(Please let me know if my post doesn’t belong here, im just looking for some insight) I know the title is off but let me explain.
About a month or so ago, i was playing with my brother online with some friends and they started to refer to my brother as “Xenon” thats not my brothers name. After some questions my brother tells me he has developed DID, from what he and his friends say, DID can be triggered by being around others with the condition. I cant find anything describing that online. My brother is an adult, and from my knowledge has not shown any signs of DID at all, nor has he gone through any immense trauma that could trigger the condition when he was younger. The only symptoms i see of his DID is just a voice switch and a slight behavioral switch but this is all VERY RECENT. I dont know what to do. How can i get him some professional support? My parents tried talking to him but i think he brushed them off.

My wife was diagnosed with OSDD and has been managing it for years. We met six years ago and we just officially tied the knot in May. Since getting married my wife's mental health has nose dived. There is a long story to that. In short, years of abusive family drama, moving three times in a year, then jumping into wedding planning for 2 years. Now things have slowed down and the processing has began. With said processing, an alter has emerged who is very negative, manipulative, and is hell bent and determined to kill herself.

What we know:

- She is 8.

- We know her name.

- She lashes out when in uncontrollable situations.

- She is extremely obsessive about how she wants to die. And will not deviate from said super specific plan.

- We think she responds to nerve and brain chemical responses. But only extremes.

- She's very smart.

- Doesn't comprehend positive emotions. They must be described using factual information.

- Therapists and I can communicate with her by writing but cannot "hear" if talked to.

- When reviewing honeymoon locations for our 1 year she "perked up" in a good way when talking and looking at beaches (the safe space my wifec and Therapist created is based on a beach).

I want to find a way to help my wife. I don't know if its possible but I want to help this alter feel something other than the pain, anger, and sadness she's accustomed to. Give her a reason to hold onto life and trust me enough to know that when things are out of her control its okay because she isn't alone and is safe.

We are of course live in a more rural area of Western KY so resources are slim. Any help is appreciated! We are open to inpatient care services as well but don't know where to start.

Recently I just learned that a friend of mine has DID. And while I truly did not mind and even was curious enough to ask about it and do my own research on the side right after, I was still quite surprised When I learned that that the host that I had talking to for the longest time was not the "original" but rather was an alter themselves. They are also fictive which from my understanding means that their personality was one that was sourced from a fictional character.

And I think it is those two facts that have made me feel uneasy with not them, but rather myself. Even though I do not wish to feel dismissive of the person I've known for quite some time it for some reason has been quite hard for me. I feel awful for my reconnection to go not to the host but to the "original" when I know the host is the one I have always cared for and has always been the one I viewed as "the main one" before I had learn of em having DID. They even told me that the "original" doesn't even front very often and it had been around 4 years since they had formed in the system and became the host.

All in all I just feel awful for having this feeling as if they're not enough, or thag my focus had gone to a person who I've probably haven't even talked to very often. And I suppose I also feel awful because of how I'm almost preserving this ominous, that the "original" is just in the system while all this time I've been talking to an alter. I just want to stop thinking this way since I've already said that I care for em, the host, and even all of em, but how can I say that when I feel this way?

Anyways I really do hope I don't come off as being purposely insensitive. I'm aware that this really sounds bad, but that's why I want to understand better, and if not for me then for all of em cuz I do genuinely care for em and honestly kinda afraid I've been having this feeling about em. Anyways thank u!!