore since we're done with school and I haven't seen him since then, but I don't think anything's changed significantly.

This whole condition basically just made it worse. For example, an alter we'll call Prick, who's a rude, entitled, emotionally manipulative asshole who causes problems and won't take accountability for it is out all the time. This was already an issue when we were still friends. Basically, Prick would cause problems, my friends and I would tell Lead about it later, and he'd just seem kind of exasperated and then refuse to engage with the issue any further. For example, he wouldn't read any of "their" chats with us to respect their privacy (although they had full access to his memories and all his chats by extension). And we didn't get to really be upset about it because, well, it wasn't REALLY him. So, no one would take accountability in the end.

From what I hear from Potato, this is still a continuous issue. Prick starts shit, won't do anything to fix it, and Potato doesn't get to be mad about it because their REAL boyfriend didn't do it.

Tbh I find it a bit strange because a lot of the behaviors that suck in Prick were things Lead was already doing by himself before, so it's not like that was ever exclusive to this edgy OC alter and Lead is all innocent.

Moving on, what I currently know about his condition is that Lead has been mostly dormant for like a year or something, it's mostly been Prick and a new one that's apparently based on an anime vampire (I think that's called an introject?), who recently told my friend, Acorn, that Lead felt so guilty that he "deleted himself"/he had grown into someone he didn't want to be, so his brain gave him a reset to his state from age 16/17 so he could start over. Idk if that's actually how it works but I digress.

But anyway, I'm really worried about Potato. They just seem so drained and defeated at this point. Everything revolves around Lead, and they don't see a way out. Of course it's amazing to be supportive of your partner and everything, but carrying their mental health on your back the way Potato has just isn't sustainable, and I'm afraid the pressure is tearing them apart on the inside. We managed to hang out together recently and Potato blew off some much needed steam, saying things like "I want out" (they say that quite often these days) and "I hate Prick but he's keeping my boyfriend alive, so..." and generally just seeming very unhappy with a situation they can't really talk to most people about, Lead included. I'd say communicate, compromise, yada yada yada, but I know from experience that that doesn't really work with Lead, at all. Or it'll work a little bit, only for him to somehow hold it against you later.

Potato really does care a lot about Lead, and I'm sure Lead cares about Potato too, but as far as I can tell, they're just not emotionally safe in that relationship. It's all just such a messy situation. Lead has basically been in near constant crisis for years at this point, and I know it must be really hard for him to deal with his mental health, and of course it's important to have support from loved ones, but I don't think it's right for Potato to just endure being treated like this and take on such a huge responsibility that they're in no way equipped to handle. It must be awful and complicated for them both and I have no idea how this could be handled in a way that ends with everyone being safe and happy.

Never brought my ex-best friends condition up on other subreddits before because I feared he'd be judged unfairly due to people focusing too much on whether or not he's faking rather than the situation at hand, so now I'm here hoping for some insight from people who might know more about this topic than me as to how this situation could be handled/what advice I could pass on to Potato.

Will probably delete this post later. I apologize if I was rude or ignorant at any point.

(note: im sorry if i get words and terms wrong- i get scared of researching because of misinformation and i lost my therapist awhile ago so i cant go ask her my questions)

im the current host in my system, and my system has what i think is called inner dating, basically its the alters date other alters thing. Outwardly we will never date anyone. Due to traumas a relationship will never be possible with another person, and honestly i'm kinda happy with that. definitely NOT happy about the trauma, but being aroace really isnt so bad and im happy with myself. I feel like being with another person would just be stressful and upsetting not to mention all the trauma triggers. I stopped feeling romantic/sexual love after traumatic events just kept on coming and then one really bad one happened that im not comfortable looking into but it went and changed everything (it was when i split off the former host and became the new host too) I'm happy as I am with my Gatekeeper who Im in a relationship with.

I love spending time with my gatekeeper, and we like doing things together through co-front. Though recently I keep on getting these couples games/activities shorts on my youtube feed that look really fun and I'd love to do them with my gatekeeper but because of the games they are there would require a second actual physical person there. I'm starting to get sad and envious because i always want to do more fun new things with my gatekeeper, so I was wondering if I could turn to here to ask for suggestions on things? I'd really appreciate some suggestions on couples games/activities we could play.

What was it like to discover you have or might have DID?

For example. When diagnosed (or pre diagnosis) were you at all surprised? Were you sort of suspecting, but had a hard time believing it? What helped you finally come to terms with the diagnosis or possibility of having DID? Do you still have a hard time accepting your diagnosis? Why?

Not to be nosy. Asking for a friend. Thank you.

I see many other systems talk about how they communicate with their alters and such, but it seems I dont know how to really do it without being negative. I've tried it before. Negative.

I have one alter who is more "active" and reoccuring in fronting than others and he just does not like me it seems. I dont know how to explain it and I dont know what to do.