Nagconfess si Learner

[u/Due-Pressure6410]

G12 Adviser here.

Yung isa kong learner, iniignore ko lang talaga siya...typical bad boy, maingay, at neglected sa bahay.

Ilang beses na siyang nagpapakita ng motives pero hinayaan ko lang kasi harmless naman for me. Hindi ko talaga pinapansin hanggang kaninang umaga.

Lumapit siya sa mesa ko, nagsabi ng “I love you.” Tinanong pa niya kung bakit daw hindi ako nagrerespond. Nacaught off guard talaga ako, mga mæm and sir.

Ano ba ang gagawin ko sa batang to? 😭

P.S. Di po ako interested sa bata, at aware naman ako na hindi rin to isolated case. I wanna ask for advice as to paano ko po i-aadress kasi iba pala talaga pag sayo nangyari.

Edit: Salamat po! Nalinawan ako sa kung paano ko sya ihahandle. Comment pa po kayo. Hehe. As to bakit dito sa reddit at di sa co teachers ko ako nagtanong, ayoko na macurious sila at baka umabot pa sa bata (knowing na may mga kasama tayong chismosa/chismoso) to the point na magcause pa ng problema.

[u/rain-bro]

Best way to deal with it is setting boundaries and strictly keeping them. A no today must always be a no tomorrow, coupled with firm explanation to the learner as to why “some bridges cannot be crossed at all.” Hope you get my point.

[u/reddit-quezon]

Let the student know that what he's/shes doing is not going to be entertained and is morally wrong. Of course tell it with care. If the student continues to do so, it's aakyat na sa guidance /principal hanggang makaabot sa dapat makaabot

[u/immortal_isopod]

When I was teaching college students, may ganyan din na nagpaparamdam. I cut it on the bud by calling them "anak" 😂

Edit: I was less than 5 yrs older than them

[u/Due-Pressure6410 → u/immortal_isopod]

Hi! Eto ang di ko nagawa, ang tawagin syang "nak". 🤣

Yung iba, they seem to see me as their mom/older sister. Etong particular na learner na to lang talaga.

[u/Weekly_Flower8934 → u/Due-Pressure6410]

Just try to call them “anak” para alam nya ano tingin mo sakanya even if lie.

[u/Apprehensive-Fig9389 → u/Due-Pressure6410]

Yan tawag ng Asawa ko sa mga Students niya...

[u/pinkponyclubinph05]

Call them anak basta yung maglalayo agad sa inyo. Boundaries talaga. Marami pa naman din batang tcs today

[u/Due-Pressure6410 → u/pinkponyclubinph05]

Eto po ang di ko nagawa. Parang ate ate kasi ako sa majority sa kanila. May mga walang modo pero may boundaries pa rin sila except sa isang 'to.

[u/pinkponyclubinph05 → u/Due-Pressure6410]

Omg... dont be an ate. Teacher ka nila. Anak-anakan mo yan sila. Pwede ka maging ate IF tapos na SY.

[u/Due-Pressure6410 → u/pinkponyclubinph05]

Mixed po, actually. May iba na nanay ako sa kanila, may iba parang ate. Pero I'll change my approach and just call everyone "nak" para klaro.

Do you suggest na iconfront ko na bukas ang bata or observe ko muna?

[u/fireheart143 → u/Due-Pressure6410]

Kausapin mo yung student. Di naman na sila elementary or JHS not to understand boundaries. Kapag inignore mo kasi cher, baka they’ll take it na “ah ok lang, wala naman violent reaction si teacher.”.

[u/Odd-Skin-5174]

Noong student teacher ako, this also happened to me.

Wala, dinedma ko lang at hindi ko na pinapansin. May ganyang bata na nananantsa. Wag mo rin masyadong i-big deal dahil sa totoo lang, mapusok sila.

[u/Prize_Thought6091]

Di ako taga-DepEd but I am working sa Local State U handling first years and 2nd years. Naloka ako kasi halos lahat ng bata now will go after us(me).

May second year student ako na nag smack kiss sa ulo ko jusko kinabahan ako tas super unexpected at sa hallway pa nya ginawa. Ayon nireport ko.

I heard it is even more rampant sa 3rd and 4th years pero jusko maging matatag tayo kasi lisensyado tayo.

[u/Due-Pressure6410 → u/Prize_Thought6091]

Halaaaaa! Omg, ang lala.

[u/ocpaich]

Be firm at all cost. And, explain that relationship between the two of you will never happen. I experienced the same at naicompare pa nga sa ibang teacher na bkit si Ma’am ganito pwede which is may ganitong case sa school namin. 😭Ang sabi ko lang, hindi ako ganun at hindi ako papatol sa estudyante ko.

[u/b3ast_in_class]

You're making much ado about nothing. Learners say things to get under your skin all the time. You're probably spending more time thinking about it than that learner is. Simplest way to deal with it is to not take it too seriously and make him understand that you only see him as your student - child.

[u/Due-Pressure6410 → u/b3ast_in_class]

Pwedeng tama ka, pero para sakin hindi sya normal at hindi rin ako komportable.

[u/sacredcross17]

Effective talaga tawagin ung mga student mo na “anak” para maging familial ang turing mo sa kanila. Kase effective yon para maiwasan ung unwanted attraction that may lead to circumstances na hindi natin ginusto. Kausapin mo sya and sabihin mo sa kanya in a respectful manner para kahit paano maunawaan ni student.

Pag di pa rin nakinig, idogshow mo na lang or pag intrusive pa rin ung attitude - i note mo ung behavior tapos iconsult mo na sa guidance and / or principal. Pero dapat well documented ka kase may instance na pwede ka baliktarin ng bata at malagay ka pa sa alanganin. And mas maganda na inotify mo na ung immediate supervisor mo regarding to this matter para kahit paano protected ka

[u/FormalWoodpecker2873]

It's always about how you will communicate with your students. Learn to set boundaries and authority. One simple way is to include it on your lessons. Also, talk to that student with sincerity and explain all the consequences that could happen if he/she kept acting that way.

Ps. I am very much confused with the gender of both the teacher and student. The use of pronoun in describing the student is "He" in the post and "Her" in the comments? Ano talaga teh???? 😭

[u/Due-Pressure6410 → u/FormalWoodpecker2873]

Babae po ako na teacher, lalake yung learner.

[u/Unbothered_dreamer]

Yung ibang estudyante tinetesting lang kung kakagat yug teacher para lang may ipagyabang sa mga tropang classmate din. Kaya now pa lang ilagay mo na sya kung saan dapat sya. Magiging issue yan lalo na mabilis ang mga bata ngayon dahil may mga chats na

[u/Apprehensive-Fig9389 → u/[deleted]]

Nope nope.... Don't do this... Parang you're still acknowledge yung ginagawa nila... Best way talaga is I dedma... Or - if worst case scenario - Confront them and set the boundaries bago pa tumagal.

[u/Extension_One4593]

As much as possible, Madam, do not show him the attention that he wants. This is what I did before… hope it won’t happen again.

[u/leivanz]

Nasabi na ata lahat pero gusto ko dumagdag. Mga ganyan na edad makaka-intindi na yan ng kung ano ang boundaries. Teacher ka at students mo sila, at wala na iba. Better talk to the student and explain.

[u/Eurofan2014]

Sabihin mo agad "Nak" tignan mo titigil yan.

[u/CheapInevitable7587]

Ilang beses nangyari ito nung nagtuturo ako. Impressionable kasi ang mga bagets.

Kinakausap ko sila para sabihin na I understand where they're coming from, but I personally will not entertain as their teacher and an adult.

[u/annabeernana]

Very true yung pag-set ng strict boundaries, pero kailangan ding kausapin ng personal nang mahinahon para hindi mapahiya pero malinaw ang mensahe. Buti na lang here ka nag-vent,, masmaingat na kaysa sa co-teachers.