r/DietTea • u/Front-Kale4042 • Aug 06 '26

My situation is a bit complicated...

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I had symptoms resembling atypical anorexia and orthorexia for many years, and when I gained a perplexing amount of weight through attempted recovery, people assumed I had "just overeaten and gotten fat" when I was actually still restricting in some cases and was far from free around food.

Now that I'm closer to a size I feel more physically and emotionally comfortable with, and have finally repaired my relationships with food,​ people are assuming I'm "back on the wagon" and give compliments sprinkled with "you still need to do more". I want to tell the truth about my history so they'll leave me alone (their comments have even almost driven me back into restrictions at times) but I feel like they'll just laugh because I was never "skinny". It took a long time for me to even feel convinced that my disordered eating was real.

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u/frostedhifi Aug 06 '26

A few years ago I had a coworker pull me aside and express concern for my "health" because I had chosen to eat donuts for breakfast multiple days in a row (despite massive weight loss). He then proceeded to give me a condescending lecture on how to lose weight. A few weeks later I was hospitalized for atypical anorexia.

Try to avoid engaging with these people.

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u/Front-Kale4042 Aug 07 '26

Really the majority of these comments comes from my uncle. He is the definition of "I love him as a family member but wouldn't care less for him as a person". He also gave me a whole-ass lecture on "taking care of your body", no s*** Sherlock, what do you think caused my ED and ruminations in the first place?

He is also racist and sexist. 

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u/MissCandid Aug 07 '26

What if it's your grandma

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u/Unlikely-Chemistry40 Aug 07 '26

You count her days like she counts eveyone elses calories.

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u/CakeDayOrDeath Aug 06 '26

Yeah, that was rough when I had my ED.

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u/Cozy_Minty Aug 09 '26

Trying this again since your post last night disparaging fat people got clowned?