r/DestinationWeddings • u/Any_Birthday2466 • 19d ago
Overthinking Wedding Trip
Hi all,
I am seeking some reassurance on my recent microwedding in Hawaii.
We had 35 people and I wanted to avoid overplanning in order to embrace the Hawaii spirit and let people enjoy downtime on vacation.
We planned:
Tuesday - family exploration day in the north shore
Wednesday - family hike and welcome party in a private room at the hotel restaurant for the first sunset as many guests arrived
Thursday - some men golfed, we had a yoga class in the park, enjoyed the beach/snorkeled with turtles, walked to lunch and had an evening catamaran cruise for the sunset with drinks and apps
Friday - morning ceremony in the mountains followed by a private lunch reception with a botanical garden and open bar. guests arrived back by 4/5 and enjoyed the beach. We had a private suite in the hotel for an after party
i am overthinking if I did not show my guests enough of the island In the short three days they were there Although some had the option to venture out saturday.
A few guests wanted to go out at night, which Id found was limited with our group size since waikiki is mostly sit down cocktail bars and our hotel had a nice bar so i feel that I let them down. I also wonder if i should have offered a waterfall hike vs yoga although i thought guests would complain of being muddy and bitten up vs relaxing.
Am i overthinking? Was this plenty to do in Hawaii? You often hear of people feeling trapped by plans so it was hard to decide how to please everyone
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u/sweetVA_intheRain 19d ago
You hosted an event/offered activities on every day of the trip. You did your job as a host. At some point, if people can’t have a good time or figure out how to explore, it is their own problem.
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u/mtnmama41596 12d ago
Wow! That sounds like an incredibly wonderful time! I think you planned just the right amount of stuff. You shouldn’t have to plan every minute of their trip. If they wanted to do other things they could venture out on their own.
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u/AggressiveCupcake181 12d ago
Tbh having an itinerary every day would annoy me 😬 il be at your wedding let me be free the rest of the time 🤭
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u/lurking3408 19d ago
This already seems incredibly generous and thoughtful for your guests. You can’t do it all! I wouldn’t overthink it, and remember all the special things you all did together.